Dowry - it's money honey

Dowry - a word which turns your mouth into an acidic well the moment you hear it. Yet it's a reality most of the modern Indian women can't escapr from. I read this artcle today:

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/1327074.cms

and I was aghast.

I was curious to know: How many of you have had to come face to face with this bitter reality ? If you did how did you come to terms with it? Is there anyone of you out there who can give some justification for it's prevalance even today?

And do you think that it's going to stay this way even tomorrow, when we, the torch bearers against this evil, become the in laws and gain the opportunity to market our sons??

Please write your views.

Absolutley disgusting!!!🤢

The fact that a family is giving their daughter away, isn't that enough??

This is one reason why infanticide rates haven't gone down and why girls are being considered burdens till now.

Dowry isn't a way to get rich, it is supposed to be a nice gift from the brides side, and sometimes it isn't needed. These people think they can get richer quicker if they demand a high dowry. What for?? The dowry system needs to be majorly fixed up because this is absolutely ridiculous. The girl is so special and it is a blessing for the boy that she and her parents approved the him for her marriage.

I for one would not approve of these "gold-diggers"

~Monica~

Its a shame that the people in question, are supposed to be educated. As long as the perception of the Indian male that women are a commodity, this practice will remain. I have no sympathy for the ones who would come out in support of dowry - I pity them.

hmmm....dowry is indeed one of d biggest social evils of india..... d fact tat paremts treat their own daughters as liabilities n marry them off 2 ne greedy weirdo....is absolutely disgusting.....

n d worst part is tat all this education n stff...nothing seems 2 help d matter.... methinks d condition can only improve if theres a real bigtime...change in the attitude n mind sets of ppl.... its high time ppl realised wht gal power is all abt...wassaya??....

Dowry should be once and for all BANNED 🤢

well, i would happily pay a dowry if all the money was used only for me and my husband, but not to make him wealthier than he already is! 🤢

Having had spent most of my childhood in Shillong, I have had the experience of interacting with the local tribals Khasis and Jaintiyas a lot. There the society is matrilineal. A child is identified by the mother's name. Here the local Khasi and Jaintia tribesmen value their daughters who inherit all their ancestral property. Much of the property goes to the Ka Khadduh - the youngest daughter - who becomes the centre of attraction. In Meghalaya, women run family businesses, dominate the households and take all key family decisions. In Meghalaya, the sons get nothing.
There is no scope for dowry here in their society.

Decades of female foeticide and infanticide have finally caught up with the people of Haryana. With the sex ratio in Rohtak district down to 796 females per 1000 males and the rest of the state faring not much better, young men are desperate to get married but cannot find themselves brides

Two decades of female foeticide and infanticide have finally caught up with the Haryanvis. Thousands of young boys are desperate to get married, but there are no brides available.

Ram Kumar Hooda, member of the panchayat in Bhali village in Rohtak district, turns philosophical when describing this paucity of women. "The scarcity of marriageable girls in our state is akin to the shortage of grain in a famine," he says.

Gyano Devi, the sarpach of Mayna village in Panipat district, was accosted by six lanky Jat boys who warned her, "Tai, we will accept your sarpanchi only if you find brides for us."

The situation is so grim that families are resorting to buying girls from Madhya Pradesh, Bihar and West Bengal and passing them off as members of their own 'biradiri' (community).

Doughty old Bhagwani from Bhali village admits both her grandsons have settled for 'bahus' from Gohra village in the Sagar district of Madhya Pradesh. "What could we do? We consider a boy to have reached marriageable age after he turns 18. My grandsons were 27 and 28 years old. A close relative of ours whose son was 32 found a girl from Sagar district. We decided to follow suit," she says.

Ram Ratri, a woman member of the Bhali panchayat adds, "Polygamy is common in Haryana and men will marry twice and thrice in order to get a male child. I won't be surprised if, due to the shortage of brides, families start reverting to the earlier practice of polyandry where one bride was shared by the male members of a family."

Village elders are horrified at this trend. Balraj, a farmer, says, "With no jobs and no family responsibilities, young boys while their time away playing cards and boozing. We believe a boy gains adulthood at the age of 18. He must be married off by then. But these days, boys are entering their mid-30s and not finding a girl."


this is from a news article

under these kind of cirumstances and add to it that more and more women are getting educated and holding jobs and finding their own life partner i wonder how long the despicable system of dowry can sustain?