Hall of Shame - Page 10

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

He sympathized with Tiger too.

Sometimes men like Tiger and KSG are heroes for men. They have and do everything men dream off. 😛

j/k. Although, I agree that it takes two to tango. You simply cannot blame one person. If married people have affairs, then those who wittingly have relationships with married people are to blame too. Also sometimes, there is a reason someone cheats. I must add though a reason merely explains actions, puts them in context, but reason is not justification. Finally as much as one may hate the jerk who cheated, the fact is the breaking up is hard on them too.

Originally posted by: sunandshine

Read about the monster here:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ruchika_Girhotra_Case

Which brings me to the conclusion that Indian Judicial system sucks!

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

He sympathized with Tiger too.

Sometimes men like Tiger and KSG are heroes for men. They have and do everything men dream off. 😛

"of"😊 At least Tiger spared the ones he used to work with and interact with his family. Shraddha was there throughout JDJ when KSG was dancing with Nicole. She was supporting them throughout only to uncover what has been going on behind the closed doors. That, I feel, is pretty shattering.

j/k. Although, I agree that it takes two to tango. You simply cannot blame one person. If married people have affairs, then those who wittingly have relationships with married people are to blame too. Also sometimes, there is a reason someone cheats. I must add though a reason merely explains actions, puts them in context, but reason is not justification. Finally as much as one may hate the jerk who cheated, the fact is the breaking up is hard on them too.

True that but ONLY the married person is responsible for the trauma their family goes through. If they choose to not respect the marriage vows and stray then how is it the other person's fault? If not the other person, someone else will come along for the likes of KSG.

The other man/woman will get what they deserve if the married person breaks their marriage and marries them. You marry a cheater you get a cheater. Remember what happened to Sarika and Kama Hasan! I call that poetic justice😊

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Haha, of and off. Must concentrate on the right words.

A married person has an obligation or responsibility towards their family. They have a duty to fulfill the oaths they took. However, that does not make them the only person to blame for the trauma the family goes through.

A person who wittingly has an affair with a married person also is responsible for the trauma that the family goes through. Perhaps they do not know these people, nor do they have any commitment to uphold. However, common sense lets us know that families are interdependent and attached, and cheating adversely affects families. Common humanity also expects that people avoid deliberately doing things that will hurt people. When someone wittingly has an affair with a married person, they willingly choose to ignore common sense and common humanity. They put their own personal feelings and considerations before what the other spouse, children or other family members will feel or go through. Of course love is blind and people don't often think in these situations, they just act and react. But they are to blame. Perhaps not as much as the married person who broke their marriage vows, who ignored the emotions of the very family they are attached and committed to, of people they know and understand. But the blame for hurting family cannot be put on one person only.

Regarding KSG/Nicole/Shraddha etc. some things just don't add up in that thing.

Gauri, I totally agree with the cheater marrying a cheater statement you made!!! 😊Its after all karma

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

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Haha, of and off. Must concentrate on the right words.

then and than too😆 and since I mentioned too, to and too too😆 My major weak area used to be lose and loose. I still struggle between advice and advise at times. But then, I am not the one writing the GMAT😆

A married person has an obligation or responsibility towards their family. They have a duty to fulfill the oaths they took. However, that does not make them the only person to blame for the trauma the family goes through.

A person who wittingly has an affair with a married person also is responsible for the trauma that the family goes through. Perhaps they do not know these people, nor do they have any commitment to uphold. However, common sense lets us know that families are interdependent and attached, and cheating adversely affects families. Common humanity also expects that people avoid deliberately doing things that will hurt people. When someone wittingly has an affair with a married person, they willingly choose to ignore common sense and common humanity. They put their own personal feelings and considerations before what the other spouse, children or other family members will feel or go through. Of course love is blind and people don't often think in these situations, they just act and react. But they are to blame. Perhaps not as much as the married person who broke their marriage vows, who ignored the emotions of the very family they are attached and committed to, of people they know and understand. But the blame for hurting family cannot be put on one person only.

Oh yes! 100% with you here. If you are blaming the other person ALONG with the married person, I am all with you. I just hate it when some spouses/families blindly blame the other person and claim that their beloved spouse was brainwashed and taken for a ride.

Regarding KSG/Nicole/Shraddha etc. some things just don't add up in that thing.

I don't even know what exactly happened. Read here who KSG is and what he has been doing and jumped right in to this discussion😆 But isn't he involved with multiple women outside marriage?

Originally posted by: sunandshine

Gauri, I totally agree with the cheater marrying a cheater statement you made!!!😳

However, the married person is bound by vows that is true. But a person who falls for a married person is equally to be blamed. Both are guilty.

Originally posted by: Gauri_3

Yeah SAS. I do agree with you and RTH that the other person is to be blamed too. I have issues with those who claim that their spouse was brainwashed and try to put all the blame on the other person.

I am waiting for Sridevi to get a taste of her own medicine next😆 Inn log ko koi unmarried banda naheen miltaa kya!

So with you on that. I hate it when people blame only one person for an affair, it takes two to tango. I think people who claim that their spouses were brainwashed or helpless and that's why had affairs, are merely creating illusions for themselves because they cannot face the truth. Of course there is seduction and treachery at times, but no one is really that weak willed or stupid. There is a certain part of the person who willingly indulges in the affair.

People need to face up, that their spouse cheated and had an affair. They broke their marriage vows and did something wrong. They are at fault due to it. You have to blame both, not just the other person or just the spouse.

Although, I do disagree that once a cheater, always a cheater. Some people do make very poor judgment calls that they regret and truly feel sorry for. People change their perspectives over the course of life, and people do change. Each couple and each situation is unique and they have to decide what is the best. However, there will always be the fact that they cheated once and they can do it again. It is more about finding the balance between denial and blame game and trying to do what's best, and there is no correct answer.

Originally posted by: sunandshine

Read about the monster here:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ruchika_Girhotra_Case

Which brings me to the conclusion that Indian Judicial system sucks!

Originally posted by: sunandshine

Gauri, I totally agree with the cheater marrying a cheater statement you made!!! 😊Its after all karma

A married person is bound by vows that is true. But a person who falls for a married person is equally to be blamed. Both are guilty, bult the guilt associated with a married man is more.

Coming to Shraddha-Nicole and KSG, well, Shradhha knowingly married a person who was known to be a philanderer even before she got hitched to him😕