Originally posted by: jinc118
I didn't say that Rads doesn't understand love. But what i had said what that she has never experienced the kind of love that Dev is showering her with.. its new and usually people are scared of new experiences. but when its also thrillinig and makes you feel good.. you like to try it. That should have been Rads first reaction to Dev. But that attraction was not given as chance to makes its place firm in her heart is what i was saying.
On Radh feeling for love, we are on the same wavelength. Radh isnt giving love to bloom and as u said earlier "heart on leash", that sums it up aptly.
Whether her sacrifice works or not is not in her hands.. and she cannot forsee that it will only cause suffering. What she sees is that if she tells Dev the truth it will for sure ruin Vishakha's life and more over the life of Shashtris in Vrindavan.. they no longer will be able to live in the pious city when people come to know and their "rozi-roti" that comes from performing poojas in mandirs will be cut. How can she be the catalyst for that tragedy on the family that has bread her for all these years. Whether you agree they loved her or not.. even for a second if I put aside that some of them see her as family and go with you judgement that she is no more than a servant to all of them.. even then.. they have provided for her..they took the decision to take her in as an infant when obviously they wouldn't have made her a servant of the house. She probably started being "useful" to them much much later.. but they bread her till then... so i completely justify her efforts to keep their peace and happiness intact.
I agree with u that whether sacrifice gives the desirable result isnt in her hands. After Dev told her firmly that for him only she is befitting to be his wife and he did rather leave the city than succumb to the dictat. Vish is out of the pic, much more so since Radh is aware that Dev doesnt know she and Vish are sisters. Radh was unfortunately made the scapegoat when Amma-Devki substituted her. Even if Dev didnt love her still upholding the sanctity of rituals she is his wife. I mean whether Radh likes it or not she is already the 'bakri'š. The truth will come out and the later it comes the more harm it will cause to Shastri parivar, unless of course Dev goes out of his way & accepts Vish. For this to happen, both Dev and Vish need to put their hearts on leashesšš. As regards to rearing her, I am sorry but I abhor Shastri's for their maltreatment. People treat dogs better.
As for her knowing Vish's intentions.. what Vish told her is that she shouldn't care for a husband who doesn't care for her back. Those were Vish's exact words.. so Rads is obviously going to take that to mean that if Dev were to accept her and love her then she would not be going after her carreer like this. But since Dev is ignoring her.. she is looking for other avenues for her happiness. Thats the reason she thinks having Dev forget her and accept VIsh will work out for the better. And even after that.. she is seen praying to Kanha that he have Dev accept Vish as all Rads can do is keep Dev away from herself. She is doing what she can.. and leaving the rest to God to make right.
Vish always wished to be an actress and it was only when Radh tried to reason in the name of Dev-husband that Vish used the pretext of his cold behr. Had Dev not clearly shared his feelings it wld have hold weight that Radh tries to sacrifice but after Dev categorically dismissing off the marriage and societal dictats, the sacrifice is futile. Vish wld have still persisted with her career had Dev been loving her, this wld have enhanced her prospects. Vish never really participated in household chores nor was she interested in marriage thats why she ran away on her wedding night to meet Purab, doesnt that ring a bell to Radh that Vish isnt interested in marriage!! Precisely my point that only praying cannot yeild result, one needs to examine options and act accordingly. What Radh is doing is tying wrong edges.
Now about Rads being oblivious to what Kanha wants.. tbh.. i stilll have no clue what Kanha wants. Rads is human.. a very simple gullible human at that. What she knows of god is from what she has learned from Shashtris.. when the Shashtri Amma says that Vish is Dev's wife according to Shashtr.. then Rads has no argument against it. She does not believe otherwise. Its another story that Kanha is trying to show her its otherwise.. but she is not fully understanding that point.. she is not the brightest human being.. so Kanha will have to do more than signs and symbols and talking in metaphors.. but ofcourse Gods are not known to be clear about their intentions.. eventually Kanha's intentions will be made clear to everyone.. till then don't blame the dense girl.
Since the creatives have shown Kanha guiding her and talking to her, Radh listens and acts as per His wishes hence I thought she shd think abt His words. Kanha is the only true friend she has. Besides as per the article abt the show I thought it wld be great if the creatives explore this, to show us detail converstation betn Kanha and Radh and build on this, rather than leaving it haphazardly. My basis lies on what Kanha said to Radh that do u know what I want? I hope it was not mere words! It has some deeper meaning attached to it.
Rads not doing her karm??? you mean her duty as wife??? but when she doesn't believe herself to be Dev's wife.. how does the duty apply to her. She is misguided thanx to Amma and until that misgiving about her own rights is not cleared from her head there is no point in expecting her to behave as wife and lover. She keeps repeating how all rights belong to Vish.. cause thats her belief now.. so how will she act otherwise. She won't even allow herself to feel pain for Dev because its a sin as far as she is concerned. It will only change when she accepts that she has any rights as Dev's wife and choti bahu.
No,not as a wife right now. I meant that Radh must attempt to solve the predicament of her life, esp after Dev revealing his true feelings and being aware of the depth and purity of his love. Radh sacrifice isnt deluding Vish or Dev from their goals, hence she needs to wake up to realise that something else needs to be done. Amma can misguide her but Radh faith and bhakti for Kanha is more powerful and can lead her to the righteous path. I believe Kanha is guiding her towards her destiny but she has to actually take the walk.
I am very angry with Devki so won't say anything. but Rads is not supporting wrong in her mind.. she believes Amma's logic to be the truth and thats what she is supporting.
Me too, Devki pretends to be caring towards Radh but when it involves Vish she turns into Amma-2 minus the loud curses. Devki too dotes on Vish just like Amma but only her way is less glaring. She didnt teach Vish how to cook and was lecturing Radh on the 'kannkar' in rice!
The only hope is Shastri-ji or else I think may be Dev's Daadi will find the photo.
