Doesnt Dev deserve?

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Posted: 16 years ago

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I dont' think Rads owes Dev anything for him confessing his obsession with her. I find Rads a less impractical person than Dev (notice i didn't call her practical really😆).. but Dev's love has me surprised too as i don't see how a man can be so deeply in love with a mystery girl he doesn't even know the damn name of.. to go to such extents. So if Rads doesn't take his feelings seriously.. i'd understand.. because maybe its the unromantic person that i am.. if a guy i bumped into a few times and thought was attracted to behaved like Dev has with Rads i'd think he's a lunatic and completely avoid him. Putting that bias aside😆 i feel that Rads probably thinks Dev's love is a fad.. that he'll get over it and can she be faulted for thinking so. Looking at the facts.. how can she believe that their's is a deeper bond.. they've barely exchanged a few words.

Rads should try to understand and reflect on Kanha's words but Kanha is too tricky for her to figure it out yet na.. because if tries to get to the root of Kanha's meanings.. then the conclusion will leave her astounded as its completely against everything she's been taught since childhood.. that she is "achoot" of types.. that she has no right to happiness.. that she is "ashub" etc etc etc. Things she believes about herself.. so when the conclusion is something so against your beliefs its not the first thought that comes to mind when introspecting. It will take her time to figure it out.

And Vish may not have any interest in house work while at home.. doesn't mean she is not interested in marriage and life after marriage. My mom proudly tells everyone i make the world's best chai.. but the truth is chai is all i know how to make.🤔 Doesn't mean i am going to be a bad wife or that i won't learn cooking after marriage. I know so many women who don't step into a kitchen and then learn cooking after getting married.. they become more responsible.. because they have no other choice... Rads has the same thought process for Vish. She still doesn't understand VIsh's deepest desire is to be an actress and not be tied down.. and partly that is what Vishakha's frustration is with her family that none of them understand her aspirations or take it seriously. Therefore she care little for their dreams for her and their happiness.. and she uses them to put herself forward... she is not evil..selfish.. yes but not evil. There is a bit of immaturity in her which goes away after facing some tough times and some failures in life.. Vish has never had a hard life. She's only known how to get what she wants.

ok i'll stop cause this isn't about Vish.😆 I can ramble so much.😳

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Simone2006747

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Posted: 16 years ago

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"Doesnt Dev deserve someone better than Radh? Someone who loves him in retn, at least, not comparing more or less."
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Point noted. But this new lady (wife?) has to be a very nice woman (actually a strong, positive personality). I say "wife" because Dev's family is a conservative one and they want a heir to carry on the Purohit name. So a loving, lady-friend is out of the question.

In a nutshell - the new wife knows that her husband loves another woman. She is happy to share his sorrows and gracefully accepts the fact that she will never replace "her". She has all the characteristics of the Purohit family Chhoti Bahu and everyone loves her.

Given the complexity of the situation, the new lady's character may at times overshadow Radhika's character. But the title of the serial is "C-B, Sindoor Bina Suhagaan" and the title points to Radhika. So how do we justify the **need** for the second woman / wife?

Now I read another thread which discusses that Radhika is to be re-married. If that happens, and Vishakha runs away, then your suggestion is a strong possibility. Dev is pressured to re-marry and his second wife is everything that he ever wanted in a woman except that she is not Radhika.

The creative team will be challenged - they cannot diminish Radhika's role (even though she is married to another man, her heart belongs to Dev) ... and the second wife who is the ideal soulmate.

Ah!!! I like your suggestion because the audience will have a difficult time trying to choose between two good women (unlike now where we have Radhika v/s Vishakha).

Now, do Dev and Radhika have to meet? If yes, then what happens to the second wife, the woman who took care of Dev's needs (and got nothing in return) ?

Hmmm, more tension. It will be interesting to see how folks at this forum react ...

Edited by simi2006747 - 16 years ago

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kristie

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Posted: 16 years ago

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I am not used to writing long posts. I am really surprised to see so many LONG posts here.

Radhika loves Dev and it is very clear. But since she is from a small town(or village), we have to keep in mind the culture and traditions of the family she is from. Dev is an educated guy and just returned from US. It is easy for him to say that he loves her(though he took a lot of time for saying that). How can we expect the same from Radhika?
Also, she doesn't clearly know what love is. Whatever she knows about love is from the shastras she read or heard. So, love would be a special feeling for her. After meeting Dev for few times, she remembers him constantly and questions Kanah why is she developing such feelings for a stranger. When she came to know that Dev and Vish were getting married, she felt devastated and she couldn't nikaalo Dev from her heart. She even cries in front of Kanah and asks him to make her forget Dev. Are these not enough to say that she loves him? We can not expect Radhika to go around expressing her love for him or even give a reply to him regarding the same. That kills the character. Though we may love to see her express her love openly, it is quite against her character, which we love so much.
As far as the expression on Dev's face when he sees the wound on Radhika's foot is concerned, I am sure Radhika would have cried if she was in Dev's position.
The question everyone has is why would she want to unite Vish and Dev if only she loves Dev. Though she loves Dev a lot, her gratitude for her Maa, Bauji outweigh the love she has for Dev. Though she thinks that she must do this and that for Vish, the ultimate thing she cares about is her Maa, Bapu's izzat and happiness. She is grateful to her parents because they gave her life and she is happy to be their daughter. So, she chooses to stay away from her love for her parents.
Dev loves his Daadi very much. If he has to choose between her Daadi and Radhika, I am not sure if he would choose Radhika but does that mean that he doesn't love Radhika? No...... It is just choosing between two things.... That is the same thing Radhika is doing. Choosing her Maa, Baapu's happiness over her love.

Edited by kristie12 - 16 years ago

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realitybites

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Posted: 16 years ago

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Yes while you are right that Radh doesnt owe anything to Dev, it wld have been fair had she told him to ward off. But she isnt and somewhere she enjoys his attn. See if she tells him clearly I dont like you or cant tolerate u, the poor guy can move on but she isnt doing that instead Radh is leading the man into a thrilling game which most men enjoy; the chase and win😆. If Dev behr causes distension to Radh she needs to speak up. She cant have best of both the worlds. Now why Dev loves Radh, well most men as I have read and heard meet a girl and say this is the girl I want to marry, u can chose to call it love at first sight. Even celebrity men have mentioned this quite often, the most recent I remember is Hrithik and perhaps SRK also. Abt not knowing Radh name and how on earth can the brides be swapped😆 I wld say thats serialistic liberty😆

On Radh-Kanha I think the creatives started with portraying a deep spiritual bond and somewhere left it, hope they rebuild it. I do wish they show this beautifully😳

Its not abt having interest and not doing it. Vish told Radh that her life is not meant to be spent doing household chores and she meant to be an actress.Vish chooses to become an actress and I find nothing wrong in that. She is clear abt her ambitions, we may ques her methods thats another matter. I never said that cooking = good wife😆 I dont make or believe in such warped concepts, infact Neerja wife of Kumarmangalam Birla doesnt know how to cook? I do cook well but that doesnt mean I wld like to spend my life doing just that😆. Like u mentioned the cultural backgrd and practices of Vrindavan and keeping that in mind Dev's family wants a bride fits well into their expectations and that is doing Household chores skillfully. I didnt say Vish is evil but manipulative to the core. Her focus is her dream thats all, other things hold little value.

Ok quite a lot of points and still so much more to say!😆 Oh Radh😛

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Posted: 16 years ago

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Originally posted by: simi2006747

"Doesnt Dev deserve someone better than Radh? Someone who loves him in retn, at least, not comparing more or less."
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Point noted. But this new lady (wife?) has to be a very nice woman (actually a strong, positive personality). I say "wife" because Dev's family is a conservative one and they want a heir to carry on the Purohit name. So a loving, lady-friend is out of the question.

Yes we wld want her to be strong to withstand the coldness of Dev & nice and caring just like Daadi and Vaishali. Yeah a GF/Live in is out of quesn😆.
In a nutshell - the new wife knows that her husband loves another woman. She is happy to share his sorrows and gracefully accepts the fact that she will never replace "her". She has all the characteristics of the Purohit family Chhoti Bahu and everyone loves her.

I wld say the archetypical Bahu😆 sacrificing, selfless, untiring, unflagging. Silent sufferer, mute and hapless.

Given the complexity of the situation, the new lady's character may at times overshadow Radhika's character. But the title of the serial is "C-B, Sindoor Bina Suhagaan" and the title points to Radhika. So how do we justify the **need** for the second woman / wife?

The new wife wld take the place of Vish who was the actress bahu so unbecoming of Purohit bahu😆. What to do, Vish runs away, Radh is into sacrificing mode hence there is no other option but to go ahead for a quadrangle😕😆 ( Vish-Radh-Dev-X). This way Radh is not the cause of Purohit family and nor does she disgrace Shastri's.

Now I read another thread which discusses that Radhika is to be re-married. If that happens, and Vishakha runs away, then your suggestion is a strong possibility. Dev is pressured to re-marry and his second wife is everything that he ever wanted in a woman except that she is not Radhika.

Now looking at from serials history that wont happen, since Radh was actually married to Dev hence an already married woman cant be married again. But still if this story changes then Dev wld be pressurized as the medicines with Vaishali hinted, Senior Purohit is ill. So his dying wish is to see his grandchildren ( now he cant demand a grandson😆)

The creative team will be challenged - they cannot diminish Radhika's role (even though she is married to another man, her heart belongs to Dev) ... and the second wife who is the ideal soulmate.

Ah!!! I like your suggestion because the audience will have a difficult time trying to choose between two good women (unlike now where we have Radhika v/s Vishakha).

Thats a really interesting proposition very tough to get out without being rebuked by both ends. Yeah Radh vs Vish was easy but shd the new sitn arise, how wld it be felt so as to result in a fair decn?

Now, do Dev and Radhika have to meet? If yes, then what happens to the second wife, the woman who took care of Dev's needs (and got nothing in return) ?

May be she dies of cancer, what else😆( have u heard of any other disease in hindi serials/movies) That way all ends well, isnt it😉😆 Of course the viewers had a bumpy ride!!😆

Hmmm, more tension. It will be interesting to see how folks at this forum react ...

Yeah eager to see the reaction... Thanks for the interesting views😳and putting difft prospects.

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realitybites

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Posted: 16 years ago

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kristie12> Oh welcome aboard🤗. CB is at a very interesting point and how the story turns will decide its future.

Thats understandable no one wants Radh to scream out loud that she loves Dev! what is desirable is some sense, some feeling of reciprocation or clarify what she feels more so after Dev poured out his heart. If she isnt interested then stop playing the catch me if u can game.

Radh wld have defi felt pained upon seeing the wound on Dev foot but judging from her reactions, she wld run away😆, ok she wld also try to bandage it. Radh feels that by this sacrifice she is going to pay back the gratitude to Shastri's. Wld the Shastri's acknowledge it, NO. Amma doesnt care, Devki wants Vish happiness and Mr Shastri himself is unaware so all this works out only in Radh mind and till the family frees her she will always remain indebted. So does all this really happen? No.

If Dev had to choose then he wld chose Radh as he told her so, altho in difft reference. He told her that if someone tries to stop him from meeting Radh then he did rather leave the place.

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kristie

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Posted: 16 years ago

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Thanks RB....😊
I am not saying that Radhika is trying to pay back the gratitude. She feels that it is her duty to save her Bapu's izzat. Whatever we think about the way Devki and Amma ji are treating her, she is happy with her life. We know that Amma is rude to her and Devki is not doing the right thing but Radhika doesn't think so. She loves her mom and has a great respect for Amma ji. We can not change her because she doesn't find any fault with the way they behave. Never once did she complain about how she is being treated, not even to Kanah... so, she is PERFECTLY HAPPY with the way her life is going and the way she is being treated. So, the point of why she should pay back doesn't arise. Also, she is doing only the thing what she thinks her duty is.
As far as Dev choosing between his Dadi and Radhika is concerned, I still stick to Dadi. If she is about to die and if she wants him to live with Vishaka and for that he has to forget Radhika, he would definitely do that, though not wholeheartedly.

I don't reallt know how I started watching this show. I am actually against saas-bahu soaps and rona-dhona acts. Even before the show started, ' regular rona-dhona soap ' is written all over the show. But still I started watching the soap and loved it. It amazes me at times.

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realitybites

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Posted: 16 years ago

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Welcome kristie12 & great points😊

It does not seem that Radh is happy living the life of a servant🤢no one wld. She cries, is pained but tolerates the sitn. Her docile behr is becoz she feels ingratious towards shastri's you wld agree that everyone has emotions, wishes/desires and aspirations. Radh does too but she is restraining herself and sometimes shares the sorrow with Kanha. If you watch todays epi, it clearly shows that Radh is habitual to allegations put forth by Amma and this doesnt bother her much. But Devki's anger disturbs her and she wants to resolve it. To whom wld she complain and how dare she? The Shastri's never gave her that much affection or belongingness that makes her feel wanted or cared for hence she cant even dream of enjoying that right. The moment you use duty it forgoes love & aspirations.

You are bang on right abt Dev choosing Daadi! Today the way Dev spoke abt it, it seemed as if the creatives read this ques being put up😆😆 and felt they had to ans this one!

Yeah initially I too hadnt watched it but somewhere Dev-Radh, Vish, Amma and Kanha are touching the viewers chord. Lets hope we see more interesting tracks.😊

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