Radhika ...Mahaan...Heartless or what ? - Page 2

hey y radhika tryin to become mahaan... i dont understand...,
kahnaaa cant image dev with barhkha...
im gettin anger on radhika...

Originally posted by: Myra.nelly

Very well said neerja!

Many may judge a book by its cover...but we know what precious content it has...radhika has the power to understand and do things better but cause of that promise and her weakness dev,for whom she kn go to any extent,she transforme d herself like this...For her to change back she needs to let dev talk,comunication is the key...talk the problem,find ways to get out of the society and responsability knot...a knot that its to tight by her own mind...loosen up her thoughts and open up to dev is her cure...As she acts rite now,the love is forgoten there in a corner...its sad cause in her "mission" harms it and surpress it in extreme protection and sacrifice to save dev's name...Release urself radh,open up to ur love dev...

Thank you Myra , Radhika was hovering in my mind after reading negative comments about her , in yesterday episode , they showed her like she does not care for Dev , which does not fit with her character ...So wanted to write from her point of view ...She is my fav. character and should be given voice ..

Originally posted by: radhika5

Neerja--you have made some excellent points regarding radhika's current state of mind and why her responses are what they are..I especially liked your following points (and couldn't explain it any better--so using your words)...

"I was thinking from past few days , is Radhika trying to be Mahaan as many think or on the way of self-destruction ...Those who understand Radhika , will also understand her mental agony , which she is going through ...Why people want her to act different , when her nature is like this ...She does not want Dev,s image to be tarnished because of her ...Her love is unconditional , not asking for anything for herself ...

Yes RP has done a great job by filling her mind with society norms thus left her guilty conscience and almost killing her soul ...She think her marriage is the cause of RP,s death .. ...Yes about society, people are like this, they would not let you forget your past if living in small place like Mathura ..

Shanti's accusations further solidified her resolve and by the decisions Radhika is making, she is hurting herself more, when she is hurting Dev, when he is the reason of her existence ..., Yes and that is why she is distancing herself from him slowly ...

Sometimes you feel anger at her or want to to protect her, She needs someone , who could put some sense in her , and bring her out from guilt ridden conscience that is eating her slowly '..She needs guidance as she is young..."

And as you said Dev will help her here and Kanha will see her through this hurdle and will Dev and Radhika even closer...

Thanks Radhika5, yes it has to be Dev who will with patience and love bring her out of this black-whole , which is sucking her soul ...Yes her Kanha is there , how He will leave her in her need ...

Originally posted by: NiHa24

great post Neerja.
and also Radh has a great fear, she thinks that if she accepts this relation then there will be a mark on their relation saying because of their selfishness RPji died!!!, we know the truth that what happened, but does the society really care for the truth before talking out such statements?

She could bear anything but not such statements on their relation, esp how she can see people pointing fingers at her KK.

She has become "Khator" (eng?? rock hearted).
yeah and also shanthi's words did effect her. not only shanthi's words but also the words of RPji before he had first heart attack and also maheswari's...
When a person goes through so much it will make them very depressed.

SO to make it right, to prove everybody wrong she subconsciously accepted RPji's decision and believes what ever RPji said is right...and she's following it.

And also i think Dev is really supporting her, not in her adharm but is with her( as her ummeed).
He knows whatever she's doing, is wrong but he's still reasoning with her, being poliet, being loving. He could have been rude to her and put his decision on her, but he didnt do anything like this. He is still giving her space, he's reasoning with her. He's trying to understand her and making her understand...

But at one point he has to control her, just waiting to see that.
or it will go vice versa()
lets see.

Thank you Niha , it was someone who asked me to write some thing about Radhika , i was not having good feelings the way she was shown yesterday as if she does not care for her , when its Dev who is the core of her existence , for him she never cared about society norms , is now scared of the same society , that also because of him .Radhika,s character needs dialogues , people now have negative views about her, she has to express her reasons for her actions ..

Originally posted by: anu17

di really lovely post...want to comment long but after go home

Thank you Anu , love to read your comments ...

Originally posted by: lavalina

Ya neerjha u r right infak radhika don't know herself in wich direction she has to go she needs some1 to guide her she need to come out to the real world wer she has to fight and in this i hope some1 will help her either Dev, Kahna or the evilness of rohan or may be the words of bharkha but i don't know someone must do this

Thank you lavalina , she really needs some one to guide her , who better then her soul-mate or her Kanha..

Radhika at present is one cornored confused soul who has been fed and feeling that only DD type of Dharma is correct and as it is the welfare of Dev ,who is her heart and soul ,so she is misguided and thinks what she is doing is correct and most beneficial to Dev so she is behaving like this. She is not mahaan or heartless but only doing it for Dev not realising she is wrong as all round her are demanding that so she is thinking they are correct and following that. My full sympathies with Radhika the misguided soul .

Radhika is not mahaan nor is she heartless...she is brainwahsed, scared, feeling guilty and responsible for dada's death.,..she is continuously being reminded that she not fit for Dev...her self esteem is rock bottom and she is completely lost and manipulted...what she is undergoing is horible and no human being should be subjected to this much pain...she needs sympathy and a helping hand...she will lash out but the helping hand has to have the patience to keep on reaching out and to break the walls that she has build around herself...

Originally posted by: zeezee55

I agree that Radhika is in a dilemmna and she is confused. Unfortunately she has been blinkered by DDJi. I totally agree with the statement that Dev is polite etc (see highlight). He has shown much more maturity and understanding than Radhika. In fact, he respects Radhika enough not to force her to his way of thinking but instead he is trying to make her see how he feels and hopes to persuade her to see what is right and what is wrong at her pace and understanding.

Unfortunately Radhika, perhaps due to a fear of breaking down, refuses to see Dev's suffering and only focuses on DDJi's promise and the effect it would have on the Purohit family.
Yes you are right , that's why she is creating distance between Dev and herself and avoiding him
In her blindness, she is forcing Dev into a lose-lose situation which can have repercussions in the future. She is not looking at Dev's needs as she has put the family first and her husband second. If she would only see Dev's needs and if she can only see herself as a wife and a soulmate who must help her life partner...perhaps she would think differently. If she can see that her course of action will make Dev unhappy (and I am sure he will never recover from this blow) she would instead stand by him, tell the truth to society and see what happens (as Dev had suggested) and STAND BY HER MAN and help him through the bad patch, perhaps even to help society understand what is moral and what is immoral.
Yes , she should , for that someone has to guide her and point out to her what she is doing is not right
She is not fair to soceity as she has not even given society a chance to react to the truth, she and DDJ are assuming society will point a finger ... all because an uneducated villager who is a wife-abuser pointed a finger at Radhika - how can DDJ base society's reaction based on that one man's words... the folly of it all.

It was not the only one person who pointed finger at her , when she was in her home then people were also saying the same thing , then Shanti in her bitterness accused her with same , ...In small place like Mathura ,In a conservative set up with narrow mentality , not a easy job ... People are going to talk as you become the public figure , yes with Dev,s support , who is strong-willed person , she can slowly come out of this vacuum , which is created by RP,s promise also ...,

Originally posted by: misti73

Radhika is not mahaan nor is she heartless...she is brainwahsed, scared, feeling guilty and responsible for dada's death.,..she is continuously being reminded that she not fit for Dev...her self esteem is rock bottom and she is completely lost and manipulted...what she is undergoing is horible and no human being should be subjected to this much pain...she needs sympathy and a helping hand...she will lash out but the helping hand has to have the patience to keep on reaching out and to break the walls that she has build around herself...

Yes, this family is heartless. Dai is at the top of this list. At this point, Dev cannot penetrate her walls because he himself is lost in grief and is fighting the entire family by himself with no support. Also he has this whole responsibility that Dada put on him. So Radhika needs somebody like Chaya who is now older, well wisher of Dev and Radhika and has herself gone through the same treatment at hands of Dada. The experience and wisdom gained by age and maturity combined with love for Dev would make her show Radhika the true path. Dev has the patience and love to deal with Radhika but he doesn't have time on his side because rajtilak date is approaching.