Guilt, Remorse, and Action

Guilt, Remorse, and Action'

Since the last few episodes, I kept thinking about Dev, and Radhika's actions' and wondering why they behaved the way they did' and each one of us will have our perspective about this-----so here is mine'.

To me our actions and our behavior is not always logical and cannot necessarily be well reasoned' and that is because of the complexities brought into play because of the guilt we may feel, remorse towards what we did and these ultimately affect our actions''.

Dev was and is ready to defend his marriage to Radhika because he believes they did not do anything wrong. They did not lie to get married.' They were the victims of somebody else's lies. But Amba now is making him feel guilty, guilty about not taking into consideration the impact on the RPship' by calling him selfish. Will Dev's guilt paralyze him? Although his heart knows that what they have done is not wrong---the guilt that he will be made to feel will affect his actions'until he can overcome it'..

Radhika on the other hand is full of remorse' which is much deeper and a more powerful feeling' she genuinely regrets the choice she made and only way out for her is repentance...her actions will reflect that and she will gladly accept the "punishment" allotted to her'...Her actions will show her inner strength and resolve to "suffer" to safeguard the family honor'...And ultimately it is this quality of hers that will endear her to the family and the society'.

Radhika's remorse may lead her to take the decision in her hands, and maybe she will try to convince Dev to agree with her plan and even if initially Dev will state his stance to Radhika.. ..but the guilt in him may force him to accept Radhika's action/decision.. '

The person who in my opinion needs to feel remorse is Dadaji who has done many wrongful things in his life' may be it was his "guilt" that "paralyzed" him physically, but he may not get an opportunity to be remorseful and hence will not have redemption'

Liked your Perspective about Dev and Radhka and their situations...They both are standing alone with their guilt for which they are not responsible ...You have very well written their inner turmoil ...I liked the way you have shown it in new perspective ...You feel sad for them ...But i feel sad for Barkha also , who without any selfish motive wanted happiness for her friend but became the reason of her unhappiness ...As for Dada Ji you never know , may be will repent for his wrongs ...

Radhika very well written. Even after Amba putting guilt on Dev, Dev was very firm in his believe that no one needs to tell him how he feels about Dadaji, but leaving his wife would also be adharm. So I don't he will go against his believes...only person who can convince him is his Radhika...as he said he will support his wife in any circumstances. Radhika feels remorse that has been happening to dadaji...thus her action is leading her to keep her marriage to Dev secret to restore Dadaji's reputation in society. Radhika is stronger than all of us to take up such action for the betterment of her parivaar. If the truth comes out...that would create a big havoc in society. Barkha's thinking is linear, she did not think outside the consequences of what will happen to Purohit family. Barkha's actions has ruin Radhika's reputation...everyone is pointing at her for Barkha's actions. Lets see how these actions unfolds in coming weeks...

Originally posted by: Neerjaa

Liked your Perspective about Dev and Radhka and their situations...They both are standing alone with their guilt for which they are not responsible ...You have very well written their inner turmoil ...I liked the way you have shown it in new perspective ...You feel sad for them ...But i feel sad for Barkha also , who without any selfish motive wanted happiness for her friend but became the reason of her unhappiness ...As for Dada Ji you never know , may be will repent for his wrongs ...

Thanks Neerja---

Guilt and remorse can distort reasoning and logic and will make you act in ways, you would not have otherwise and that is the situation with Dev and Radhika...

And Barkha too---she was just trying to help and her actions has brought lot of pain...Her guilt will also come into play in possibly agreeing to Radhika's plan...

I am looking forward to seeing how all this plays out...

Thank you radhka5. a needed post for me.. because when radhika was taking that decision by herself, i felt so bad, but your analysis made me to connect it better... yes, poor Dev, his guilt may let him accept the demand of radhika,... but he will remain true to his inner mind... that will be nice to watch out...

DD is unrepentent and adharmi and all will make RADEV feel guilty remorseful and this will lead to more Adarma in the family and the family itself will bear the burnt of it till they release why they all are suffering maybe Kashi Maharaj may come again and and tell them all these troubles are because you are troubling 2 pure souls who are lovers and married . or the troubles will not go away and slowly all will release what is happening. 12 years back on a very auspicious andholy day RADEV got married and seperated and from then on DD ir repaying for their seperation and when Radhika came to PB he was cured and today again if he perpetuated more adharma on them then again he will have to repay. well lets see what the CVs show

Originally posted by: Tazzi

Radhika very well written. Even after Amba putting guilt on Dev, Dev was very firm in his believe that no one needs to tell him how he feels about Dadaji, but leaving his wife would also be adharm. So I don't he will go against his believes...only person who can convince him is his Radhika...as he said he will support his wife in any circumstances. Radhika feels remorse that has been happening to dadaji...thus her action is leading her to keep her marriage to Dev secret to restore Dadaji's reputation in society. Radhika is stronger than all of us to take up such action for the betterment of her parivaar. If the truth comes out...that would create a big havoc in society. Barkha's thinking is linear, she did not think outside the consequences of what will happen to Purohit family. Barkha's actions has ruin Radhika's reputation...everyone is pointing at her for Barkha's actions. Lets see how these actions unfolds in coming weeks...

Everyone thinks they're doing the right thing. Barkha thought she is helpind Radev, Radhika thinks she helping Dadaji/Purohits. In this situation, in POV, no one is right or wrong including Dev.

Thanks Tazzi--

Although Dev is firm in his belief, and will not necessarily agree with Radhika's plan of action, his guilt and (as you said) his support for his wife, will make him go along with Radhika's plan...


And although it was Barkha who lied...it is Radhika who will pay for the lies, as she is the future Rajpurohitain...Society will need to realize the sacrifices she made to save the honor of her family, and also to save the RPship...radhika's feeling is deeper and she is more remorseful as she had previously promised RP that she will walk away...and this remorse will drive her to take steps to rectify the issues...

And as you said there is no right or wrong---as our POV can also change...

Originally posted by: Devika.

Thank you radhka5. a needed post for me.. because when radhika was taking that decision by herself, i felt so bad, but your analysis made me to connect it better... yes, poor Dev, his guilt may let him accept the demand of radhika,... but he will remain true to his inner mind... that will be nice to watch out...

also BB may utilize the plot well, she may want to declare dev as not suitable for the post. so how long they will be able to hide it from the public will remain a question, the family knows, it is now between the society and family honor..

all are in game .. to reason self, to find that relief, but looking forward for dadaji's realization... will it happen???

Devika

Thanks Devika...
Guilt comes from the mind and not from the heart...even when one feels guilty, the heart does not change...So for Dev even if he goes along with the plan..his heart will always consider Radhika as his wife and will always support her in all her actions...and his heart knows they did not do any adharma...and as a result, he will be able to overcome his guilt and fight back to restore the trust of the family and society towards Radhika and restablish her status in the PH and the society...

And as you said there are other players, who will also play their part in this game of greed and power...

when i thought of dev and his guilt as you analysed... one of the famous malayalam movie dialogue came into my mind. ./.."when guilt take over ones mind, then whatever you do, will be like a machine work"... it just goes with the flow, you won't be able to think and act...

DD is unrepentent and adharmi and all will make RADEV feel guilty remorseful and this will lead to more Adarma in the family and the family itself will bear the burnt of it till they release why they all are suffering maybe Kashi Maharaj may come again and and tell them all these troubles are because you are troubling 2 pure souls who are lovers and married . or the troubles will not go away and slowly all will release what is happening. 12 years back on a very auspicious andholy day RADEV got married and seperated and from then on DD ir repaying for their seperation and when Radhika came to PB he was cured and today again if he perpetuated more adharma on them then again he will have to repay. well lets see what the CVs show
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Thanks Chalhov...

Yes, so far it appears that Dadaji is unrepentant...Kashi Maharaj had predicted that when CB enters the PH, things will improve-----

The first time Radhika entered, Dadaji's health improved... and he got physically better...but it did not improve his beliefs...This time Radhika's entry will help change the beliefs and bring about justice to those who have suffered at the hands of Dadaji...