Today, I am embarrassed to be a Sanaya Fan - Page 5

Originally posted by: jaya100

To each their own - If you feel that you have to defend Sanaya and only then you can be her fan or vice versa then there is nothing much I can say here. I guess because to my mind that's the difference between a fan and an admirer. I might admire an actor for his work but when others abuse him then it doesn't really affect me apart from either agreeing or disagreeing with the point. For me fandom means something different and honestly this is the first time in my life I've been a fan of anyone and I'm not young and yes it does bother me when people bash Sanaya. When fans do it I take it with a pinch of salt but when another actor points fingers then yes the defense mechanism does kick in and yes I think it would for most fans. Not an appropriate example because this is the CC forum but think back to the abuse Lalit Mohan got because he praised one actor and not the other (not talking about the final interview which was retracted by the website) and the fans who were up in arms wanting Lalit's blood are very firmly telling us that we should be tolerant of FK because of course it's not their favorite in question.

But to answer your last question - I never abused people neither on IF and neither any where else because I just don't believe in that concept. In fact I don't even post on forums which I know don't take a negative post in the correct manner. That is the reason I have never opened up a post on CC forum as I don't want to open a post and then have people attack it for my view point. But yes when there is a good post on the forum, I try to put my point across. Just because I don't open thousands of posts praising Sanaya, it doesn't mean that I am no fan of her. Both Barun and Sanaya have given me a memorable jodi and I feel bad when either of them are dragged into controversies and that is why I hope Sanaya puts this controversy in the past and moves on. Sometimes maintaining a dignified silence takes you a long way. Something I have learned at the end of IPK fiasco. I haven't really followed your posts
Your user name is familiar but I couldn't quote any post you've made except for the feeling I get when I see your name and anticipate an anti Sanaya post...perhaps I'm wrong your name reminds me of one I've seen bashing Sanaya in a certain fan groups chat clubs...my apologies if that's not you. As for silences being dignified yes if you can't articulate your thoughts well but if you are articulate and can present you pov effectively then there's nothing wrong in speaking up. In fact I believe that silence when it's not appropriate can actually cause more damage than if the person in question had simply spoken up truthfully in the first place...but that's my opinion.

Originally posted by: psarada

Sorry Guinea, if you too got an hate mail. I think it is better for us to take a break. At least I am thinking of taking one and will just be watching the forum from afar. Actually looking back now, I would say Nov 12 was even worse as IPK was a hit serial and actually I have learned the value of silence by the way Barun carried himself with all around bashing he got - from the PH/Channel/Fans. Now the whole fiasco is behind Barun and people know who was speaking the truth and who did what and who was mature enough in the whole blame game. I really wish the PH Optimystrix wakes up and issues a statement and this chapter is closed for ever. But I guess - getting caught while sleeping is becoming a habit of the PHs in general.

@ psarada,

I respect your POV. When such an issue crops up, it becomes very hard to control the situation. As fans we feel very protective towards our favorites so we react, some can keep their cool and give their opinion in civil way, some cannot and there are some others who have no control over their impulses and start abusing others which is very unfortunate. But a fan group is comprised of all kinds of people and we just have to live with that.

While our opinions may differ on certain things, I am sure all fans and well wishers of Sanaya will agree that we want this to end. But I think this issue wills a take few more days to die down because after FKs accusing statements, media will now want Sanaya's reaction and some sections of the media will try to spice it up. Others might come out with reactions too, we really don't know.

But when fans feel Sanaya is being targeted here and that will result in some reaction. I hardly posted in this forum before but this incident has made me start posting again. If one group of fans think we should stop discussing it because it only makes it worse it is totally justified, but when others come in defense of Farhan, fan have no choice but to reply in defense of Sanaya. The fact that outsiders come here and try to take advantage of the situation doesn't help either.

All said and done, I also want this matter to end soon and I really hope the PH steps up and takes charge of the situation but I really doubt they will.

Originally posted by: mariahassin

can we stop talking about this matter now.it wil give us nothing.For god sake farhan is gone so ignore all stuff now.

Originally posted by: -Aanya-

Farhan is gone but we're still stuck on him. Can we end the discussion on who is wrong, who is right, which fandom is going overboard, who is embarrassed to be whose fan...? Episode discussion to aik taraf ho gayi!

Originally posted by: showviewer

On your first point, I do not like ugly mud slinging on any actor/ actress or IF member. For me that is NOT entertainment. To each their own I guess.

No, I am NOT justifying any sort of bashing of any kind in social networking sites or forums. I condemn all of it whether it is being done by Sanaya fans, Barun fans or Farhan fans.

Throwing stones at others and watching fun is easy on internet, but does it qualify to be encouraged, from me a big NO.

I am not saying that you are taking a high moral ground, I am saying NONE of us can, because if we have not done bashing, then we have turned a blind eye when another person or actor was being attacked who are not our favorite.

But if you enjoy this ugliness than why come here and expect standards from anyone? Then it is free for all and TM' s point is negated anyway.

Originally posted by: psarada

@showviewer:- I think IF has become progressively bad. I think it is high time PH comes in and gives a statement and puts an end to this offscreen tamasha. It is not doing any good to anyone - the fans/Sanaya or Farhan. There is no need for Sanaya to react the way TC has printed out the article. Why react itself and give weight to Farhan's comments. And somehow whether we agree or not the more people ask/talk about this - the more it is going to cause harm to Sanaya as she is a known and established actress here. She has more to lose. But like you said, we can't keep on doing moral policing. I just hope Sanaya comes out of this mess without any more damage. I for one am going to take a break - from the forum as right now the forum is not a very good place and I don't want some one to attack me and send me a hate pm.