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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: Dalmuthuya

My story starts since I was born.. My family was poor. And I was terribly having asma. My dad... he was violent. Once I turned 4 every day I got abused along with my mom. Along the line a man I didn't know molested me. I am not sure whether he went far because I can't remember all that well. 10 years we suffered like that. I was just like Arnav. I put an angry front. I pushed away everyone and I wanted commit suicide. But thank god my heavenly father stopped me that day. Anyways, I kept praying, and fighting. Eventually we got to come to Canada. Dad was more mellow and we had peace, but the scars were still deeply infested in to my body. I was afraid to open up to anyone. Every day I saw nightmares. But someone entered to my life and changed it all. My first boy friend. He was the perfect guy. Loving, understanding, caring. I could literally speak to him about anything. We had something for 10 months. Something so deep and special. I thought everything was amazing and finally gained my trust in men, but it was all an illusion. He was not what I thought he was. 3 days before I told him my dark secret about the molestation. And I thanked him for loving me and respecting me, but 3 days later he cheated on me. That's when everything I believed in shattered. So now I cannot trust anybody, especially men. Every time I think there is a good guy I think it's an illusion. Too much pain. So this is why I prefer being single, but it sucks, because I have always wanted to be mother. So that I can give all the love I couldn't get as a child.


Oh wow. I just told my life story...


First of all, I'm sending virtual big hugs to you. And I pray that you have a happy future ahead and can move on from this.
One thing I would say to you is that you were too young that time. And even probably the guy. So at that age, guys are never serious. They only want casual stuff. Actually you are too young even right now. Maybe once you cross 20 and have a degree and a job, I'm sure you will meet many more good guys who will be serious for a relationship. And if you still don't find anyone, I'll send some hot lankan guys to your place ;)

About the mother thingy, even I've always wanted to be one. But as I said, I'm gonna end up a 50 yr old virgin. But like Barney, I won't be sad, I'll be awesome instead. So I've made back up plans to adopt orphan kids. That way they will be happy too and me too. 😃
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Posted: 13 years ago
Oh god u guys have real sad stories i inly read or watched movies based on this but never experienced it yes i,am st rong but naturally never learned to be strong
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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: Dalmuthuya


Prayer. That's how he did and eventually I began to stand up for myself. I am not afraid of him anymore and in fact he is more afraid of me. Painfully I have forgiven him since he is my father so we got an alright relationship. Almost close, but still inside I cannot forget. But I do try. And yeah, right now too we are going through a hard time financially and mom is being not the best. It's hard, but life goes on. We got to keep moving.



Thats the key you gotta keep moving. I am glad you all are smart and understand that. There are others who go into depression or some psychological problems and cant move on, which makes it worst.
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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: molten_lava




First of all, I'm sending virtual big hugs to you. And I pray that you have a happy future ahead and can move on from this.
One thing I would say to you is that you were too young that time. And even probably the guy. So at that age, guys are never serious. They only want casual stuff. Actually you are too young even right now. Maybe once you cross 20 and have a degree and a job, I'm sure you will meet many more good guys who will be serious for a relationship. And if you still don't find anyone, I'll send some hot lankan guys to your place ;)

About the mother thingy, even I've always wanted to be one. But as I said, I'm gonna end up a 50 yr old virgin. But like Barney, I won't be sad, I'll be awesome instead. So I've made back up plans to adopt orphan kids. That way they will be happy too and me too. 😃




I dont want to be a mother.
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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: waterunder11

Omg thats crazy. I dont know what to say right now besides I am sorry. How did your dad mellow down?

I have issues with my mom and right now Im going through a phase where I love her only for the sake God and its hard. I cant be myself after we go through some things. How is your relationship with your dad now?


What happened to you and your mom?
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Posted: 13 years ago
Thank you guys for the positive light <3 I am holding on to those words. :)
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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: waterunder11




I dont want to be a mother.


but Why?
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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: molten_lava


What happened to you and your mom?


Yes angel, would you like to tell us? <3
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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: Dalmuthuya

Thank you guys for the positive light <3 I am holding on to those words. :)


yeah, just remember that we are always there for you if you need to talk about anything. :)
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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: Dalmuthuya


Yes angel, would you like to tell us? <3



Its personal. Its more of an old age/ young age mentality crash and cultural problems. She is a typical hyderabadi and her personalitys cultural. I just dont get along..sadly neither does my sister. And its because of this I dont want to be a mother. you see i believe in history repeats and I am sure i break my moms heart a lot...i dont want that happening with me and my kids.
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