rey- understanding him-page 4 - Page 3

Originally posted by: prtn

part 2

With kriya, once the relationship started, rey remained pretty much the same- expecting attention , screaming his head off at the smallest of things like tumne mujhe shivam ke baare mein nahin bataya etc., ( he was cute then ) While it was true that it was bcoz he wanted to be completely involved in kriya s life, it also spoke of his need to be the first in her life while he didn't mind being second best to her- when she told him irritated by his irrational words main kyun aapki har baat sunoo. Main nahin sunoongi. Aap yahin chahthe ho ki main jhukhoo aape saamne , he had no problem jhukking in front of her( he bent on his knees remember) and letting her know that she came first. His ego was on its way out by then...but with kriya out of his life, his hurt heart created a shell insulating itself from further touch and maintained his wounded self esteem by creating a bigger ego than he had before.

Now he had to be right, he had to be perfect everytime. And anyone who didn't agree to his POV of right had to be wrong. Additionally he s considered as someone who s right by most ppl-( har koi mujhe right ke liye responsible samajtha hain) and in the process he considers himself as being responsible for everything that happens to him/ to those around him. while he has the strength of mind to handle stuff, when it does happen that things go wrong , he takes more blame than what is his due ,hurting his ego a lot more than whats required. As was happening with BB match track.

Rey s inability to verbalise or at times his unwillingness to talk it out perhaps also stems from the fact that he wants to maintain the same picture . Swayam knows this tendency of his -- Remember post mitwaa sequence, swayam tells Sharon hes going to meet rey as rey thinks he has to be the savior all the time but would at the moment be confused and maybe thats why rey can communicate with him better.

Back to present and hes stuck with taani...

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thanks for the replies/views
for those who havent watched rey before taani -rey, sorry if it seems unconnected but rey had been so interesting for me since the time ive been watching d3 that ...well...cant seperate KR rey from TR rey. 😊

but im glad that so many of us feel the complicated aspects in rey s character.

Must say, I really like your analysis 👏 I don't really know what to add because you've pretty much summed up Rey's character in this post! I'll just add my 2 cents though 😳

You make a valid point that we can't separate the Rey with Kriya from the Rey with Taani. Both are equally important in understanding Rey's character. But yes...Rey is still Rey...not much has changed except maybe one can say that he has become more vulnerable than before post Kriya and that has had an impact on how he is with others and how he handles situations. And right now that is evident with his messy handling of Taani.

Indeed the ego has perhaps inflated more than before 😆 and it's quite telling from the way Rey speaks and what he thinks at times. But the ego and arrogance - although they were always present...have become more prominent ever since Kriya's departure. And the fact that there isn't much progress between him and Taani has given him the perfect opportunity to hide behind all of this. Rey has found love again...but he is unable to remove that mask.

thanks for the replies and i never understand why so few replies😕

but cant stop myself from posting my thoughts. and the more i write it becomes difficult to write about rey alone, u have to mix it up with taani.😊

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part 3

Back to present and hes stuck with taani who s always tried to make things easy and comfortable for him- right from the word go- when he said save me from them and she pushed off the girls who followed him around for 6^th dancer auditions. she has spoken first always - loud and clear/ soft and clear. Now also, post rasiya, like always taani spoke first- but unfortunately ...not what he wanted to hear. Come to think of it, she hashardly ever said what he wanted to hear.

i know we have been saying that rey s not talking to taani etc., but it isn't like that.

The first time that he got to know about the fake CD, she followed him around to apologise but once he started training her for 6^th dancer, he has spoken to her everytime without hesitation . When swayams words made him realise that he has been unnecessarily rude, he immediately went after her to apologise and make sure shes fine. when she misunderstood his reason for appointing her AGS, he cleared it up with her. When mitwaa fight happened, he called her up first to see how she was coping and apologised for being the cause of her getting hurt so many times.

He has made the first move to be with her at difficult times , subconsciously understanding that she feels stronger with him around. And perhaps deriving some peace himself in her quiet complete confidence in himself.

But when shivam taani started , he went slightly back to being the ego hurt irritated and taunting though jealous rey. And didn't once ask her why she was with shivam till the dance camp when he realised that shivam manhandled her.

Even before the dance camp, during food fight post tujkho jo paaya, he tells her – "mujhe pata nahin kya hojaatha hain" hasn't he spoken to her? he has, but there have been so many taunts from him to taani that his important words get hidden as is happening now. And when he got thrown out as GS, taani apologised, he spoke to her and made it clear that he didn't hold her responsible. And post taani-shivam breakup, he followed her around making the guys suspicious to make sure again if she was ok post her breakup etc.,

my feeling has been that he generally doesn't have much trouble communicating with her whether in anger or in concern . The fact has also been that taani has never blamed, never expected, never waited for him to say either thanks and definitely never sorry. With her ego issue being near zero especially with him, its has been easy for rey to say sorry to her by himself eachtime he has felt himself to be wrong.

Coming to post rasiya/tujhko jo paaya sequence, we think why cant rey just tell her his feelings have changed? but rey s thoughts would run like this perhaps- tell...tell what? ive let her see my most helpless face, my most vulnerable side. Why would i do that if she wasn't the most important person for me right now? Ive held her and kissed her willingly without a thought . what can i say that i haven't told her through my actions? If she cant understand my actions , how would she understand my words? Its just that she s over me . she wiped my tears and it was her touch that made my tears stop. And she really thinks anyone and everyone could do that to me? Fool! What shud i tell her anyway? Why would u kiss someone out of the blue even if u were tensed? Nonsense. Mujhe kuch kehna nahin hain usse aur sunna tho bilkul bhi nahin.

So according to me, rey doesn't think he hasn't told taani, he just assumed its understood. The first time. This time he genuinely thought things were fine- bcoz when hes alone thinking , his thoughts are not of taani not understanding him- its of was she uncomfortable bcoz it was so sudden and to an equal measure, how the hell do i face swayam?

But when she told him maybe its normal/its okay he was extremely shocked and retreated back into his shell...though slowly this time. He asks her again and again both the times(the galat dialogue time and use waala time) if she meant what shes saying. But this time taani is worse off than he is- confused, scared and lost . In her desperate attempts to keep rey free , shes binding him more to his sorrow and to herself. Like they say, if u love someone set them free and if they r urs they would come back to you.

So what went wrong ? when did this barrier start? And why? ...

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i know maybe most wont agree with me on this but...😊

btw my replies to all below

Originally posted by: pixi26angel

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Prakruti again a great analysis os rey's character👏...i agree on the front that after his heartbreak he has formed an inner shell around himself coz obviously he doesn't wanna get hurt again...i guess this is the reason why he is not ready to let his feelings out openly and clearly in front of taani coz he is afraid of getting hurt and rejected again especially after knowing taani's POV about what had happened between them in the RH(which is obviously not what it seems to be to rey)...he too is holding himself back now coz even after trying hard not to fall in love again love ultimately found its way through his heart and now when he has finally accepted his feelings for his lady love then coz of the MU he is now in an illusion that taani doesn't understand him and won't reciprocate his feelings and love... in short for him he has again failed in the field of love coz he now feels ki like before this time also the person whom he loves doesn't love him back which is making him so impulsive and extreme in his actions and reactions...little does he know that the person whom he loves so much has always loved him and only him right from the beginning and she still loves him but then i guess love is complicated and hence the confusions

thanks for the replies
love how all ur posts are heart centred - reys 😳

Originally posted by: ..dinu..

nice one again!! after all some impact has to be there in him after getting hurt from his first luv/crush.love is complicated

thanks for the replies.
so u also think love? crush? for kriya...i feel it was love on its way.

Originally posted by: prtn

thanks for the replies
love how all ur posts are heart centred - reys 😳

thanks to u u r actually making me understand him better😳

Originally posted by: ajaved

Great post I think with rey he donsnt wanna admit his feelin to taani coz when he did to kria she just left him he wants to be around taani bt nt admit his feelin as he feels gulity coz shez swayamz sister n aslo angry at taani for nt understadin him he havin an battlr between his heart n mind the mind warns him of the heartbreak wid kria bt his heart wants taani he gets dominated by his mind he just donst gt how to express his thought when some1 questionz his action ge goes all angry he dosnt want ppl to know his true feelinz he confused

all that i tried saying in so many parts in such a short to the point sweet post! agree

thanks for the replies

Originally posted by: Wallflower.

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Must say, I really like your analysis 👏 I don't really know what to add because you've pretty much summed up Rey's character in this post! I'll just add my 2 cents though 😳

You make a valid point that we can't separate the Rey with Kriya from the Rey with Taani. Both are equally important in understanding Rey's character. But yes...Rey is still Rey...not much has changed except maybe one can say that he has become more vulnerable than before post Kriya and that has had an impact on how he is with others and how he handles situations. And right now that is evident with his messy handling of Taani.

Indeed the ego has perhaps inflated more than before 😆 and it's quite telling from the way Rey speaks and what he thinks at times. But the ego and arrogance - although they were always present...have become more prominent ever since Kriya's departure. And the fact that there isn't much progress between him and Taani has given him the perfect opportunity to hide behind all of this. Rey has found love again...but he is unable to remove that mask.

mask!! thats a nice thought- yes, he has a mask on. and liked ur previous post too.

thanks

Originally posted by: Shivangi_Taarey

aapne rey before Taani ke baare me baat kiya hai yaha.. so IDk about Rey of that time coz I started watching the show after Taani came.. As for abhi ka Rey..sometimes I think that I can understand him and sometimes mujhe lagta hai ki mai kabhi use nahi samajh paungi.. IDK!! But thankyou soo much for pming me about this.. pm me when u continue coz I would love to read it!!

thanks for the reply.

if it was easy to know rey!!

Originally posted by: RitzyOnly4Amar

Actually we are watching a Complicated Rey ... idk why he don't take any initiative to clear out MUs ... But I am glad that he have no grudges for the ones who hurts him badly...

Plz carry on this topic I hope your points will help us to understand Rey

P.S- I love every shade of Rey's character be it complicated, action, romance, anger, jealousy and list goes on

thanks for the reply. same pinch for love rey

Originally posted by: ramusk

n i also feel that right now taarey both are in same state of mind ..that is they are both afraid of rejection for ofc 2 different reasons that we know...especially rey coz the moment some1 against him he turns agressive n insecure v can see that in the epi's wen the others in the gang were thinking of scholarship programme...n this agressiveness n insecurity in case of taani is a bit more...

thanks for the reply

exactly what i wanted to say too- about the scholarship program.