As far as Dakshaini goes...the real one I don't know much about, but the DKDM one was like..I need u to come, you should come, you better come...all focused on her needs than the devotion that goes with invoking the Almighty. And her insecurity was very evident in her constant whining (DKDM Paro whines for her kids..that entirely different matter). Shiva usually came because he was constantly pestered..or that's my take on it. Only CVs know what was going on !!