Maya,
Like to read your views. More on what your wrote.
Sonp1, I follow your views too. I might disagree but still respect the way you write. My take was not esp. on Ash. It was about how the thread was intended that all good women should become good bahus and the criteria to be followed. There was similar thread before too. It looks like Ekta Kapoor got it all right when she shows women with sindoor doing pujas, touching every elder's feet, cooking and cleaning and bearing everything, the signs of good bahu.
I do not think that she has changed after marriage. I think she is very much in love and she wanted to be a wife and she has achieved that. Life is all about compromises - giving up something for something else. Hopefully she does not feel she has given up too much to achieve what she has today - then she will be happy.
I think that what I did not like about Aish was that she was not authentic, as in frank and honest about what she wanted and believed in. Sushmita and Preity on the other hand have always been upfront about their beliefs. Whether be it marriage or live-in relationships. They have managed to achieve this balance by still being very private and tactful with the media. We may not agree with everything they do but they live life by their own values and are not scared to admit it. I admire that in them.
You thought she looked fake before and I think she looks like she is doing so much adjustment after. I might be wrong. But looking at the pictures and the way she is conducting herself is too much for me to accept. It is simply the way we see it. I never liked her as an actor but respected her because she is a private person. She never spoke about her private life. It was media who speculated. It takes guts to be from a middle class family to make this big in Bollywood and also Hollywood.
Think that very few actresses these days work to look after their families. Many yester year actresses used to become actresses to support their families. These days it is about having a career in the industry.
She had a successful career, name without any godfather. So she surely succeeded in whatever she did and also at the same time I respect for spending her own money for her wedding which I don't think even Abhishek did because it was Jaya and Ash who did everything for the wedding.
Udne Ki Aasha
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