Marriage is about a guy being a mess and a women fixing him- Shahid - Page 5

Originally posted by: Tanya1991

13 years younger does not matter as women gets matured much much earlier compared to men and have much more layered thinking and are emotionally more intelligent than men.

That is a load of bs. Women/girls maturing faster than men/boys is a popular media trope. There's literally no scientific basis to it. Girls are from a young age trained or rather thrust with responsibilities that lead them into dealing with complex emotions. If a girl has younger siblings at home, then she becomes a second mother to them no matter how young she herself might be. Helping out in the kitchen, taking care of relatives, looking out for the house; these are all activities that are put on girls. The myth then perpetuates that if they are able to handle these activities, then they are emotionally mature which is all wrong. Being led into taking care of another person does not mean that a person is emotionally mature, that's a whole different ball game. You have heard of a man child a number of times? Ever come across the opposite of that? Bollywood itself perpetuates the man child trope but you never see a woman who is a complete mess being portrayed. Because society and the larger media deems it necessary to make women the responsible s*x whereas the burden is taken off boys. The same thing gets pushed around generation after generation and then we have women themselves believing this.

Originally posted by: ohophelia

That is a load of bs. Women/girls maturing faster than men/boys is a popular media trope. There's literally no scientific basis to it. Girls are from a young age trained or rather thrust with responsibilities that lead them into dealing with complex emotions. If a girl has younger siblings at home, then she becomes a second mother to them no matter how young she herself might be. Helping out in the kitchen, taking care of relatives, looking out for the house; these are all activities that are put on girls. The myth then perpetuates that if they are able to handle these activities, then they are emotionally mature which is all wrong. Being led into taking care of another person does not mean that a person is emotionally mature, that's a whole different ball game. You have heard of a man child a number of times? Ever come across the opposite of that? Bollywood itself perpetuates the man child trope but you never see a woman who is a complete mess being portrayed. Because society and the larger media deems it necessary to make women the responsible s*x whereas the burden is taken off boys. The same thing gets pushed around generation after generation and then we have women themselves believing this.

Disagree.

And what I said was not training the girls or pushing them to do things which gets them matured early, but their very nature and biology as they are the creators of new beings, snd naturally gifted as been more emotionally matured with the natural ability of multi tasking and patience that comes natural to them to bind a family and nurture it.

Rest you are free to proceed with your theories.

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Originally posted by: Swetha-Sai

This is what women are for? To fix men? Manchild.

IMO, no woman in this world wants to be a nanny to her partner or husband.

exactly!!! It’s frustrating when men use this line or when they saw biwi ayegi to smoking churwa de gi wtf?

Originally posted by: Tanya1991

In a way he is right.

Women have natural motherly instincts for their husbands, and making the husbands a better version of themselves over the years ,little by little (along with the love and care from both sides) is a win win situation for both and benefits both.

13 years younger does not matter as women gets matured much much earlier compared to men and have much more layered thinking and are emotionally more intelligent than men.

I don't know what's this all outrage and anger in this thread about Shahid's statement.

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but those same husbands then taunt back and say “dont be my mother” as an insult. So these manchilds need to makeup thr mind but ofcourse taking accountability is the furthest on thr list.

Never thought that behind such a boyish face would be such a disturbed mind. These stars must read, comprehend, reflect and then speak. As per Shahid, Is marriage about controlling someone?

Originally posted by: BirdieNumNum

seriously? It's so hypocritical to be taking SK to the cleaners for the typical husband-wife lines we have all come across a million times (whether on late night shows or as whatsapp jokes) and have had a chuckle over. There is humor that goes the other way too, directed against guys which we take sportingly. It's all meant to be funny... and they connect with people because there is a semblance of real life truth there. People need to not be so PC and uptight all the time. Don't kill all the humor and light hearted banter in life. Thoda chill maaro. At least learn to.😉

Wanted to say all this but nvm..

Kitna Dil par le lete hai log 🤦

There r quite a few messed up women too and there r men who take care of them..and they r actually kind of handle with care.

But theek hai..till definition of feminism is fixed let it be

Originally posted by: Tanya1991

Disagree.

And what I said was not training the girls or pushing them to do things which gets them matured early, but their very nature and biology as they are the creators of new beings, snd naturally gifted as been more emotionally matured with the natural ability of multi tasking and patience that comes natural to them to bind a family and nurture it.

How did you come to that conclusion? No girl is born a mother. She learns the behaviour. Buzzwords that you have used here - patient, nurturing, multitasking, naturally gifted (says who?) are mere traits that are learned over time. Men can be just as patient and adept at multi tasking, but nobody expects them to. The pressure of being this allrounder human being capable of everything and being an emotional vessel for the entire family is not put on them.

You are free to believe whatever you want but they are at the end of the day, only your opinions. Don't pass off your opinions as facts rooted in scientific evidence.

Kareena dodged a bullet?

Saif was asked if age gap affects a relationship, when the actor said, "I’d advise all men to marry much younger and beautiful women. How is it a great thing? It’s fairly obvious."

In the old interview, Saif also said that 'men mature a little later and women age faster'.

https://www.hindustantimes.com/entertainment/bollywood/when-saif-ali-khan-advised-all-men-to-marry-younger-beautiful-women-called-marriage-with-kareena-kapoor-best-thing-101678359705887.html

Originally posted by: Tanya1991

This is no old school theory.

This is the law of nature how men and women are biologically and psychologically with the innate motherly nature of females to nurture them (not fixing them).

Going against nature and genetics of the genders will make one think about the law of nature as some old school or new school theories.

These phenomenas were there, are here snd will always be.

Don't know why everything is made out to be some sort of an old school or misogyny/patriarchy here on this forum, unnecessarily.

I disagree. There is no biological proof that women are more nurturing than men. People of any sex can be born with nurturing genes. It is old-school patriarchy because it prevails despite being debunked by science.

Men are capable of nurturing. As society slowly starts shedding its artificial divide, we can see that in practice. Men are entering more nurturing professions like nursing and education. Men are becoming more involved with childcare and actually enjoying it.

Denying men the ability to be nurturing denies them from fulfilling themselves. I have seen many men of my parent's generation feel deep regret and remorse for not having a meaningful bond with their children.

Originally posted by: Tanya1991

Beaware, lots of fake feminists and unnecessarily overly emotional feminazis around, here.

I hate phonies