Why did Aman deceive Naina into marrying Rohit? - Page 4

Courage and compassion together are needed to make a decision.

Aman should have told Naina from the start that he loved her plus he had a heart disease so he could not be with her BOTH these facts and let her, as an adult, decide what to do with the knowledge.

That would have been perfect, not sacrificing and making choices on behalf of her.

But then we wouldn't have a melodramatic movie with mixed-up priorities would we then?

Originally posted by: mintyblue

Aman should have told Naina from the start that he loved her plus he had a heart disease so he could not be with her BOTH these facts and let her, as an adult, decide what to do with the knowledge.

What an egoistic and cruel move THAT would have been...especially with a Naina that grew up in emotionally shaking circumstances...

Nevertheless I agree that he could have told that the woman on the pic is a friend and doctor and that he came to see her... he shouldn't have lied at this moment about the woman on the photo.

But at the end, he would have died anyways.

Originally posted by: Clochette

What an egoistic and cruel move THAT would have been...especially with a Naina that grew up in emotionally shaking circumstances...

I think truth is truth, and it's definitely not cruel to tell someone you love them.

Making moves on behalf of others is cruel and egoistic...playing with people's feelings is egoistic...taking away Naina's agency is egoistic....

Originally posted by: Clochette

"Rohit and naina were good friends and would have probably developed into a relationship in time…all his coercion (urgently do shaadi before I die vibe) does is get rohit and naina married in a ceremony where she is crying her eyes out and rohit is depressed throughout …that’s not the the way anyone should get married …"

Absolutely right.

However Rohit and Naina were alredy engaged and were happy about the engagement (Naina didn't know yet about Aman's real condition).

So, after the engagement in which Naina consented knowing Rohit's love, what should have been after Naina got to know that Aman was meant to die rather sooner than later?

Well, be with him…grieve ….heal

Rohit literally tells her during the proposal “I know u don’t love me ….but my love is enough for both of us”…that’s not how relationships work…both people need to be invested ….her consent is very “oh might as well” than a resounding yes

Rohit himself tries to date other girls (Camilla) and is not entirely about pursing naina…until aman pushes him into it

He manufactures their marriage ….neither are in it wholeheartedly coz one knows the other dosent love him, and the other is in love with someone else and is confused ….

Originally posted by: pathaka

Well, be with him…grieve ….heal

Rohit literally tells her during the proposal “I know u don’t love me ….but my love is enough for both of us”…that’s not how relationships work…both people need to be invested ….her consent is very “oh might as well” than a resounding yes

Rohit himself tries to date other girls (Camilla) and is not entirely about pursing naina…until aman pushes him into it

He manufactures their marriage ….neither are in it wholeheartedly coz one knows the other dosent love him, and the other is in love with someone else and is confused ….

People are more scared to be alone than to be in a bad relationship....

But for me, it's always been the opposite.

When I read what you write, I understand how you see the movie but I think I saw another movie than you...or I saw it in another way.

I remember very distinctly that Naina is deeply unhappy with her home life but feels fine in Rohit's presence (he makes her forget her sorrows)...she even thinks about him as a very nice guy (the dinner invitation with the elderly woman from the evening school) and sees him as a CLOSE friend to her (we also get to know that she notices him writing in his black diary which later becomes a life changing role).

All this is done to set the stage...like the scene where the grandma hits the little girl and to console both the little ones, Jenni (who is of christian faith) tells them how her mother told her (when she was unhappy and crying) that Jesus would send his angel to wipe the tears...and that an angel would come to them and wipe their tears and will bring them happiness...and would send their sorrow far away.

When the little girl asks when the angel will come, it's SRK's entry scene.

So, for me, the importance of Aman as an ANGEL is crystal clear and I don't see the movie with your eyes, grounded in strict reality. And I guess, the movie should not be dissected the way you do as there are scenes that clearly belong to something magical that I - among others - cherish in (Hindi) movies: someone is there with you but only the audience see him/her.

Originally posted by: infinity101

This dialogue that “my love is enough for the both of us” might seem larger than life to listen to but can prove to be quite toxic in the long run. How can one stay happy in a relationship when they are the one more giving and the other one doesn’t seem that invested. But I guess a lot of marriages work like that these days. It’s a matter of convenience or compromise for many.

To me it wasn't "larger than life", it was to let her know that he doesn't expect her to love him with the same intensity he feels for her and that it would be okay for him, that he would not suffer, that she should not feel guilty not loving him the way he does. It simply proves how nice Rohit is (what she already said at the beginning)

Originally posted by: mintyblue

hahahaha I always hated Aman

What a misplaced strong negative feeling for someone who tried to do what he was destined to do despite his own emotional pain. You think he snatched away Naina's indepence...how wrong you are (or you didn't see Rohit as the person he genuinely is).

Aman was in their life all the way ... in a good way...in a healthy way...the end scene makes that absolutely clear (which underlines the spiritual touch of the movie as Aman is still 'watching over them').

And if one believes in angels then you can bet, that they are VERY manipulative in guiding you...

@Clochette- I was talking about that dialogue with reference to life in general. It can be applied to Rohit as well. I know he was a very nice boy but tbh movies romanticise one sided love as some kind of great thing while in reality it’s quite painful to deal with and nobody should be involved with someone who isn’t as much head over heels for them as they are.

Aman/Rohit scenes w Kanta ben really make this film hard to watch these days