Going against the majority here but I love being married. Was in a relationship with him for nine years almost before that. And I can honestly say that being married has been a blessing. It’s heady and reassuring to come home to a person who’ll be there for you no matter what. Grew up seeing successful marriages around me, so that really influenced my perception of marriage and the way my relationship has been. I’ve had great friends, supportive families etc., but being loved and being close physically and emotionally to someone who is also legally yours, is a very comforting and warm feeling.
The same with kids. I know why a lot of people are not having kids. I understand their perspective and completely support their personal view. But I always wanted to have a child (maybe biological urge, maybe just seeing my cousins with kids) and haven’t regretted a second of it. Even the moments of sheer despair as they cry at the airport for no reason are worth it, when you feel the oxytocin rush through as they pout or sleep or giggle at you.
Basically get married if they make you happy/safe/cared for. And only if you’re ready to put in the work.
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