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Bollywoodlaver

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Posted: 6 years ago

#31

Originally posted by: purplesnow

House chores never stops. Never. Esp in big families (and also if your husband is a lazy scumbag who cant as much as carry his own water and expects to be treated like a bloody king, which pretty much sums up all asian men.) #truth

women also play a part in this, i know a lady who must just be like 10 years older to me, she goes to office, cooks and cleans etc. she does not even let her husband get a glass of water for himself🤢 he just leaves his dirty dishes for her to clean🤢 this is the young generation I am talking about, heck even my parents were better than this, my dad helped in the household chores!

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Posted: 6 years ago

#32

😆 Before opening the thread I thought Kangu took a dig at Ranbir and Neetu.

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Posted: 6 years ago

#33

What household chores do Sonam and Chetan Bhagat do at home that they are preaching Indian parents about it.😆

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adventurousman

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Posted: 6 years ago

#34

You see in this world economics is given so much importance that now women are going out, working being aggressive just to prove their worth or that they're equal in the meantime losing her femininity

Acting like a man isn't the way. Working isn't the issue either!

All these things can be resolved very easily if people have some sense and rise above their egos

But as far kids are concerned then they need their moms more specially at early stage so best to raise them properly then to go out and work. Now feminazis will say I'm not made for kitchen arrey you're raising children, shaping next generation what can be bigger than that?

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566912

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Posted: 6 years ago

#35

Well she is right. Older generation males, can't survive when left alone. Our generation too. I have a friend who is home-maker with 2 kids. Her husband comes home and if she asks for help, MIL be like.. are mera beta thak ke aaya hai. Woh kuch nahi karega. dekh nahi rahi. I will do it later. (which she might or might not. And if you remind -- she goes like.. mere pairo mein dard hai. )

But for current generation, I see daughters are being pampered and sheltered the same way. All in all Indian parents have become so much more over-protecting.

I have had room-mates who after coming from India, comes on Dining table, eats and not even pick their dishes and put it in sink. I once had to tell someone -- That I am on my own too. I am not your Mummy. Granted you are new and missing you family, so I cooked for you, cleaned for you for couple days. You can't expect me to molly-coddle you forever. And next thing you know -- Tears! And she tells me she has never stepped out of house alone. Her father calls me and asks me about AC, Freeze, Microwave and all amenities. I was so mad. Like are your parents dumb? Not preparing you to survive and letting you go to the other side of the world? What the eff did you expect? Bed of roses?

I mean like.. you can't even look after yourself, and you chose to go to NEW COUNTRY. I tell ya.. such delicate darlings. Ample examples in both genders.

But doing masters in states have taught many many males to cook n clean n share housework. All males in my group are good at all of these.

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persistence-win

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Posted: 6 years ago

#36

Aisa nahi hai yaar!!! I am a guy and I know how to cook perhaps better than my entire khandaan (well that's what they say), I do my laundry, clean up my room sometimes more and can manage most of kitchen chores- perhaps living in a hostel helped. I can't say of others But I was never pampered in a way it's alleged here, it's not a question of feminism or male chauvinism- It's simple training to manage yourself and do your job on your own regardless of gender!!!Simple

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Posted: 6 years ago

#37

Originally posted by: adventurousman
In normal families or so called normal families daughters aren't abused or beaten by their dads and moms don't beat daughters either as they're seen delicate. Now there are exceptions but we were not talking about those but normal families.

And no house chores isn't a 24/7 job. You can convince yourself that because you're doing it and think of yourself of how mahaan you're or bechaari, doesn't change facts.

And your husband can't get his own water and you also can't? Then don't. Both are lazy in that case and making a big deal out of it.

Oh you think all asian men are entitled don't marry one problem solved but i assure you more problems will arise no matter who you marry because it's in you. You will look for it and find it unless you change. Now there are many men who are assholes so better to stay away from them and there are many bitches too so it goes both ways

Mothers beat the crap out of their daughters as much as fathers do sons.

Daughters are constantly encouraged to conform to societal norms, come home within 10 pm, not dress in a certain way, no boyfriends, no freedom nothing. In some cases, they're also not allowed to work or marry the guy of their choice. Guys may get a smack or two from time to time, but they enjoy much more freedom compared to women.

Daughters suffer much more emotional abuse compared to sons.

Edited by krystal_watz - 6 years ago

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Posted: 6 years ago

#38

Also, Adventurousman, how do you define 'femininity'? A dominating man is seen as 'assertive', while a dominating woman is called bossy and abrasive.

What is femininity? being submissive and talking to elders with bowed heads? Winking and flirting coyly? Being 'soft' in all matters? Mandotorily displaying vulnerability everywhere?

What exactly is this 'femininity' that you talk of? In the same breath, how do you define masculinity? Watching football, making crass sexist jokes and cussing or getting into fights at the drop of a hat?

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nigahen

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Posted: 6 years ago

#39

Waise nowadays like Nimbumirchi mentioned, it goes both ways. In western countries, in normal families, parents enlist kids to help with the household chores but in India because everyone has house help, so many people have this entitled attitude.

And in fact boys manage better than girls because well...girls seldom get along without the mandatory backbiting, skirmishes and oneupmanship...

Where I rented like student housing, there was a group of 5 boys and they divided the chores, someone bought veggies, someone did the dishes,,etc. And they used to have a right feast every night!! Yum!! They were nice, even offered to cook for me ...

Girls on the other hand will always quibble over who does what. I had a room mate and no way could we work out any cooking arrangement. Finally I've resigned myself to having khichdi everyday when eating at home...

Girls even in hostels or living in student housing take pride nowadays that they cant cook anything except maggi. When I started out I didnt even know how to cook rice but I learned some things...

I mean you live and learn.

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566912

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Posted: 6 years ago

#40

Originally posted by: krystal_watz

Mothers beat the crap out of their daughters as much as fathers do sons.

Daughters are constantly encouraged to conform to societal norms, come home within 10 pm, not dress in a certain way, no boyfriends, no freedom nothing. In some cases, they're also not allowed to work or marry the guy of their choice. Guys may get a smack or two from time to time, but they enjoy much more freedom compared to women.

Daughters suffer much more emotional abuse compared to sons.

Yeh hota hai. Lekin average households mein yeh nahi hota. Growing up -- I never saw anyone beating their daughters. Some parents beat up their kids, but its same for both genders.

Now, Time has changed a lot. When I visited India, I found myself backwards. New gen has so much more freedom. College kids are so much advanced then when we were.

When I went for Garba with friends -- I had to be back by 1 AM. Its same for my brother now. Regular days, 10 PM rule is for everyone. This rule is for safety. It has nothing to do with genders. We shouldn't encourage anyone to be out of house after 10. There is no equality in that.