'It was unfair to Amrita (singh)' - Saif - Page 3

Oh ok lol.

actually, Amrita has done her fair share of dissing saif, and rightly so. he was a grade A douche, put her through hell, ruined her shot at happiness and then went off in search of his own. im happy hes found his peace, but can he please stop talking about his past already? everytime i read his interview i get a sense if deja vu.

Originally posted by: desigal90

Isn't the effect on partner and kids obvious?

What is one supposed to say?

"Dont cheat, your partner will be hurt"

Self explanatory. What's the point then? everyone already knows that it's wrong.

'Cheating is so bloody stressful you should avoid it at all cost. Forget about your partner; just think about yourself - you're better off leaving'
'If life feels empty, there are so many ways to fill it up... though they might not be as much fun [laughs].'

This was more obvious to me and why would it not be when the emphasis throughout was not on the remorse but the toll it took on him. And anyway his actions towards Amrita after the divorce are not much to go by.

I think Saif's sense of humor gets lost in print.

I won't defend Saif at all with his cheating and philandering. What he did was pretty shitty. No amount of apologies or introspection undoes damage done.

That being said I think it is really important to talk about the negative affects of cheating from the cheater's side. People assume cheating only hurts the people being cheated on. A lot of men and women are tempted to cheat because they feel that it doesn't hurt them as much. Especially when people are in an unhappy relationship when they have fallen out of love or even built resentment towards their spouse, they get an invincible feeling that cheating won't emotionally shatter them. You see cheaters like Boney Kapoor, Dharmendra and Sunny Deol who quietly move on with lives despite cheating. They make it seem as if you can forget about everything and move on. Of course people trash them about their cheating. But they don't talk about it at all.

Saif deserves a minimal dash of credit for being someone who is willing to talk about his cheating. He doesn't expect people to gloss over it and pretend that it never happened.

But Amrita Singh, she is the example men and women aspire to live by. She never played a victim card. She never threw a pity party for herself. She doesn't harp about the woman who ruined her marriage. She doesn't raise her kids to be hostile to their father or their stepmother. Most importantly, she didn't lament or dwell too much on a man who broke the promises of marriage. That shows a good amount of self respect.

I have a hard time sympathizing as much with the wives of other cheaters because they don't seem to have as much self respect to let go of a man who did them wrong.

Amrita was the one who said that she knew when it was time to let him go. She had that much self respect. And I'm sure Saif felt quite shitty coz from his interviews, when he says, "You can beg and plead all you want, the crack is always there" I can assume he did his share of begging and pleading to be taken back.

I have a lot of respect for Amrita. She handled the separation very well despite having to struggle when Saif wasn't paying child support after ending the marriage.

I do agree with Saif being a sleaze ball and all for cheating and whatnot.