Emraan Hashmi sizzled on the silver scree

Emraan Hashmi sizzled on the silver screen with a taboo relationship in Murder. Having said that, let's set the record straight, Emraan has experienced an affair with a married woman in real life too!

In an exclusive interview to ShaadiTimes, Emraan dares to spell out that what most of the celebs would normally shy away from. Here he bares his regrets from the relationship with the married woman, his ideas on matrimony, his relationship with Dia Mirza, controversies with Mallika Sherawat, and other important aspects of his life - lesser-know to his fans thus far.

Hi! Emraan. Welcome to ShaadiTimes.
A big Hello to all the ShaadiTimes readers; thank you for inviting me.

First, tell us about your career development post-Murder.
Actually Murder came after I had signed and started working on Tumsa Nahi Dekha (TND). But TND got stalled due to some problems and Murder was released first. There was a very unfortunate incident where our director (TND's director), Anurag Bose fell sick. He was diagnosed with cancer. But now TND is ready and will release soon. It is looking great. I hope the audience also likes it.

Then there is a film called Zaher; it is a thriller and will be directed by my cousin, Mohit. It is again produced by Mahesh Bhatt. You will see these two releases this year. Next year, there will be two more releases, but it is too early to talk about them.

Your steamy scenes with Mallika in Murder raised eyebrows and now there is the kiss with Dia in TND. How comfortable are you with these 'perks' of your job?
I am very comfortable and I am enjoying every bit of it. Weird names are associated with me; the other day I read somewhere someone calling me a 'smooch king'. It feels good to tell you the truth (laughs). I am having a blast doing all this. There is nothing to shy away from. A kiss is something we all do and I do it in front of the camera, comfortably.

However, TND is not a sex flick like Murder, it is a romantic film and the kiss is a very essential and cute part of the film.

Mallika alleged that you asked for many re-takes of the steamy scenes.
I know there were many re-takes in the film. There was this scene in the film where I go to her house and the scene is enacted below the staircase. Many re-takes were taken for it but I did not suggest it. I don't blame the poor girl; I knew the entire crew so may be on the back of her mind she must be thinking that I was recommending those re-takes. I enjoyed those scenes but I did not enjoy it so much that I would do such a thing.

Don't you think that films like Murder glamorise adultery in the society?
I don't know. I don't see films in that light, so I wouldn't be able to say what effect it has on the society. I see films purely for entertainment purpose. I have never looked at films with any other perspective.

But more than anything else, it is films and film stars who influence the society.
Maybe, but I don't burden myself with the idea that people are looking up to me or that I am a role model for them. I have never asked anyone to follow me. I am just doing my job like anyone else.

In fact, I would like to tell people that, 'please don't be like me'. I have messed up so badly and so many times in my life. I am no example to go by. Don't call me a good actor, I am just earning my money and enjoying my job. Don't idolise me, I am the most imperfect son of a b....., anyone has ever seen.

Do you think you would have scaled the same height as you have without the Bhatt camp's backing?
No, I would not. I wouldn't have got an entry into the film industry if it was not for Mr Mahesh Bhatt - my Godfather, my mentor. The fact that I was born in the filmi family got me here. It gave me a chance to join the company and I assisted Vikram (Bhatt) in a few films. It gave me the choice and liberty to pick and choose what I wanted to do. I am very lucky that I was born in this family. To get an entry into this industry, you need the right contacts.

Like your role in Murder, you had an affair with a married woman in real life too. What made you go ahead with that affair in the first place, knowing it wasn't going to last?
Well, that was the best part (laughs)... it wasn't forever... that was the incentive that came along with it. You would know that guys do such things sometimes. But yes, I do realise that it was a big mistake and people learn from their mistakes. I realised that many people were hurt in the bargain. I don't know whatever drove me at that time, but I do know that at the end of it I did not enjoy it and realised that it was a wrong thing to do. I will not do it again.

Have you figured out where 'lust' stands in a relationship called, 'love'?
Lust is indeed important. I think lust is a stronger emotion than love. Sex is a very important part of love; otherwise it becomes a platonic relationship. People shy away from it. Words like 'sex' and 'lust' are still taboo in this country. But they are very valid, strong and real emotions that everyone feels. I don't know why people shy away from them, but I think slowly people are coming to terms with it in our country too. I think it is as equal in importance as anything else in a relationship.

Do you believe in the institution of marriage?
Yes, I do believe in it. But I am not going to get married for a long time now. I don't want to get in a messy situation where I get married and it doesn't work out. Marriage calls for a lot of responsibilities and I don't think I am ready to take them at this stage. But I do believe in marriage and settling down with the one woman I love. But, not at the moment.

Do you think marriage is like second innings of life?
Not really. I didn't mean it that way. I think life doesn't really change after marriage. There are no drastic changes. You just choose to be with one person and have kids. Yes, this brings a lot of responsibilities. I think marriage is a great thing... choosing one lifetime companion.

Being in affair with a married woman, will it be easy for you to trust your spouse?
Trust is a very important part of a relationship. It is one of the most vital aspects of a relationship. If trust is not there then you are into something wrong, which won't work. So I will settle down with a person when I am assured that she is the right one and that things are just right to get into marriage. There is no ideal or perfect relationship but you have to hope for the best.