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I apologize if this spoils the thread. I saw my issue with Tanya brought up in the previous chat thread and I wanted to address it and hopefully end it for once and for all.
Here is the start of it all. Unfortunately, some of the later parts have been edited.
http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=2795152&PID=54966052�
I was not hurling abuses at Tanya or ganging up against her. I violated no COC. A member was genuinely scared of Tanya and I was reassuring her not to take Tanya seriously. Anyone who has seen Tanya's posts will testify that she is very degrading and condescending to SRK and has made vile posts about him. At the same time the mere mention of disliking Salman, she attacks the person furiously. There is really no winning with Tanya, if you agree she is your BFF, if you disagree she is very foul with you. In a previous incident on Debate Mansion in a debate where we were debating existence of God, she randomly appeared cussing atheists.
By definition this is troll and flame behavior. A decent respectable member does not behave this way. A decent respectable member engages in discussion, can express their disagreement politely and can accept that people have different views without being aggressive and harsh. That was all that was reflected in my post.
I've been a long standing member of IF much before she even joined. I've even been moderator on forums. GM Shruti even asked me to take over DMG forums because I have a reputation for being fair and taking all sides in consideration. I would never gang up on a member or abuse them.
Yes, I was juvenile in my decision to prank stalk Tanya because I let her get under my skin. That was stupid of me and did me no credit. And Tanya, that was wrong of me, and I apologize for that juvenile behavior. In my defense I didn't resort to MIDs or abusive behavior. Everything was in my ID and done humorously not viciously.
Whatever discussion went on there was not to bash Tanya or abuse her. It was a reflection on how Tanya behaves on the forum. Most of it is still there for everyone to read.
I don't know who or what this Salmanfan is and what he/she fed Tanya in PMs. But she reacted in a nasty and vicious way. Teenager, immature, troll, stupid are not abuses compared to some of the worst gaalis she hurled especially in super large screaming fonts. There is a way to handle things if you are upset. If you would have reported and explained rationally what you thought was wrong, action would have been taken. If you could explain why it crossed the line or why you were hurt, i would have apologized.
The final straw was when you posted an FB image. You claim to be innocent here. But the thing is that privacy violation is not just a juvenile prank, but it is illegal. It is against the law to use a person's picture without permission and you did it twice. I hope you realize the severity of the situation and why it is a such a huge deal for everyone in the forum. In most forums you would never have been able to come back. Using images without consent is one of the online offense of serious order. Even the trolls and pranksters of 4Chan consider it a crime.
Since then you have been nothing but abusive Tanya. I complement a picture in your signature, you personally attack me. I discuss with LadyGaga about how I spaced out your MOTW, you attack me. What the heck is your problem? Why is everything about you and why do you have to be so abusive? Tanya, if you want to be taken seriously and respected as a member you have to start changing the way you behave and earn that respect. You can't get furious at the drop of a hat and start calling people kuttey kaminey. You have to be a better person and show people that you are a sincere person who just wants to enjoy the forums. The choice is yours.
If you change the way you behave everyone, including myself will give you a second chance and maybe even respect you. If not someday, you are going to really push me far enough to be a person I am not and really play dirty. I've honestly tried my best to keep this issue out of the forums and discuss it DT only and tried my best not to respond. Please don't force me to be something we all might regret.
Here is the start of it all. Unfortunately, some of the later parts have been edited.
http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=2795152&PID=54966052�
I was not hurling abuses at Tanya or ganging up against her. I violated no COC. A member was genuinely scared of Tanya and I was reassuring her not to take Tanya seriously. Anyone who has seen Tanya's posts will testify that she is very degrading and condescending to SRK and has made vile posts about him. At the same time the mere mention of disliking Salman, she attacks the person furiously. There is really no winning with Tanya, if you agree she is your BFF, if you disagree she is very foul with you. In a previous incident on Debate Mansion in a debate where we were debating existence of God, she randomly appeared cussing atheists.
By definition this is troll and flame behavior. A decent respectable member does not behave this way. A decent respectable member engages in discussion, can express their disagreement politely and can accept that people have different views without being aggressive and harsh. That was all that was reflected in my post.
I've been a long standing member of IF much before she even joined. I've even been moderator on forums. GM Shruti even asked me to take over DMG forums because I have a reputation for being fair and taking all sides in consideration. I would never gang up on a member or abuse them.
Yes, I was juvenile in my decision to prank stalk Tanya because I let her get under my skin. That was stupid of me and did me no credit. And Tanya, that was wrong of me, and I apologize for that juvenile behavior. In my defense I didn't resort to MIDs or abusive behavior. Everything was in my ID and done humorously not viciously.
Whatever discussion went on there was not to bash Tanya or abuse her. It was a reflection on how Tanya behaves on the forum. Most of it is still there for everyone to read.
I don't know who or what this Salmanfan is and what he/she fed Tanya in PMs. But she reacted in a nasty and vicious way. Teenager, immature, troll, stupid are not abuses compared to some of the worst gaalis she hurled especially in super large screaming fonts. There is a way to handle things if you are upset. If you would have reported and explained rationally what you thought was wrong, action would have been taken. If you could explain why it crossed the line or why you were hurt, i would have apologized.
The final straw was when you posted an FB image. You claim to be innocent here. But the thing is that privacy violation is not just a juvenile prank, but it is illegal. It is against the law to use a person's picture without permission and you did it twice. I hope you realize the severity of the situation and why it is a such a huge deal for everyone in the forum. In most forums you would never have been able to come back. Using images without consent is one of the online offense of serious order. Even the trolls and pranksters of 4Chan consider it a crime.
Since then you have been nothing but abusive Tanya. I complement a picture in your signature, you personally attack me. I discuss with LadyGaga about how I spaced out your MOTW, you attack me. What the heck is your problem? Why is everything about you and why do you have to be so abusive? Tanya, if you want to be taken seriously and respected as a member you have to start changing the way you behave and earn that respect. You can't get furious at the drop of a hat and start calling people kuttey kaminey. You have to be a better person and show people that you are a sincere person who just wants to enjoy the forums. The choice is yours.
If you change the way you behave everyone, including myself will give you a second chance and maybe even respect you. If not someday, you are going to really push me far enough to be a person I am not and really play dirty. I've honestly tried my best to keep this issue out of the forums and discuss it DT only and tried my best not to respond. Please don't force me to be something we all might regret.
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