I personally felt very bad for Afsana

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Yes I did.

I don't believe she is a bad person at heart. She is not manipulative, not a gamer. She shoots off her mouth and spews venom that's true but I feel she really doesn't mean all that. Not condoning her, she has a lot to learn in life the hard way and I wish her well for her own sanity.


However those who were clapping when Salman was taking her class without allowing her to defend herself as usual, I find them very petty, manipulative and cruel. All the positive feelings I had for Tejawini have disappeared in a flash for me just like that. She surely holds grudges and sits on her moral high horse and is authoritative when it's strictly none of her business because afsana never said anything directly against her in that fight and they had supposedly made up in the locker room at Tejaswini's initiatve. So I find it downright mean and cruel.


Same thing for Jay.


Vishal I don't know but I feel as if he is manipulative and he definitely provoked her exploiting her weak spot< Had he refrained from doing so instead of not attacking her when she was down and out and would surely spew more venom, I would have found him honourable.


The real wrong for me in all this is Shamita. She has always been supercilious, unkind, and nasty with afsana. She has always tried to show her down using class because Miss Shamita Shetty seems to believe that she is high-class, dignified, etc. just because she speaks English!Well I don't think too many glorious things are happening with her immediate family by the way, there is nothing to be proud of if your immediate family member has been exploiting other women and selling you know what if at all it turns out to be true. Also everyone knows how plastic both the sisters are and that's not a judgmental thing I am saying just pointing out that what she uses to show afsana down is just pure plastic and a veneer of sophistication brought upon by sudden accumulation of wealth by the elder sister petering down to the younger sister and the rest of the family. She was vile yesterday and provoked afsana real bad. I condemn this! Plus her so-called meltdown was totally uncalled for and most put on and if true, shows how unstable this woman is. She is just a very self-opinionated control freak and wants everybody to tow her line sitting on her moral high horse and as for professional achievements I am sorry but they are too few and far between to hold much importance!


Sorry for the long post but i really had to vent out!

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Afsana lost track of what she was speaking. She was wrong. Period. Her choice of words was in extremely poor taste.


Having said that, Shamita is no less. Her expressions and gestures show very clearly that she thinks she is above everyone else. She definitely provoked Afsana and Vishal further instigated leading to the entire outburst.

Vishal added fuel to the fire. He has made a smart move by teaming up with Shamita and will use this to his advantage. ( WKW mein Bach jaega )


Rest the entire house tried to stop Afsana but Shamita kept telling them not to. Her other side was seen in OTT. This miss oh-so- hoity -toity image is till the time she is in her comfort zone doing absolutely nothing.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Afsana comes from a poor background. She has had a very rustic upbringing and that reflects in her behaviour. She lacks the sophistication or the clarity of putting her points in a reasonably better way but in no way is she mean or evil. If she had the ability to understand how she is being played, she would not have fallen into the trap set by Shamita and Vishal which backfired on her.

She is infact quite gutsy and intelligent.

Shamita's rivalry with her started when she openly confronted Shamita ... Shamita asked her to follow BB house rules like getting up on time, She retorted by asking her to comply with the rules herself first by refraining to speak in English before asking others to adhere to them.


As to Vishal..when he tried to manipulate her into not nominating him and his friends, she saw through his games and immediately nominated him. That resulted in Vishal turning against her.

Afsana also understood the sugarcane task better than her team mates. She was the only one from her team to support team Plant to try and eliminate team tiger. That did not work as her team mates did not support her, but she tried She understands things but in not good at explaining her points to others..that's where she falls short.

Others are taking advantage of her weakness..... by now they know what buttons to press to make her explode that will show her in a bad light.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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She is not a child and wishing someone death is the lowest you can get. Those who clapped were targeted by her


Everyone gets provoked but my mum always says that there is a time when you say something and it might get true. She calls it Qubol time so one has to be careful with their words


While Afsana did get her bashing, I highly doubt that there will be any effect on her


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Posted: 4 years ago
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Posted this someplace else too, seems apt for the topic at hand


With Afsana, I feel like there's so much lost in translation, mainly due to the semantic barriers in her commutation with the rest. Her issues with Shamita began the day she refused to let Shamita teach her the rules of the house when she herself was disregarding them and that irked Shamita. Ego pe baat aa gayi, rightfully so, I mean Ms. Shetty ko koi kaise question kar sakta hai? A seasoned player who has been on the show thrice now, is not gonna answer to a newbie like Afsana. And Vishal dislikes her because she has a mind of her own and refuses to listen to Vishal and follow his directions. The sheer disrespect by Afsana, how dare she, right?


Having said that, Afsana's words and actions cannot be candoned, they were extremely disrespectful and crass. She went to a point of no return. The issue with Afsana is that she doesn't think before speaking and then she doesn't shut up for the love of god. Her jabs towards Shamita were below the belt, she has no right to comment upon another person's personal life, career, age or anything as far as it isn't concerned with the show. She can have a heart of gold but words once uttered, cannot be take back. She needs to realise this


However, she didn't start that fight with Shamita & Vishal, they were the ones who inserted themselves into a conversation that had nothing to do with them. They both purposefully egged her along, they can't feign innocence now, everyone knows how Afsana is and if you claim otherwise, I'm not buying it, especially when it comes to two people who've locked horns with her in the past, both of them knew the direction things would take once they joined the conversation.


They probably did not realise things would get this ugly but they definitely knew that things were about to get dirty. A part of them wanted that, Afsana played into their trap and got an earful. Not saying she didn't deserve it, she deserved to hear every bit of it. But, I don't like the fact that neither of them were held accountable for their roles. If you are as classy and poised as you claim to be, why engage in a conversation with someone who you tag as a pottymouth? Why give that person a chance to put you down and affect your mental health?


Both Shamita and Vishal have maintained that they feel Afsana loses her marbles when she feels cornered or threatened, if you both know that's her blind spot, why do everything you can exploit it and get yourself insulted in the process unless that's what your plan has been all along? To turn tides against her and gain the audiences sympathies? Vishal used everything he had to instigate Afsana into using force against either himself or Shamita! Had it not been for the rest of the housemates who were constraining her, Afsana probably would have been out of the show by now.


And for those who feel Nishant spoke against Afsana first, yes he did but he did not keep agitating her to a point of blind rage. He took a step back when he sensed things were about to go south. Someone who claims to be as smart as Vishal, definitely knew what his actions would result in. He wanted Afsana out. Simple. No harm in that but to do that to someone who is already a live-wire is ill-advised. Afsana, could have caused serious harm to herself or someone else and Shamita and Vishal can't absolve themselves from the parts they played in it.


Salman was very respectful with Afsana during WKV, I wouldn't have the same courtesy had I been in his shoes tbh. He really tried to make her understand her flaws and gave her guidance as on how to make herself better. I would have appreciated it more had he just, even in passing, acknowledged that Afsana's words weren't unprovoked. I'm in no way saying that her actions are justifiable, provocation or no provocative, she was wrong but hers was a reaction.


Afsana needs to think before she speaks, now more so that she's on national television, and thousands are privy to her actions and reactions. Life is extremely unpredictable, wishing death to someone is one of the vilest things you can possibly do, and god forbid, if your words come true, the guilt will take you down along with it. She can't always hide behind her anger issues. Hopefully, Salman's advice resonates with her and she betters herself.


Coming to reactions of the rest of the housemates, I don't blame them for reacting the way they did. Afsana clearly has a set pattern, whether we accept it or not. She has never gone off the rails this bad but everytime she falters, she apologises & says she's turned over a new leaf but then it's back to square one in a few days' time. Anyone in the right mind can perceive this was stubbornness and after the things she said last night, people are not wrong for clapping for what they believe she should rightfully hear. I'm of the opinion that they were clapping at Afsana finally being set straight because she never would've let anyone of them talk sense into her. She needed to hear all that in order to grow, otherwise god knows what she would've done next time.


It was evident that Shamita is being sheltered by Salman. That is the only reason why I feel like Vishal and she got a clean chit. Also, Shamita, the Captain, continuously breaks the house's rules left right and centre and Salman doesn't mind. Miesha was warned of not following the rules, what about Ms.Shetty then? She's above them?


Madame Shetty can't finish a conversation without using English for the most of it. I'm not saying the use of English is to be completely stopped, you can't have conversations nowadays without some English words creeping in and it's okay, but since there is rule about speaking in Hindi for the most part, she should be obligated to do that just like the rest. Bigg Boss has in the past, punished Captains for not following the rules. Lagta hai iss baar BB is sleeping. No one pays heeds to his words anyway, bol ke kya fayada.


Just after Salman asked the housemates to adhere to the rules, Shamita and Tejasswi had a conversation in English. Shamita, the captain. The amount of things she can get away with is hilarious. Even the scissor incident was conveniently brushed under the rug.


The power of a surname has never been more evident than this.

Edited by CobraKai1972 - 4 years ago
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Posted: 4 years ago
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😭bechari Afsana ..abuse Kiya toh kya ..Dil ki saaf hai Afsana baby awwww😭

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Well worded...👏

I will add one thing .... I think Afsana has some psychological issue.... She has no control over her mouth .,she harms herself...she needs treatment and some kindness ..I wish someone conveys her to take psychotherapy

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Good for you, bcoz I didn't 😂😂😂

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Posted: 4 years ago
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If Afsana was real she will do this again as it is actually a disease it doesn't get cure so easily. Iske liye bohat sessions karne padte hn experts se.


Only if she faked the anger she cannot repeat.


Her doctor session clip shoukd not have been shown that was bad at BB part.

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