Raqesh and shamita

I don't know but I genuinely feel.rakesh really cares for Shamita. And he is a man who can handle Shamita really well.

I am not a fan of either Raqesh or Shamita. But I do feel they both care for each other. I have seen many of the live feeds recently which they've cut out a lot in the actual episode. They are both the same age and they come from a past filled with baggage so they both have individual triggers to situations. Shamita's trigger is her insecurity which she CLEARLY acknowledges. Whether it is living in her sister's shadows or not having found security from any man. Before I wasn't sure but now I genuinely feel that they feel for each other. Otherwise, I have seen Shamita in other reality shows. Even during her first time when she was in Bigg Boss. In that season, KRK literally hit her with a bottle but she wasn't this reactive. She has a lot of guards up now and maybe her father's passing left her sour even further. She has absolutely no male support in her life which clearly affects her. I can understand that because no matter how much money we make, how strong we are, or where we come from, we crave companionship or a father figure. She clearly has neither. Raqesh also comes with baggage. I don't agree on alot of things Shamita does individually but I will agree with her on one topic. If you are falling for someone/taking someone seriously as a potential partner, you don't want them to talk to the opposite gender (especially a person you are not comfortable with). As a girl, NO WOMEN wants that. I wouldn't call that controlling. I don't want my partner talking to certain females and vice versa. Those are boundaries you naturally set. She is authoritative, I agree and pushes her opinions. But in this particular situation, I agree with her as a women. Her and Raqesh will have to sort that out on their own. They both seem sensible with flaws and bad experiences. They look good together and they can make it work if they make some changes and meet each other in the middle. Maybe not on the show though.

Originally posted by: DaddyMarvel

Rakesh couldn’t do save his own marriage from getting ruined. What makes you think he will be able to handle this narcissistic can of toxins? She will make his life miserable day in and out with her constant cribbing and emotional blackmailing.

This brainless chap is up to no good. Although he says he doesn’t like to be controlled and whatnot, he finds solace in a person who treats him like a doormat. Shamita, on the other hand, throws a fit at the slightest of criticism. If this is not the sign of a toxic person, I don’t know what is.

Dont use such rude words na:( who knows wat happens next moment. Sorry if u mind for my words,but feeling low and guilty for wat i personally said to sidharth or many ppl..and they are no more now..

I feel Shamita likes him more.

Raqesh had told Nishant on the night after their fight that he is done with Shamita and wants to exit from the game show. He told Nishant & Neha, that while he may like Shamita but admitted that Shamita & him are not good for each other. He said, that Shamita carries a lot of baggage and he feels suffocated with her controlling, dominating nature and identified her emotional manipulation, as 'emotional attyachar'. So he is able to see through her now. He's even understood that she frequently complains / cribs a lot and her past relationships did not work out because of her controlling nature. That her Exes had the VERY same problem with her.

Raqesh's problem was that Shamita is not willing to work on it or tone it down, but is adamantly stuck to 'This is who I am. I have my baggage. This is my journey. This is what I'll do'.

But when it comes to Raqesh... Shamita wants Raqesh to change who HE IS, for their connection. He's a social person, who likes talking / bonding with others. He does not like cold wars, does not like ignoring people, he cannot be black & white with anyone (especially in a house like this). She wants him to obey her a 100% and subdue himself to her authority. I am happy Raqesh is finally standing up to her, because that is not in his nature and he cannot compromise who he is, for a connection with her. She should let him be and trust him. If she's got such insecurity and trust issues, and is as black and white - then she's got to work on herself and humble herself enough to introspect on how it's coming across.

If she cannot do that - she will continue making him feel suffocated. This reminds me of sand. The tighter you try to hold sand in your hand, the more it slips away from your hand. The same goes for relationships. You cannot control, dominate, hold someone so tight to the extent they feel choked or suffocate. Raqesh clearly is not that person. So what it comes across to me is - they're different individuals and they're not compatible.

It is perfectly okay to like / care for someone or even be attracted to them. But that doesn't mean, they're the best person for you. I have been attracted to many guys in my life, that I knew weren't the best for me. They were not compatible with me, wouldn't respect or allow me to be myself. So love them from a distance! And lead a happy, dignified life with someone else who loves you and lets you be yourself.

P.S He even told Nishant, that he can be friends with her outside, but doesn't see himself being in a romantic connection with her. Told Neha this as well, that he comes with baggage & has come out of a relationship that was similar and doesn't want to walk into the same thing. I don't see them being together outside for long, even if they decide to give it a try. Raqesh would have to lose himself, to be with her. And that's a toxic and unhealthy relationship right there.

shamita is horrible, she acts like an entitled high school student who bullies others and controls her boyfriend

Originally posted by: SushantForever

Dont use such rude words na:( who knows wat happens next moment. Sorry if u mind for my words,but feeling low and guilty for wat i personally said to sidharth or many ppl..and they are no more now..

I’m not upset at your opinion - you are entitled to it. But yes, we are talking about two individuals here - one who wants to be treated with respect but continues to be someone’s doormat. The other one, who talks about respect and whatnot, but treats others exactly the opposite way!

I sympathize with you over Sid’s death; it was truely a shocker. But this is life, my dear! People come and go.

Originally posted by: mz.gigglez

I feel Shamita likes him more.

She’s a snake, I’m telling you!

Originally posted by: cutiee0034

I don't know but I genuinely feel.rakesh really cares for Shamita. And he is a man who can handle Shamita really well.

By handle u mean he can keep wooing her when she keeps throwing her tantrums and keeps insisting where am I controlling you. Humaree bhaasha mein usko handling naheen bit doormat boolatey hain. Usney Khood ne bola hain woh waisa hain naheen. But show me zaroor ban Gayaa hain….

Originally posted by: priya185

shamita is horrible, she acts like an entitled high school student who bullies others and controls her boyfriend

Great comparison! Mean Girls Part 2.