Search of Truth Part 40 updated page 149 - Page 9

Guys a humble request. I had made it earlier also. If you are discussing polar opposite views, please respect each other POV and agree to disagree and move on, than try to justify your POV and prove other person wrong. Quoting again and again creates load to the server and page can go slow

@Hadhsejyada thanks for understanding what I meant and giving a professional take to it. The part you mentioned about Saanjh is so true. Emotional manipulation where the victim feels they are guilty. Because in Maya's case the victim know they are the victim and Maya the criminal, but in emotional manipulation the abuser becomes the victim always.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@Hadhsejyada thanks for understanding what I meant and giving a professional take to it. The part you mentioned about Saanjh is so true. Emotional manipulation where the victim feels they are guilty. Because in Maya's case the victim know they are the victim and Maya the criminal, but in emotional manipulation the abuser becomes the victim always.

Originally posted by: HadhSeZyada

Exactly.

The guilt trips that saanjh is giving Arjun rn, are a form of passive aggression.

She is not a neurotypical person she believes herself to be

Originally posted by: aekiel

HSJ, Saanjh's not denying that she loves Arjun, only saying that she thinks
Arjun doesn't truly love her, and that his supposed love is a mixture of
ehsaan/rebound/pity etc.

And while she doesn't say it, his
dialogues to her at the hospital and otherwise previously ( I haven't loved you and
will never love you) will obviously be at the back of her mind.

She
wants him to be 100% sure, so that he doesn't get into something that
he regrets, and their friendship suffers as a result. And that's
why she's telling him to wait for a few days, because Arjun is an
impulsive person, and his head might become clearer later.

Saanjh would obviously be the happiest person if SaaJun happens, but she wants it to happen for the right reasons.

She is no Maya, who tells Arjun that she doesn't want his love, but only wants him, and her love is enough for the two of them.

Seems reasonably logical to me.

Whatever the case...it's odd for viewers to see a character pine for a guy throughout his single days and marriage days and then reject him when he tells her that he has feelings for her...and we are very aware that she loves him...the ink on his divorce papers is not yet dry and she is already having dreams of marriage proposals...Maya wants to be with Arjun whether he loves her not...and from the way you say it it sounds as though you find that pathetic...but as you all say saanjh has not always been treated properly by Arjun...but she is willing to forget everything as long as he really loves her which is just as pathetic

Saanjh not accepting Arjun is totally normal, after long time writers are showing something reasonable. Saanjh loves arjun, obviously she will want him. But relationship or marriage is not about one person. She has more than enough reasons to doubt his love. He is impulsive, it's a fact.

And yes Maya is intimidating to many where it is needed like in office. She directly attack like ayan, Vandana, but only when she couldn't manipulate them. Ayan, Vandana knew her. She is most experienced in creating mental prison. That's what she do firstly.

Originally posted by: Beyhadfan

Maya wants to be with Arjun whether he loves her not...and from the way you say it it sounds as though you find that pathetic

I'm not one to use harsh words like pathetic, but yes I do find that disappointing, disturbing and sad.

Imagine it this way

Boy 1- Girl, I know you loved me, but want to move away because I'm abusive, but I still want you.

Girl 1- Please stay away from my life, and let me be. I want to forget this chapter and move ahead.

Boy 1- No you can only be mine, no one else's. I don't need your love, I only need you, and my love is enough for the two of us.

How many supporters of Boy 1 would you be finding? You know the answer as well as I do- there would be shouts for the boy to "leave her alone" and give her "space".

Originally posted by: Beyhadfan

but as you all say saanjh has not always been treated properly by Arjun...but she is willing to forget everything as long as he really loves her which is just as pathetic

From my personal POV, Saanjh shouldn't forgive Arjun because he treated her like dirt in S1 and S2. I'd say as a friend, he was a complete and utter failure in S1 & S2, only surpassed by his decision not to trust the brother he claimed to love more than his life.

But theirs has been a relationship that's lasted two decades, and that is a massive factor.

Originally posted by: aekiel

I'm not one to use harsh words like pathetic, but yes I do find that disappointing, disturbing and sad.

Imagine it this way

Boy 1- Girl, I know you loved me, but want to move away because I'm abusive, but I still want you.

Girl 1- Please stay away from my life, and let me be. I want to forget this chapter and move ahead.

Boy 1- No you can only be mine, no one else's. I don't need your love, I only need you, and my love is enough for the two of us.

How many supporters of Boy 1 would you be finding? You know the answer as well as I do- there would be shouts for the boy to "leave her alone" and give her "space".



From my personal POV, Saanjh shouldn't forgive Arjun because he treated her like dirt in S1 and S2. I'd say as a friend, he was a complete and utter failure in S1 & S2, only surpassed by his decision not to trust the brother he claimed to love more than his life.

But theirs has been a relationship that's lasted two decades, and that is a massive factor.

No one is saying that what Maya wants is correct...but if you recognise that it is still pathetic for Maya to want Arjun...why don't you see as it pathetic for saanjh to still want Arjun...regardless of the relationship lasting as long as it has. People like to critisize the way that Maya has treated Arjun...yet no one recognises how poorly Arjun has treated Maya...so if Maya and Arjun were opposite genders I'm not really sure if the boy would get more criticism. He left his 8 month pregnant wife hours after she returned from a mental assylum after 6 months to go see his friend...I didn't hear any criticism. Infront of his wife he called his friend his pagalpan...where's the criticism. He told his friend that he loved her and tried to kiss her...where is the criticism. His wife's hands were burnt yet he went along and hugged his friend...where is the criticism?.

@beyhadhfan I had kept the rules of the thread in first page itself and I have reiterated it if views dont match please dont go on questioning and repeating the same thing. Agree to disagree and move on. Hope I am clear.