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@gaymsk not like that. Hope you know the idiom seher seher se ki khatha hai. You need poison to eliminate poison. So who can cut the rule in a man's world. Only a man can. Only if a man goes against that rules, the rule will change. But if a man has to do it, a woman has to help him, by seeing the world through his eyes.
It is not that we are weak. But blind rebellion doesnt help. Dont allow control, but keep the limit. If the limits has to be changed, first limits has to be kept for wrong to happen to you.
Coming to rape, a girl's dress is always blamed for rape. Her timing outside the house. Who was with her, how did she behave.
If you know there is a case in Kerala in 2011 Soumya rape case. One of the things that went in favour of the girl was her limits. She was a sales girl travelling in a passenger train modestly dressed in salwar kameez post her working hours. She was raped and no one from the so called rape apologists could come and point a finger at the victim. Reason everything they use to show victim was the reason the rape happened fell flat in Soumya's case. For the first time the finger was pointed at criminal than the girl in the society. For the first time society of Kerala realized rape is a crime and victim is not responsible for it, it is the man's attitude.
Limits will change, but you need to show injustice can happen in limits. Understand the rules of this man's world, play with the rules if you want to win. Use the same rules to hit back at them. Breaking rules wont help. They will again come up with sob story and make you a criminal.
Man wants to be the centre but does not want to take the responsibility for the same. So he creates the illusion of bringing the woman to centre and put everything on her head. Making us see the world in roles of daughter, wife, mother etc.. is the biggest funda that creates this illusion.
Keep man in the centre as sun is the centre of solar system and move around that like earth. Push him to centre to own up things. Dont jump, use his rules itself to push him to centre 😉 Come out of the roles, see the world through your eyes and decide what kind of men you want there, can you support the right men in creating that ecosystem.
A wrong man gets help, not a man who is trapped in conflicts about the stereotype the world created for him and his love for the women in his life. If you can support a man in conflicts this world will be a better place as he will be able to create a world that has gender balance.
The concept of Narayan itself is that. Sustenance of life. A balanced marriage between a man and a woman whose actions bring positive changes to the society and to the next generation.
