Is Maya capable of loving?

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Phosphorus

@Novarieaa

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Posted: 8 years ago

I have been pondering over it for a long time. She's obsessed with Arjun - she can bring hell and heaven together for him. She will hurt herself in the fear of losing Arjun.

But again she can't see him getting attached to anyone or anything else which gives him happiness. She will not even let him have his favorite food. She always feels the NEED to have absolute CONTROL over every fiber of his body. He can't take a step without her permission. Maya has ENSLAVED him to her wishes.

Is this love? Does she really see a loving huband in Arjun or a mere puppet of her hands? Can love be controlled? IMO, Maya's definition of love is so twisted that in a sane world, it's far from love. Imprisonment can't be called love. I firmly believe in not confining your love. Hence the question!

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@gaymsk

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Posted: 8 years ago

maya's character remind a movie called devil's pond , muje nhi lagta wo kabhi pyar samajh payegi , uska madness high level pe hai , de kill psychos in d end on indian tv n movies, no matter hero ho ya heroin , ex- darr , gupt , deewangi many more

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@aekiel

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Posted: 8 years ago

At the risk of sounding cheesy and corny, love is when you're able to let the other person go if he/she so desires.

From that perspective, the answer to your question is no.

Her version of love seems to be that of control- perhaps better suited to a parent rather than a spouse.

I'd like to see more Arjun-Maya interactions like the one at the breakfast table to judge their dynamic- maybe Arjun arguing for once that he would either eat the paratha, or not eat at all, and see what Maya says in reaction to that.

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Phosphorus

@Novarieaa

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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: aekiel
At the risk of sounding cheesy and corny, love is when you're able to let the other person go if he/she so desires.

From that perspective, the answer to your question is no.

Her version of love seems to be that of control- perhaps better suited to a parent rather than a spouse.

I'd like to see more Arjun-Maya interactions like the one at the breakfast table to judge their dynamic- maybe Arjun arguing for once that he would either eat the paratha, or not eat at all, and see what Maya says in reaction to that.

She's a control freak and I am afraid that's not really a good parenting style.

Rest I agree, Maya dosn't know what love truly is. The only method she knows is controlling. That's how she made F&C a successful venture but relationship is not a business deal. One gotta give space and most importantly have faith. I am sure these words are alien to Maya.

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@bugsbunny12

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Posted: 8 years ago

No...maya does not understand the difference between love and control...she feels controlling arjun is her way of controlling his well being and ensure he doesnt undergo any problem...thats her aim

whereas, in reality...this means mental enslavement...or as u described a puppet...maya knows not that arjun needs his own space, his freedom, his will...poor guy cant even eat a morsel of his desired food without her say so...

love is when you put forward ur lover's wishes ahead of ur own...

arjun is handling her well so far...bearing her for 3 years and coping with her madness without complaining to anyone 👏

now he just needs to ensure maya gets proper medical treatment...so that she can become normal and can love properly...

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@aekiel

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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: Lilac_N_Maple

She's a control freak and I am afraid that's not really a good parenting style.

Rest I agree, Maya dosn't know what love truly is. The only method she knows is controlling. That's how she made F&C a successful venture but relationship is not a business deal. One gotta give space and most importantly have faith. I am sure these words are alien to Maya.

It probably isn't in the current world (with parents preferring to be friends of their kids), but it's also a style that's proven to be reasonably effective given past evidence, especially in the younger years when children aren't equipped to make correct decisions. Works reasonably well, if one parent is the controlling, disciplinary one, and the other, somewhat lax, and both work in tandem.

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Sdaren

@Sdaren

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Posted: 8 years ago

Maya's life mantra now is to guard her wedding vachans zealously...there maybe a conflict in her because Arjun is hurting so her love for him might want to set him free but the crazy side of her want to hold on. Arjun on the other hand will want to break from all these promises but Maya will never let him. By hook or crook she will keep him by her side.

As and when Arjun's heart tilt completely to Sanjh..only then he will be free from Maya's grip ...

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Nithunavi

@Nithunavi

Dazzler

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Posted: 8 years ago

No maya isnt the one who is incapable of loving but the one who doesn't understand the right meaning and way of love.

She has grown up around surroundings like child abuse and isolatedly then u can't expect her to know what is proper way of loving.

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kavita

@kavitha_r

Sparkler

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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: Nithunavi
No maya isnt the one who is incapable of loving but the one who doesn't understand the right meaning and way of love.
She has grown up around surroundings like child abuse and isolatedly then u can't expect her to know what is proper way of loving.

That is true. Who is there to guide her to the right path? Who will tell her what is the difference between love & control? She tells Arjun what to eat & what not to eat for his well-being but she needs to be told that it is his choice at the end of the day. I feel bad for both Maya & Arjun.