@ajay very happy to see a boy's opinion on this post. I agree to it. Problem is the perception created for the girl from childhood that marriage and motherhood is the goal of her life whether she wants it or doesn't wants it. While for man it is termed as optional.
A child needs parents not just mother. And a child need harmonious home with both parents respecting each other for it to grow up to a normal, healthy individual.
I tell to get my engineering degree I had to clear 60 papers, to be promoted to a manager I had to toil for 12 years, prove my mettle, but to marry you don't need any qualification and to be a parent a role where you hold the future of a child you just need to indulge in a physical act, no test papers, to capability measurement nothing. For the most important role of your life you just need to have a biological process that is it.
If we realize for marriage we should be people who can take up responsibilities, to be a parent we should be people who should be able to guide the child the right way. We need to analyze if we have it in us to take up these roles.
I know people who regret divorces because at young age when they were not prepared to play the roles they were married. Then they took some decisions and then cry over split milk.
What I liked most about beyhadh is the fact that it is showing us the mirror of what a door mat woman is doing to the society. Today we say girls are demanding this and that, go to the root, you will find a door mat mother or some other close female in her life. The girl simply doesn't want that fate but she doesn't know what to do about it. Hence try to control the man in her life which def not the right way.
I myself is a girl who has grown up seeing the my mom and aunt and has struggled a lot to get a perspective of what I want to do with my married life. I would always be thankful to my spouse for letting me know men always don't prefer doormat woman, they also have issues which the society doesn't allow them to express, they will also like to have an independently thinking woman who can be a support to them in hour of need and in fact they respect such a lady lot.
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