Arjun clearly doesnt love saanjh, and Saanjh is also obsessed - Page 4

Saanjh does keep high expectations of love from Arjun and she definitely needs to come out of this extreme attachment and focus more on herself. But Saanjh's actions cannot be compared with Maya. Because Saanjh isn't trying to manipulate situations and come in between Arjun and Maya. Whatever she feels, it's she who is getting hurt. She isn't trying to hurt anyone else. And that's a big difference.

Originally posted by: nitzy_21

I myself get confused as to what terms to use, possesive/obsessive, psychopath/sociopath. But i believe most of us r possessive abt d ones v love, be it parents, siblings, friends or lovers. Saanjh talking constantly abt Arjun n cropping his pics doesn't look like possesive to me. Most of us wudn't do it. It looks obsessive. Itz my pov.

^^ I'm pretty sure there is no point in arguing here because no one would understand the difference or accept it. Just keep arguing for the sake of it. So I would not like to comment further. Its OK to have different POV but confusing 2 traits and trying to make other people approve of some others ignorance is not right.

Originally posted by: .bluebolt

This is one article which clearly distinguishes possessiveness and obsessiveness

https://bondsnbinds.wordpress.com/2013/01/21/love-possessiveness-and-obsessiveness-how-are-the-three-different/

I will just quote a few lines..

"Possessiveness is the second aspect which many people confuse with love. You are mine; no matter whomever you talk to, you will always give me the foremost attentive span. You belong to me and so does your life; I have the right to think for you on your behalf; I have the right to dominate your actions to a certain extent; I know what is right for our relationship and will decide on things; why do you need to watch a movie till late night with your friends?; I don't want you to talk to this person, so you will not; you are hurting me in doing this!; I will leave you if you repeat this mistake!' - All these are signals of a possessive relationship. More than often, every relationship has a natural ingredient of possessiveness in it, even parent feel possessive of their children! That's is not wrong!

Obsessiveness is the most hateful condition, a relationship can be in. The prime motive of an obsessive partner is to distance you from your friends and own you completely, so much so, that your life is no more your's. It is the pain that he feels without you being physically and mentally present for him that would drive him to separate you from all other relationships! Generally an obsessive partner would threaten you of dying if you left him or spoke to somebody else. "

I didn't write this. Someone intelligent wrote this and from no angle I find Sanjh obsessive. Arjun always wanted that attention from her, so she gave it to him. Never once Arjun told Saanjh that he don't want her help but always complained if she was not there for him to help him. Now if tommorow Arjun says or Sanjh feels that he don't want her in his life & Maya is enough, I GUARANTEE THAT SANJH WILL BACK OFF. She will never try to separate Arjun and Maya, if she feels Arjun is happy with Maya. An obsessive lover could never do that.

I am not saying sanjh obsessed but something like delusional. She clearly seeing her place in Arjun's life as only his best friend,but still she is denying it and always in her own dreamland. She is a very good girl but she should know that pyar jabardasti nahi kiya jata.

If Saanjh is chipku for Arjun, then why after saying chipku still he runs for her at end of the day.
scolding, teasing, caring and even feeling irritated is common between 2 best friends. So same for Arjun and Saanjh. He gets irritated with her behavior(EX: interfering calls when he is busy with his boss work) and so does she (EX: his waking up and not taking care of habits).
But that doesnt mean they dont like each other company at all. Arjun needs Sanjh in his life. She was there and she is there.
If Arjun felt she is chipku and doesnt give space, why cant he go away himself. He comes so closer to her to that extent he lies on her laps and says her not to go home and she is tension reliever.

So far Saanjh realised her friendship with Arjun is now love. And arjun is not realised. She is waiting for him to realise and making him to express the same as she feels he does so.
She is no where forcing him to fall in love as a obsessive lover does.

A friend or family member will be possessive of their friend or other family members.
And so does Saanjh for her best friend. Like Maya is possessive of her Mother.

Originally posted by: Majaan

I am not saying sanjh obsessed but something like delusional. She clearly seeing her place in Arjun's life as only his best friend,but still she is denying it and always in her own dreamland. She is a very good girl but she should know that pyar jabardasti nahi kiya jata.

Copy pasting my view on her family from another thread-

Can anyone tell me one thing if your offspring is in love with his/her best friend, then is it mendatory for that best friend to love back? I mean Arjun is not bound to love Sanjh.if she loves him like anything like to forget the whole world for him, it is her problem.why blaming Arjun to not reciprocate Sanjh's feelings. But every time this Mathur family come up and start to blame Arjun. Sanjh's father was somehow sensible in this case at times, but her mother is a gone case.i mean which mother remain So dream for her offspring? 🥱

Maya is definitely obsessed but I would like to say that Saanjh is no less when it comes to Arjun. he has never looked on Saanjh in that way. He got attracted to Maya at the first instance. Saanjh keeps calling him during the working hours. If he does not take her call, she comes to his workplace. That is really disgusting. The second thing is if he loved Saanjh, he would have brought the proposal to her parents. But, he didn't bother even a bit when her parents had found a match for her.It was Saanjh who made it obvious to the prospective groom that she loves Arjun. Are there any such rules that if a person loves somebody(be it their childhood friend), the other person should reciprocate to his/her feelings? So I will say that Saanjh is also obsessed. She won't give up even if Arjun tells her that he loves Maya.

Originally posted by: katrinasalman

Maya is definitely obsessed but I would like to say that Saanjh is no less when it comes to Arjun. he has never looked on Saanjh in that way. He got attracted to Maya at the first instance. Saanjh keeps calling him during the working hours. If he does not take her call, she comes to his workplace. That is really disgusting. The second thing is if he loved Saanjh, he would have brought the proposal to her parents. But, he didn't bother even a bit when her parents had found a matchfor her.It was Saanjh who made itobvious to the prospective groom that she loves Arjun. Are there any such rules that if a person loves somebody(be it their childhood friend), the other person should reciprocate to his/her feelings? So I will say that Saanjh is also obsessed. She won't give up even if Arjun tells her that he loves Maya.

Well said!!! People dont think that saanjh is obsessed but i still do. They think its her friendship. To be honest if my friends were always annoying and being chipku i get mad and tell them to give me space.
She has to learn to guve arjun some space. Atleast maya isnt always up his ass lol unlike saanjh.
Saanjh has to know whaf arjun is doing what he is eating who he is with and just everything about him.
Thank god otherwise he would have to ask her before going to the bathroom as well. LOL 😆 😲 😉

Originally posted by: ishakumar

Well said!!! People dont think that saanjh is obsessed but i still do. They think its her friendship. To be honest if my friends were always annoying and being chipku i get mad and tell them to give me space.
She has to learn to guve arjun some space. Atleast maya isnt always up his ass lol unlike saanjh.
Saanjh has to know whaf arjun is doing what he is eating who he is with and just everything about him.
Thank god otherwise he would have to ask her before going to the bathroom as well. LOL 😆 😲 😉