Originally posted by: myviewprem
OK so Maya a young 21 year old out of college met MJ an savue business man
MJ played emotional games with her and convinced her of his love
Maya fell for that game and accepted his love
So whose at more fault?
MJ obviously as hes married and elder in his mid 40s
But is Maya all that right just because shes younger
How can a girl love a man in mid 40s when she is in her early 20s?
I mean in society usually a spouse age difference is zero to ten or twelve years (0-12 years)
Anything above that is a bit not normal and very rare
Manvi is 21 years old and MJ must be 45-47 than (If Rudra was 20 years old MJ has to be 25-27 when Rudra is born)
Ok. On one side you clearly state that MJ is at fault but your points about Maya are textbook victim blaming. Also you are talking about the same society where nobody raises questions you raised if maya was a guy I am pretty sure, people would have blamed MJ only. Also in our society nobody raises questions even if the husband is like two decades older. If wife is older even by 5 years or so, it becomes talk of the town.
No matter how many flower MJ sent or did emotional drama of his wife having affair Maya should not have fallen in his trap
Second issue is Maya is unmarried and young does she not want to marry another young and unmarried boy. Why she want to marry 45-47 year old man whose like 22-25 years elder to her. Any girl in her right mind will think all this while loving someone. Forget girl even boys will think all that.
Ever heard of " the heart wants what it wants "? Love does not happen looking at someone's age or bank balance. Maya was a naive and a middle class girl who probably was just starting out to make her way in the world. MJ emotionally manipulated her and her falling for that is not her fault. She made mistakes. Everyone does but that does not mean she is to blame. Any girl in love will think of the factors you mentioned but she would not just run away from love just because it is challenging. Being in love does not mean you have a bed of roses. Two different people genuinely in love have to overcome a lot of challenges to let their relationship survive and thrive. If a person does not fight for it, it means it was not really love. Moreover, it was genuine from Maya's side so she tried to probably overcome that but MJ made her a victim and shattered her.
Unless some girls want rich men and status etc luxury in life so may fall for older rich men. But Maya is not that type here. So why she loved MJ?
If you are actually looking for genuine and rational reasons to fall in love with someone then it isn't love. It happens, it cannot be planned. We don't know the full story yet so I am guessing apart from manipulation by MJ who showed her what she wanted to see in a partner, she was also completely new to the idea that people like MJ do what they do in name of love. It is clear she sees love as something beautiful, pure and genuine even today despite of her claims that she hates love otherwise she would not have fallen for rudra.
Maya is born and brought up in Mumbai not a village girl who can be deceived by emotional drama easily
Especially girls even in villages can differentiate a man whose hitting on them or genuine
But Maya could not??
In this story Maya, Rudra, Rishi all acting so naive and stupid
I doubt any city bred girl or boy will be so innocent in todays times(or 10 years back too) because there is so much exposure to internet, mobile, outside world etc
I can understand a girl born in 1960s or 1970s may be acting so innocent but 2010 its not done
There are all kind of people in this world. Not everyone is shrewd or smart enough to see through manipulations and ugliness of people like MJ. It does not matter whether you are a city person or not if by nature one is sweet, positive and loves to see the best in people. Teenagers have access to internet and all the info in the world and yet they end up falling for wrong people and doing stupid things that shouldn't and some even get hurt the way maya's did. if every girl or guy could see through other people, half of the crimes and heart breaks wouldn't occur. You can't blame the victim.
Second issue you hate MJ because he cheated you but you want his child in your womb, really. Any other girl will leave mjs child. Or they will abort and move on in life. Even unmarried boy friends cheat and move on. If you get pregnant will you not abort unmarried boy friends child and move on in life. Why does Maya want MJs child when he has cheated her?
Are you even serious right now ? Not every woman in Maya's situation will react the same. You talk about being modern and yet you are stuck with the notion that a woman should abort her child just because she is unmarried. Loving your own child regardless how he/she came to be is what being a mother is. It does not matter how the child came to be. Maya connected with her baby and loved it. She would have loved that child regardless of the pain she endured. Not every girl aborts her child just because the father is a jacka**.
MJs drama of drinking and cutting wrist is so filmy, even village illiterate woman shall not fall for that. Thats so classic man using to hook up drama. Also this wife cheating on you, its so silly. You also are cheating with Diya. I would say come on antara cheat on that MJ and teach him lesson of his life. I do not think antara has ever cheated MJ shes very decent woman. Antara would not be taking drugs if she had cheated on MJ, than scores equal na you will not suffer inside. Rudra has got her character, innocence and taking all others pain on himself.
Antara may not have cheated on MJ but she is far from decent. The whole Roy family except rishi and rudra is rotten to its core. You have your own perspective on how Maya should have seen through the drama but as I said every person has their own perspective and it varies based on who they are on the inside. Rudra cannot be compared to antara because rudra actually has guts to stand for himself and call spade a spade. Moreover, he does not go around destroying other people's lives to hide his own cowardice and weaknesses. Antara is reaping what she sow.