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Posted: 7 years ago
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No, no - I swear am not spamming.. its just that I have so many thoughts, questions, ideas about Aditya and Zoya that I have to get it out of my mind.. 😊
For a second, let's forget that Yash and Pooja did not cheat ( I know the jury is still out on that one). What I mean, lets forget that Yash and Pooja even knew each other and each of them are happily married to Zoya and Aditya respectively..

And yes, both of them are very much alive..

Now, think of this scenario, where Aditya and Zoya meet and interact (with Pooja and Yash alive ofcourse and who ofcourse dont know each other)... bear with me.. am going somewhere with this.

We know there is a palpable chemistry between Aditya and Zoya.. how would these two have acted then? Would they have been indifferent to each other? How would they have conducted themselves with each other?

I guess the question am driving at is a larger one.. but basing it on Zoya and Aditya for easy reference.. what if people find their soulmates in another, after marriage? What is the outcome? How does it pan out?

Am all ears.. 😊

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Posted: 7 years ago
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Well, I believe that's what happened😆
Just in this scenario, it was Yash and Pooja instead of Zoya and Aditya and they are dead.
And if Yash and Pooja can start an affair even though being married, I don't see why Aditya and Zoya wouldn't😆
So, if Yash and Pooja were alive and Aditya and Zoya fell in love with each other, I think the outcome can be:

1. They part ways and live in a loveless marriage for the rest of their lives
2. Start an extra marital affair
3. Talk to their partners and try to mend their relationship
4. Talk to their partners and mutually part ways with them

In case of no. 1: they could do that, after all, it's their morals and beliefs being questioned here. It'll be very hard for them as they love each other but are bound with someone else. Pain for all four.

In case of no. 2: easy step. Start a relationship in hiding, have the time of their lives by keeping their spouses in the dark. Happiness for two people, sadness for the other two.

In case of no. 3: thoughtful step taken due to guilt of realising their feelings for another person. Unknown result. If relationship mends, happiness for all. If it doesn't, sadness for all. But still, their spouses cannot become their soulmates after they have already found their soulmate in another.

In case of no. 4: best step. Communicate and discuss. Their partners may feel betrayed and upset but it's better for everyone in the long run. Happiness for all four.

So, Yash and Pooja didn't take 1, 3 & 4. Instead they chose 2. Why?
But if the case was what you suggested, I think Zoya and Aditya would have taken 1 or 2. Both extreme cases.

Imo.
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Originally posted by: SanyaEterna

Well, I believe that's what happened😆

Just in this scenario, it was Yash and Pooja instead of Zoya and Aditya and they are dead.
And if Yash and Pooja can start an affair even though being married, I don't see why Aditya and Zoya wouldn't😆
So, if Yash and Pooja were alive and Aditya and Zoya fell in love with each other, I think the outcome can be:

1. They part ways and live in a loveless marriage for the rest of their lives
2. Start an extra marital affair
3. Talk to their partners and try to mend their relationship
4. Talk to their partners and mutually part ways with them

In case of no. 1: they could do that, after all, it's their morals and beliefs being questioned here. It'll be very hard for them as they love each other but are bound with someone else. Pain for all four.

In case of no. 2: easy step. Start a relationship in hiding, have the time of their lives by keeping their spouses in the dark. Happiness for two people, sadness for the other two.

In case of no. 3: thoughtful step taken due to guilt of realising their feelings for another person. Unknown result. If relationship mends, happiness for all. If it doesn't, sadness for all. But still, their spouses cannot become their soulmates after they have already found their soulmate in another.

In case of no. 4: best step. Communicate and discuss. Their partners may feel betrayed and upset but it's better for everyone in the long run. Happiness for all four.

So, Yash and Pooja didn't take 1, 3 & 4. Instead they chose 2. Why?
But if the case was what you suggested, I think Zoya and Aditya would have taken 1 or 2. Both extreme cases.

Imo.


Lovely response Sanya.. you actually thought it through.. 😊

I would have liked them to resort to 4, personally.. but having seen their personalities, I think they are most likely to resort to 1; so far both Aditya and Zoya have been portrayed as honorable and taking option 2 seems blasphemy.. but again, we are talking of love here and that makes the most rational ones behave irrationally.


On another note, option 3 is a no option actually.. coz here am not saying that people are getting attracted to third party due to lack of something in their current relationship ( ofcourse that too exists but not in the hypothetical scenario that am talkin of) .. its just that one's pull to another is stronger..
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Posted: 7 years ago
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If Poosh were alive and still happily married, I feel that AdiYa will not have given each other even a single look because for them love and commitment means something else.

There have been so many analysis on AdiYa's faults that could have made the other 2 cheat, but the truth is I am very very sure Poosh were not 100% perfect either. But Adi and Zo have not shown to complain at all and would have made sure they adjusted as much as possible. So if the other 2 were alive, these 2 would not have acted on any inner soul calling though they may feel incomplete. Seeing the way they are, I feel they would have compromised with their respective marriages and not caused any hurt to their partner.

There are real-life couples who keep love aside and give prominence to duty/honour first. AdiYa would have fallen in that category which is why we should be thankful the other 2 are dead, cheating or no cheating. They wouldn't let their partners know they are unhappy and the only people they will be hurting will be themselves. So no one is the wiser.
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Originally posted by: V4o9

If Poosh were alive and still happily married, I feel that AdiYa will not have given each other even a single look because for them love and commitment means something else.


There have been so many analysis on AdiYa's faults that could have made the other 2 cheat, but the truth is I am very very sure Poosh were not 100% perfect either. But Adi and Zo have not shown to complain at all and would have made sure they adjusted as much as possible. So if the other 2 were alive, these 2 would not have acted on any inner soul calling though they may feel incomplete. Seeing the way they are, I feel they would have compromised with their respective marriages and not caused any hurt to their partner.

There are real-life couples who keep love aside and give prominence to duty/honour first. AdiYa would have fallen in that category which is why we should be thankful the other 2 are dead, cheating or no cheating. They wouldn't let their partners know they are unhappy and the only people they will be hurting will be themselves. So no one is the wiser.


I agree with you completely... word for word!
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Originally posted by: _Dexter_

I read this answer on Quora sometime back, so I thought I would share the link (don't want to copy paste without his permission) since it feels kinda relevant to what you asked in general.


https://www.quora.com/What-should-I-do-if-I-am-married-but-I-have-feelings-for-someone-else/answer/James-Ogden-8

A very practical but hard thing to do, in case anyone is going through it.





Very interesting response on Quora..

It also, not in a related way, reminds me of the dialogue in Kabhi Alvida na Kehna.. Nahi Doondoge.. toh Nahi Milega.. SRK's response to Rani to the same question..

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