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Originally posted by: SanyaEterna
See, I don't think that Yash or Pooja had the affair for physical intimacy or lust, if you say. Yes, maybe they did sleep together in the later phase of their affair but I think the initial reason of the starting of the affair was the emotional and mental support the other was providing.
They fell in love with each other's qualities, which they may have expected or wanted from their spouses but couldn't get (due to whatever reason), and not with each other's body.Like in last night's episode, Mahi said that maybe Yash was having an affair with another woman because she gave him the emotional and mental support and encouragement that Zoya could not.I am not saying that Zoya could not have given the emotional and mental support/ encouragement if Yash had told her about his problems. The real thing is that Yash did not tell Zoya anything and instead, shared his problems with someone else.Why do you think Yash did not tell Zoya? Is it because he did not trust her enough? Is it because he thought she wouldn't understand? No. It was because he wanted to protect her from anything bad. Because he knew that she has lived a sheltered life till now and he wanted to maintain that.Similarly, Pooja hid things from Aditya not because she did not trust him enough or because she thought he wouldn't understand. She hid things to not break him further. She knew he was hurt after his father's betrayal. And maybe her problem was related to something he was sensitive about.And as @Santiago24 said, there may have been reasons for not divorcing. Like, Yash and Zoya had fought the world to marry each other. Do you think Yash would break a marriage for which he had fought the world? Do you think he had the guts to tell Zoya, I am sorry but I have fallen out of love with you and love someone else?Or Pooja. Aditya was her best friend. Do you think she would have broken a marriage with her best friend without hurting him? Do you think she had the guts to tell Aditya, I am sorry but I have fallen out of love with you and love someone else?And because it's easier for broken people to confide in broken people. So they did.If they had fallen out of love with their spouses, it wasn't their fault. If they fell in love with each other. it wasn't their fault. Because no one in the world has control over their feelings. Because it is very much possible to fall out of love with someone and takes time to fall in love with them again. But before Yash and Pooja could fall back in love with Zoya and Aditya respectively, they found each other and fell in love instead.Their only fault was that they hid things and did not communicate or talk or discuss anything with A or Z.Their only fault became the biggest revelation in Aditya and Zoya's life.
@ BOLD - Alright, It is very much possible to fall out of love with a person. Being in love and actually being soulmates are 2 different things. Having said that, any relationship that has to be hidden or lied about definitely bodes ill for everyone involved.
If they knew they had to hide it for reasons you mentioned or any other reason, it means they themselves are aware that their approach to it is not correct.
So if they are afraid of hurting their partners, they will have an affair for the rest of their lives? Cheating is another word for BETRAYAL. If they had the guts to betray the absolute adoration and trust their partners had for them, then they should have had the guts to face it head on and seperate from their spouses. And even before that, they should have talked about their other troubles with their partners who seems to be really supportive and who looks like they would have understood (not the betrayal but the other troubles I mean).
It may be simple to say their only fault was lack of communication - Look at what that seemingly small mistake has caused mental issues in Adi, though Zo is in denial mode! If your small mistake can cause such pain and hatred, that mistake is not small in any way.
Why can't they break a marriage because they fought against the world earlier or could not hurt their childhood friend? It is better than hurting them any other way. Marriage takes a lot of work. If you cheat today, you will cheat later too. So, better to walk out than keep hurting someone.
THE ABOVE RANT IS ASSUMING THEY WERE CHEATING. I still think Poo is innocent.
