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So far this week has been going on pretty well as far as I am concerned - it's well paced and the story is developing pretty nicely! Speaking of the last three episodes on the whole, there has been some major development on the personal front for Bani. She went from being someone who was perfectly content adopting her mother's dreams and considering them her own TO someone who now distinctly has her own dreams/desires with respect to her wedding and they don't need to necessarily align with her mother's desires anymore. Gone are the days when Desho's fairytale-NRI-life was real to Bani - where the comforts it supposedly provides were SAFE and TRUE.. Since her meeting with Rano, Bani has sort of lost faith in the validity and safety of that make believe life that her mother so desperately believes in. And so now SHE doesn't really want to marry an NRI on the possibility that there may be a "perfect life" waiting for her at the other end.. Finally, her dreams are different than her mother's and NOW the real conflict begins. Because until she realized that she wanted different things than her mother, it was easy to follow in whatever path her mother set out for her and do whatever was needed to get the family together. There was no "sacrifice", no "conflict" in the picture.. But now things aren't so simple anymore. And add to that the fact that yesterday mami jee went through a phase of verbal vomit where she basically said all sorts of unneccessary nonsense to Desho and you get a Bani who is severely torn between doing what she NEEDS to do for HER MOTHER, her dignity and her happiness OR doing what she WANTS to do for HERSELF. And as long as they keep us aware of Bani's thought process through this inner conflict, I think I'll rather enjoy this track.
Speaking of which, I really liked the scene today where Bani went to pray at the Gurdwara to ask for guidance or a sign - something to tell her what she needs to do. And that the first thing that could serve as a "sign" was interpreted by Bani as doing what she WANTS to do and doing right by herself - LOVED this! This was such a real and human reaction to conflict - it's always so easy to look for whatever "sign" we can find that reinforces our belief that we should do what we WANT and what makes us feel BETTER at the end. Of course, later when she saw that this rishta would seemingly bring the families together, she now uses the same sign to imply that maybe it isn't what she WANTS to do but rather what she SHOULD do that was being hinted at.. This "sign" is really just a crutch for her to justify whatever decision she may taken - whether it's one driven by her sense of self preservation or her guilt/concern towards her family. But really, this was such a HUMAN thing to show! 👏
And if I'm to mention a few more random and out of order things, I really liked Desho's enthusiasm yesterday after getting the rishta k she even forgot about the whole "their side" deal and actually looked over the wall to share the picture of the possible groom with Beeji (read "anyone who would listen!" 😆).. It really solidifies my belief that Desho wasn't angry at NIRVAAL for not fulfilling her dreams than she was at the fact that her dreams weren't fulfilled to begin with. So that once she saw a possibility for her dreams being accomplished another way, she found it that much easier to forget a 20 year feud (prolonged by HER to begin with) in an instant.. And later when she realized that Nirvaal had gone through the effort of doing a background check on the guy, that's all it took for her to go ahead and extend a peace offering by inviting Nirvaal and family over for when the groom's family comes - a SMALL gesture of course (and one not so greatly executed either), but like Beeji said a step in the right direction.. Because she's already started to let go of her anger "at Nirvaal" since her unaccomplished dreams are now looking like they will be realized after all. Although now that I think of it, will this be used as an excuse by Desho later when the marriage falls through k Nirvaal did the background check toh he "purposefully" mucked up details that could hint at what a NOT good rishta this may be for Bani (assuming the guy will desert her after the wedding..) 🤔..? Waiting and watching..
Also, props to Desho for still keeping her head in the game and waiting to have a full check done into the groom's family before agreeing to the rishta! Just because they are NRI doesn't mean they are perfect and doesn't mean Bani HAS to agree to them if the precap is any suggestion. That was a pleasant surprise to me because I'd thought that Desho would be totally blind to all flaws in the groom and to any protests on Bani's part. So the fact that they'll leave this as Bani's decision and have her contend with her conflict/confusion on her OWN is something I appreciate about this situation so far. Yay for no "bad mummy jees who stand in the path of true lowe by making Bani marry some NRI!".. 😆😆
And just a special mention for Bani's father's (cannot remember his name. STILL 😳) expressions when Desho suggested that Nirvaal and his family come over to meet the groom tomorrow. Oh the look on his face! Such joy and HOPE.. *sigh* See, THAT face alone makes me realize all over again what a CRIME Desho has committed by keeping two brothers apart for 20 years and keeping a mother from seeing both her sons happy and TOGETHER for just that long. *sigh* No matter how deep her motivation, just for now, just for that look on that man's face, I can't forgive Desho at the moment.
And speaking of this rishta that was deemed impossible by mami jee a few moments before it was spoken of, for some reason I really thought that the mami didn't actually MEAN to be rude or vicious in her comments even though they did come off like that 🤔. She seemed more like a woman without tact than one who was trying to be purposefully vindictive. She meant well (I felt) and was saying the right things (logical, realistic things) - if only they were said in the right MANNER and TONE. There's a right way to say things and a wrong way and she clearly went for the later (which doesn't help with Bani's conflict because if I was in Bani's place I'd find it that much harder to say no to a rishta after my mother has been humiliated like that for it just earlier in the day). But that's just what I felt and I may have to later eat my words if they reveal her as an "evil" person - although they haven't shown any all out caricatures of "evil vamps" yet so maybe I won't have to take back my words after all.. 😆
Continuing my random comments, Sohum luckily (or not really!) happens to be right there to witness Desho's initial insult and the news of an NRI rishta for Bani right after that so thankfully THAT won't be dragged at least. But he is still refusing from budging from his need to have everything wrapped up neatly in a bow before discussing his own rishta for Bani with anyone.. You definitely called this Anu! He's pakka going to be in denial until the moment she gets married - filhaal it's "abhi ek rishta aya hai, kaal aik aur aye ga aur phir baat pakki ho jaye gi" scenario that has him upset and later it will be the "uski shadi tai ho gayi and I just need a little bit more time for the visa to come through" excuse that he'll be clinging on to. It just looks like he's too far deep into his own "planning to get everything just RIGHT before the proposal" that he isn't going to recognize when it may be too late to plan and imperative to ACT.. 🤔
Also, really liked Rajji trying to speak with Sohum after the fact and while at first I was a bit upset with her for trying to beat around the bush with the issue, I did like the reason that they gave for her doing so. I thought they'd use the usual "he hasn't CONFESSED yet so I can't call him out on his feelings UNTIL he confesses" bit to justify Rajji holding herself back.. But I was pleasantly surprised that she was simply doing what came as second nature to her after 20 years of conditioning - keeping her friendship with Bani a secret. She WANTS to talk about this with Sohum, maybe even discuss how to PREVENT this from happening, but she can't do that without letting him know how much she cares for Bani and after 20 some years of showing otherwise, it's difficult to let go of that facade. At least for now while there is still SOME hope that things will work out. Maybe once things seems to be going down the point of no return that she'll decide to throw caution to the wind and just do what is needed for Bani at that moment. Lets see... 🤔
And this brings me to another great scene in the episode - Ghuggi and Rajji... 😆😆😆😆😆 Just like with Sohum, Rajji tries to get Ghuggi to ask after Sohum without giving anything away about her relationship with Bani or her knowing about Sohum's feelings for the later. I have to say Rajji is pretty smart at doing all this without being detected or doubted about the same! *impressed muh* 😆 Also.. Humara apna Punjab idol and his litany of songs! 😆😆 And what's better is that even HE knows how bad he is at singing and how torturous the whole thing is - I mean he uses it as a threat against Sohum to get him to speak about what's wrong.. 🤣I seriously love this character! Manages to leave me chuckling like an idiot each time he comes on! 😆😆
Special mention: A new Saiyaan verse! And what an apt fit for the situation!
And with that I think my completely random and all over the place ramble is done and I am ready to hit the sack.. 😆😆 Pretty sure I forgot some points I wanted to mention but I may come back and ramble in one of the later posts tomorrow once/if I remember. Excited about tomorrow though! Hope they at least show Nirvaal and family interacting with Desho and her family even if they don't introduce the groom and his family until Friday. 😃 Here's to hoping!
Speaking of which, I really liked the scene today where Bani went to pray at the Gurdwara to ask for guidance or a sign - something to tell her what she needs to do. And that the first thing that could serve as a "sign" was interpreted by Bani as doing what she WANTS to do and doing right by herself - LOVED this! This was such a real and human reaction to conflict - it's always so easy to look for whatever "sign" we can find that reinforces our belief that we should do what we WANT and what makes us feel BETTER at the end. Of course, later when she saw that this rishta would seemingly bring the families together, she now uses the same sign to imply that maybe it isn't what she WANTS to do but rather what she SHOULD do that was being hinted at.. This "sign" is really just a crutch for her to justify whatever decision she may taken - whether it's one driven by her sense of self preservation or her guilt/concern towards her family. But really, this was such a HUMAN thing to show! 👏
And if I'm to mention a few more random and out of order things, I really liked Desho's enthusiasm yesterday after getting the rishta k she even forgot about the whole "their side" deal and actually looked over the wall to share the picture of the possible groom with Beeji (read "anyone who would listen!" 😆).. It really solidifies my belief that Desho wasn't angry at NIRVAAL for not fulfilling her dreams than she was at the fact that her dreams weren't fulfilled to begin with. So that once she saw a possibility for her dreams being accomplished another way, she found it that much easier to forget a 20 year feud (prolonged by HER to begin with) in an instant.. And later when she realized that Nirvaal had gone through the effort of doing a background check on the guy, that's all it took for her to go ahead and extend a peace offering by inviting Nirvaal and family over for when the groom's family comes - a SMALL gesture of course (and one not so greatly executed either), but like Beeji said a step in the right direction.. Because she's already started to let go of her anger "at Nirvaal" since her unaccomplished dreams are now looking like they will be realized after all. Although now that I think of it, will this be used as an excuse by Desho later when the marriage falls through k Nirvaal did the background check toh he "purposefully" mucked up details that could hint at what a NOT good rishta this may be for Bani (assuming the guy will desert her after the wedding..) 🤔..? Waiting and watching..
Also, props to Desho for still keeping her head in the game and waiting to have a full check done into the groom's family before agreeing to the rishta! Just because they are NRI doesn't mean they are perfect and doesn't mean Bani HAS to agree to them if the precap is any suggestion. That was a pleasant surprise to me because I'd thought that Desho would be totally blind to all flaws in the groom and to any protests on Bani's part. So the fact that they'll leave this as Bani's decision and have her contend with her conflict/confusion on her OWN is something I appreciate about this situation so far. Yay for no "bad mummy jees who stand in the path of true lowe by making Bani marry some NRI!".. 😆😆
And just a special mention for Bani's father's (cannot remember his name. STILL 😳) expressions when Desho suggested that Nirvaal and his family come over to meet the groom tomorrow. Oh the look on his face! Such joy and HOPE.. *sigh* See, THAT face alone makes me realize all over again what a CRIME Desho has committed by keeping two brothers apart for 20 years and keeping a mother from seeing both her sons happy and TOGETHER for just that long. *sigh* No matter how deep her motivation, just for now, just for that look on that man's face, I can't forgive Desho at the moment.
And speaking of this rishta that was deemed impossible by mami jee a few moments before it was spoken of, for some reason I really thought that the mami didn't actually MEAN to be rude or vicious in her comments even though they did come off like that 🤔. She seemed more like a woman without tact than one who was trying to be purposefully vindictive. She meant well (I felt) and was saying the right things (logical, realistic things) - if only they were said in the right MANNER and TONE. There's a right way to say things and a wrong way and she clearly went for the later (which doesn't help with Bani's conflict because if I was in Bani's place I'd find it that much harder to say no to a rishta after my mother has been humiliated like that for it just earlier in the day). But that's just what I felt and I may have to later eat my words if they reveal her as an "evil" person - although they haven't shown any all out caricatures of "evil vamps" yet so maybe I won't have to take back my words after all.. 😆
Continuing my random comments, Sohum luckily (or not really!) happens to be right there to witness Desho's initial insult and the news of an NRI rishta for Bani right after that so thankfully THAT won't be dragged at least. But he is still refusing from budging from his need to have everything wrapped up neatly in a bow before discussing his own rishta for Bani with anyone.. You definitely called this Anu! He's pakka going to be in denial until the moment she gets married - filhaal it's "abhi ek rishta aya hai, kaal aik aur aye ga aur phir baat pakki ho jaye gi" scenario that has him upset and later it will be the "uski shadi tai ho gayi and I just need a little bit more time for the visa to come through" excuse that he'll be clinging on to. It just looks like he's too far deep into his own "planning to get everything just RIGHT before the proposal" that he isn't going to recognize when it may be too late to plan and imperative to ACT.. 🤔
Also, really liked Rajji trying to speak with Sohum after the fact and while at first I was a bit upset with her for trying to beat around the bush with the issue, I did like the reason that they gave for her doing so. I thought they'd use the usual "he hasn't CONFESSED yet so I can't call him out on his feelings UNTIL he confesses" bit to justify Rajji holding herself back.. But I was pleasantly surprised that she was simply doing what came as second nature to her after 20 years of conditioning - keeping her friendship with Bani a secret. She WANTS to talk about this with Sohum, maybe even discuss how to PREVENT this from happening, but she can't do that without letting him know how much she cares for Bani and after 20 some years of showing otherwise, it's difficult to let go of that facade. At least for now while there is still SOME hope that things will work out. Maybe once things seems to be going down the point of no return that she'll decide to throw caution to the wind and just do what is needed for Bani at that moment. Lets see... 🤔
And this brings me to another great scene in the episode - Ghuggi and Rajji... 😆😆😆😆😆 Just like with Sohum, Rajji tries to get Ghuggi to ask after Sohum without giving anything away about her relationship with Bani or her knowing about Sohum's feelings for the later. I have to say Rajji is pretty smart at doing all this without being detected or doubted about the same! *impressed muh* 😆 Also.. Humara apna Punjab idol and his litany of songs! 😆😆 And what's better is that even HE knows how bad he is at singing and how torturous the whole thing is - I mean he uses it as a threat against Sohum to get him to speak about what's wrong.. 🤣I seriously love this character! Manages to leave me chuckling like an idiot each time he comes on! 😆😆
Special mention: A new Saiyaan verse! And what an apt fit for the situation!
Ek taraf hain khushiyaan teri, ek taraf hain log ve..
Mann ki maney ya apnon ki, tu raha aj sooch ve..
Kehti hai har dil mey Rab to, sun le dil ki sun le Rab ko..
Ek ishara mil jaye ga jab milenge jog ve..
Chad de us pe us ne hi sab jodiyan banvaiyaan..
Mann ki maney ya apnon ki, tu raha aj sooch ve..
Kehti hai har dil mey Rab to, sun le dil ki sun le Rab ko..
Ek ishara mil jaye ga jab milenge jog ve..
Chad de us pe us ne hi sab jodiyan banvaiyaan..
And with that I think my completely random and all over the place ramble is done and I am ready to hit the sack.. 😆😆 Pretty sure I forgot some points I wanted to mention but I may come back and ramble in one of the later posts tomorrow once/if I remember. Excited about tomorrow though! Hope they at least show Nirvaal and family interacting with Desho and her family even if they don't introduce the groom and his family until Friday. 😃 Here's to hoping!
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