Isn't this abuse?

Hi All,

I'm a lurker in these forums and have just started watching Bandini. After watching the episodes from
the last few days and basically catching up on the story so far, I could not help but comment. Why do
we enjoy see young Indian women being abused? Don't get me wrong, I love my soppy love stories,
not bothered by age differences and I like Ronit Roy.

DM-Santo marriage is the classic exploitation that happens in our rural (and urban) areas to poor uneducated young women. DM is being protrayed as this kind and just man, so did this just 50 year old man with 5 grown up children have to marry a 18 year old? He could have got her married to Hiten. Let's say he married under other duress (also I now remember Hiten was abroad), why does he treat Santo like she or her family tricked him into this marriage. He has absolutely no respect for her even though she never chose to be his wife. He belittles her by calling her "chokri". Does he call his own kids by that name? The list goes on...

I would love for the writers to explore Santo's character undergo a metmorphosis where she awakes to the injustice done to her and fights for her rights. I would also like DM's character when he realizes his folly in marrying such a young girl and lets her free from the bondage of marraige to choose a partner on her own free will. Of course, we will not mind if she chose to remain with DM - the man, her husband, not her malik.
This will do justice to creatives/production houses saying that they would like to explore social issues.

I would love to read what all you lovely people out there have to say.

Fully agree with you on most of what you said. DM right now is no better than Taru Bein who is more open in her feelings about Santo's position. He turned a blind eye to the fact that Santo was made to sleep in that uninhabitable store room till his friends came along and forced him to accept her in his bedroom. Had they not come he would have been quite happy with the status quo. He needs a rude awakening call and I feel that will come when he comes to know about Duggu's love for his wife and/or Hiten/Khemi's relationship (if they show them falling in love or having a close relationship which makes DM think that they are in love). I want him to offer to set her free. I dont think that she will want to leave him though because she could have fallen for him by then (if she has not already). I certainly do not want to see him claiming that she is his when he comes to know of Duggu's love. That would be very crass and unbecoming of him and make her look like his property and not as his companion/life partner.

i also totally agree with you on this issue.......but the fact is tht this is an ekta serial........and to be honest the serial started on really gud notes......but now after so much kaddu and hiten nd khemi drama.....the story seems to be draggin like other love stories and other serials......i mean wht ekta has shown us in this serial is nothin new........we all knew tht kaddu will be in love with someone else and tht someone else will be dm's rival son......

the story is actually driftin apart frm its original theme tht of santo nd dm .....nd the issue of forced marriages......

i think i mentioned in one of my earlier posts tht santo should rebel against the unjustice done to her.....not only will it make the serial more interesting but also more socially competeive with serials like balika vadhu and uttaran nd others like iss desh..... nd many others tht are currently being aired on indian tv......

but don't worry this is not goin to happen as this is an ekta serial and i can bet she is not goin to incorporate all the social issues in her serial.....i mean when i look at this serial now... it looks like any other serial in the market....whr thr r father son clashes......daughter bein forced to marry someone whom she does not want to marry....nd so on nd so forth.....

BUT BUT.....when the serial actually started i thought tht once ekta has changed her self but now day by day it looks like a hindi film being played......with a diff cast....

she tried to showcase a social issue but got carried away with her own styles as the serial progressed....

another point i want to bring out is tht when santo was striiped frm moti ben.....she kept quiet......i think we as indians should no longer tolerate the injustice and should atand for our rights.......if santo would have stood up for her rights then probably the serial would have been better and would have gained better trps.....

btw I AM extremely sorry to ekta fans b'coz i bashed her just now nd i keep on pickin on her.....