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aparnauma

@GoodDoc_2105

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Posted: 9 years ago

#71

Originally posted by: hisusmita

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SPuja

@SPuja

Rocker

Posted: 9 years ago

#72

There is no use repeating same thing again and again. The way Anandi lost Nandini has been discussed N number of times. Sarita asked her to drop at the venue - she did not ask to stop child marriage - it was Anandi who told that she is against bal-vivah. Now Anandi was used to doing this for quite some time - she knew the law, she knew what can be done and she knew how things go out of hand at such places. Sarita was worried for her daughter - but if Anandi was a social worker - she should have told her what they can do. And certainly no one asked Anandi to argue with gun wielding men and to watch tamasha when bullets were flying. Even policemen's warning went waste because she did not take her daughter away from the venue.

And I compared Mangala and Sumitra's situation - the way they were not bad but could not do much to save the girls they treated as their daughters. But yes, there cannot be comparison between these two ladies. What did Sumitra do for Anandi? Just married her son - she cared for her - but nothing much - she was in much better condition than Mangala - still she did not do anything to save Anandi from all those atrocities. For example - Anandi was locked in dark room and Nimboli also. Sumitra just wept and went to her room while Mangala first argued with Harki and when not succeded in convincing her, brought food and a torch for Nimboli. She could not do more than that - there was always threat of life for her and Nimboli in that house. While Sumitra and Bhairo don't have to fear for their own or even Anandi's life - still they did not do as much as Mangala did for Nimboli. What were they doing when Anandi had to do mazdoori? Why not Sumitra offered to make Anandi follow all the tradition herself?

I always suspected that people want to compare a mother-child love with the love of a man and woman 🤢. That is why the word obsession is coming 😆 - mother-child love is pure and nothing like that happens in this relationship.

A lot of real life women suffer just like Mangala and Nimboli - mothers cant do much to save their daughters and this does not make them unfit for being called mother. They do not run away from home, and yet they love their daughters.

Mangala's running away and her behaviour after she made it possible to identify the girl - all this is to make Anandi acceptable to the girl. Nobody is saying that M is doing anything good or right after that fateful night. And the reason is also very much clear.

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sam

@fly2meee

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Posted: 9 years ago

#73

mother-child love is pure and nothing like that happens in this relationship.

True, But Anandi is the mother, Mangala is mother like. There is lot of difference between the two. Mother's love cannot be compared to love between a man and woman because its a blood bonded relationship. But Mother like relationship can be compared to that of a man and woman. They are not bonded by blood and it should be from both the sides. One sided love is like Saanchi's love where one hurts the other because of their obsession. Nandini loves mangala as her teesa and as the only person who stood by her when everyone else tortured her, but she has a different thing for her mother. She knew if her mother was there with her she never would have faced all the torture. The truth that she faced all the torture itself says that Mangala is not her mother. Mangala indeed helped J to find out who N is but if she knew before that A may be by any chance is N's mother, she never would've kept the clothes are told J about N.

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Missesha

@Missesha

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Posted: 9 years ago

#74

There are lot of women who adopt a child and become a mother to that child.

Is the love between those two not pure because they are not blood bonded?

In Mangala's case, her emotions are for N are pure. She didn't become Nandini's mother on the first day itself because she was probably waiting for someone to come and claim N.

However 12 years passed, no one ever came, and Mangala's love and compassion for N grew. When time came M not only protected N but also stood up for this orphan just as any mother would do.

If Nimboli's identity was not revealed, probably M would have started thinking of upgrading Nimboli's life, but before any such thing could happen Mangala found herself losing to Anandi's wealth and power.

Mangala's insecurity and her recent behavior cannot be approved but her love can't be questioned. Mangala can't be faulted for loving a girl who lived with her for 12 years whom she must have literally raised.

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731627

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Posted: 9 years ago

#75

mangala is very daring person just to create bring nandini close to herself she went to kundan and risk her life

now nandini will come to know mangala is in hospital nandini will be afraid to loose mangala forever .so she will be more close to nandini

very daring plan by mangala just to bring nandini close to herself

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dsupriya

@dsupriya

Dazzler

Posted: 9 years ago

#76

Originally posted by: fly2meee
mother-child love is pure and nothing like that happens in this relationship.

True, But Anandi is the mother, Mangala is mother like. There is lot of difference between the two. Mother's love cannot be compared to love between a man and woman because its a blood bonded relationship. But Mother like relationship can be compared to that of a man and woman. They are not bonded by blood and it should be from both the sides. One sided love is like Saanchi's love where one hurts the other because of their obsession. Nandini loves mangala as her teesa and as the only person who stood by her when everyone else tortured her, but she has a different thing for her mother. She knew if her mother was there with her she never would have faced all the torture. The truth that she faced all the torture itself says that Mangala is not her mother. Mangala indeed helped J to find out who N is but if she knew before that A may be by any chance is N's mother, she never would've kept the clothes are told J about N.

So here implication being only biological mother can have pure love for child and all the women who adopt or foster their love is not pure and their love is like man and woman. Wow great comparison and a good slap to women who adopt and love their child. Not surprised as always general feeling is blood is thicker than water and society always feels that bio mother has supremacy over any mother like or adoptive or foster mother. That is why yashoda and devaki example is given

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aparnauma

@GoodDoc_2105

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Posted: 9 years ago

#77

It is not about biological mother and adopted mother.

Mother whether she is biological or a foster brings the same value. But what a person brings to the table depends on what kind of a person he or she is.

What kind of a person and what the basic nature of the person is what decides whether she/he is a good parent or not.

Mangala puts herself in that child's mother's position.From what has been shown so far she is a failed mother.She failed to keep her child safe. If the child has escaped from being molested it is because of herself and not because of Mangala.The offender got punished because a stranger took up the girl's cause and not because of Mangala.

Mangala just beat up that fellow and did nothing.It is Kishore who created ruckus and that's why the molestation attempt got documented and that increased the chances of Kundan getting punished.

She knew what Kundan was upto yet she did nothing except giving her a knife and changing the bed.Why did she not tell the child not to find herself alone with Kundan inside or outside of the house?

She has seen the child being starved as part of punishment and made to work on empty stomach for so many years and yet she never lifted a finger to do anything to change the situation.

This is the woman who doesn't think of fooling people around her to satisfy small desires of hers and dispense justice to people once in a while with her Devi act.

A woman who doesn't think twice about using the knife to protect herself and fool people to get what she wants why did she not do anything to change the girl's life?

A person who doesn't think twice about fooling people to get what she wants can't be all that scrupulous. She is quite capable of using any means to make her life and *HER*child's life better.

She had morals which are questionable from the beginning. She could have very well used her devious mind to make better life for herself and that child.

This woman if she considers herself as a mother then she is a major failure.She was nothing more than a sympathetic stranger who got attached to an orphaned child.She is degrading mother's love by calling what she feels for that child as love when it is mere attachment.

This kind of manipulative nature is inherent. She is making her brain overwork to keep the child from reaching out to her mother and brother but she could have used the same brain to make her so called child's life better which she never did.

She is not her mother not because she did not give her birth but what she felt for the child was no where close to the way a mother loves her child.

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Anandi has not disclosed her child that she is her mother and it pinches her when ever her child calls someone as maa. But that doesn't stop her from doing what she can for her child.For Anandi the mother her child's life and future are much more important and she is not sitting there telling herself that she will give all that a mother can give to a child only once sh starts calling her as maa.

So it is clear who loves the child and who is simply posessive and doesn't care how they damage the child's life with their possessiveness.

As for posessiveness aren't mothers posessive of their children? What is the basis for all saas bahu dramas if not posessiveness?

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hisusmita

@hisusmita

Sparkler

Posted: 9 years ago

#78

Originally posted by: SPuja
There is no use repeating same thing again and again. The way Anandi lost Nandini has been discussed N number of times. Sarita asked her to drop at the venue - she did not ask to stop child marriage - it was Anandi who told that she is against bal-vivah. Now Anandi was used to doing this for quite some time - she knew the law, she knew what can be done and she knew how things go out of hand at such places. Sarita was worried for her daughter - but if Anandi was a social worker - she should have told her what they can do. And certainly no one asked Anandi to argue with gun wielding men and to watch tamasha when bullets were flying. Even policemen's warning went waste because she did not take her daughter away from the venue.
And I compared Mangala and Sumitra's situation - the way they were not bad but could not do much to save the girls they treated as their daughters. But yes, there cannot be comparison between these two ladies. What did Sumitra do for Anandi? Just married her son - she cared for her - but nothing much - she was in much better condition than Mangala - still she did not do anything to save Anandi from all those atrocities. For example - Anandi was locked in dark room and Nimboli also. Sumitra just wept and went to her room while Mangala first argued with Harki and when not succeded in convincing her, brought food and a torch for Nimboli. She could not do more than that - there was always threat of life for her and Nimboli in that house. While Sumitra and Bhairo don't have to fear for their own or even Anandi's life - still they did not do as much as Mangala did for Nimboli. What were they doing when Anandi had to do mazdoori? Why not Sumitra offered to make Anandi follow all the tradition herself?

I always suspected that people want to compare a mother-child love with the love of a man and woman 🤢. That is why the word obsession is coming 😆 - mother-child love is pure and nothing like that happens in this relationship.

A lot of real life women suffer just like Mangala and Nimboli - mothers cant do much to save their daughters and this does not make them unfit for being called mother. They do not run away from home, and yet they love their daughters.

Mangala's running away and her behaviour after she made it possible to identify the girl - all this is to make Anandi acceptable to the girl. Nobody is saying that M is doing anything good or right after that fateful night. And the reason is also very much clear.

Yes we too are saying the same thing. there is no use of repeating the same thing. Yes it has been discussed many times how Anandi lost Nandini

When the writers and directors are very clear in their mind that Anandi has went there to save another child why so much post mortem is being done with every snap shot to prove that she was wrong? And then complaining why she never ask forgiveness.

The story is that she lost her child while saving another child. Now what her child lost for that her child will first learn all the truth (the one what writers wanted to show , not the one which are going on in the forum) and decide whether to love her mother or hate her.

Sumitra and Mangala cant be compared because Sumi never wanted to take away A from Bhago while M is doing that.

@bold, its better not to suspect others. Who compared mother child love to the love of a man and woman?. I guess you should understand the post and comment. I told about any love , when people become too possessive it becomes obsession . That is what happened in M's case

Incase of any love possessiveness and later obsession can come, be it mother child be it man and woman.

Dont we see all the saas bahu drama in real world? why it happens after marriage, because of possessiveness Because both the mother and wife becomes possessive about one man.Mother - son love or man woman love goes perfect if no third person comes . Third person can create problem only when one person becomes too much possessive. Only I will have all the love, no one else can. Only then problem arises.

Exactly that has happened in case of M. I guess you are not going thru the dialogues of M. She is saying that repeatedly she will not allow A to come close to N.

You all were saying A was in competition with M. Then yesterday why in front of the whole school she introduced M as N's maa?

IF one is possessive who said that it is not love, but a different form of love, human psyche which can harm others if it aggravates.

Human psyche is very complex.

Viewers will anyway accept Anandi as a mother, there is no need to make M run for that.

It is just that CVs are showing another human psyche. Two mothers sharing one daughter's love has been shown thru Sumi and Bhago

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hisusmita

@hisusmita

Sparkler

Posted: 9 years ago

#79

Who said that those mother's love are not pure. Any mother's love be it biological mother or foster mother, is pure. But what she did for N is not enough as a mother. We have seen Kamli there, the daughter of the house.

Yes her love and compassion grew with years. She dont have anyone and that is the reason she was clinging on to the girl.

M was found herself loosing to Anandi's wealth and power. ? Isn't it degradation of a mother's love by saying that? People cant see mother's love but it was dazzling thru her wealth.?

If M actually loved the girl she would have never been angry when the girl is happy. She would not have spoiIt her happiness by doing such mean things. Mother's love is unconditional. Wherever the child is , with whom she is does not matter, but the child should be happy and safe.

Every love remains secure when there is no one. Only in testing time it shows whose love is pure, who is actually the mother

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ksaxena85

@ksaxena85

Beginner

Posted: 9 years ago

#80

M is really getting on my nerves...in yesterday's episode, felt so sad looking at shivam's face. Poor thing...both bro and sis were playing in the jhoola and this woman began a competition there...huh...how much I hate her. This is what she wants to teach nimboli being a mother? Compete with others on such petty things and prove that she is better off being illiterate...huh...I wish anandi would have witnessed this and she would have given good to mangla.

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