Originally posted by: leavesandwaves
The interesting thing was ganga is much more focussed than anandi. Be it about career or higher education. Anandi used to get distracted due to family issues and she lost focus for a while. Especially after her marriage with Shiv. She also let go of the opportunity to get education when she was with her parents.She gave more importance to Gauri's taunts tnan Bhairon's sane encouragement.
Anandi is way of looking at things is different from the way Dsa Gauri Ganga look at things. They all have their own priorities.They are all strong but very different in what they want from life.
Anandi even when she was a child she put the wishes of her family and their happiness above her own dreams and wishes and she remained the same. Everything in her life all her achievements and failures should be looked at from that point.
She gave up studies and did not touch books because Dsa extracted a promise from her.Dsa was angry that Anandi was scoring better than her ladesar and so she screamed at Anandi for that so many times.She told Anandi that her place is lower than that of her husbands and to remain lower she made her give up education took a promise from her that she will not even touch books and made her burn her books. I don't understand how people did not remember that scene. This happened before her 13th birth day.
Later on she decided to resume education because she wanted to save her marriage.The same education which she was forced to forego has become an issue in her marriage with J being ashamed of his wife. But later on she was mocked and humilitated by Dadi and pota for trying to get educated. That's when she told the family how the great ladesar was ashamed of his name rural background and illiterate wife with a name like Anandi. She then told them that she will resume her education this time only to please herself.
Later after Jagya Gauri marriage happened Bhairon Singh wanted her to do medicine but she put her foot down and told him that she will take up the subjects which she wanted to do.She will chose her own ways and doesn't care to follow Jagya and Gauri's ways.
So today the education and the qualifications she has are her choice. Social work is her passion and she is pursuing that.
In her first marriage she was forced to give up all the things she liked to do because of Dsa and her pota. In her second marriage her priority was her husband. It was her choice.She gave her passion for social work a second place because that was the way she wanted things.
Empowerment in Anandi's case is all about making her own choices be it give priority to family or education.without anyone else forcing their beliefs and choices on her.
She gave up her dreams out of her trust and respect for elders - believing that they know best. But when thye did not know what is good for her and their decisions back fired she took control of her life and she made her own descions.
Shiv was ready to let her fly as high as she wanted but it was she who tied herself to him out of her love.
Anandi had her parents and then Singhs looking out for her and only when thir decisions backfired she made her decisions.
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Post Nandini's kidnap she surrendered her independence at the feet of Daddu and Dsa holding herself responsible for her daughter's kindnap and accepting that she failed as a mother and was willing to do what they wanted her to do in the interests of her children. That was the reason why she shifted to BH and despite feeling uncomfortable and knowing that it may cause problems for Ganga she stayed until Dsa was willing to let her go.
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Ganga is focussed because she had to look out for herself from a very early age.
Gauri when she had the entire world at her feet and she benefitted from her brush with BH and got good education and a life that Anandi could not even dream of all she wanted was the life that Anandi was leading😛