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The argument that VKabra should have privately reprimanded his rapist brother while allowing the destruction of the rape victim is beyond belief and acceptance for me.
to argue that a lawyer portrayed as honest and human -- the reason Sa wanted him to fight her case though he went against her previously-- should have deliberately allowed a rape victim to be destroyed, shakes me to the core.
To say that that would have been realistic baffles me.. Why should TV soaps, that are otherwise rarely realistic, suddenly become realistic only in the matter of showing the destruction of a rape victim? What message would that convey? That even the most honest and humane lawyer, when it comes to a rapist sibling, should turn weak and condone a rape?
In the case of Saanchi, it is being argued that her being raped is not enough punishment for her -- and that she should not even be allowed a chance at redemption. Yet at the same time, sympathy is being expressed for the rapist's mother.
For God's sake, the woman did not even say what Sau did was horrific, she did not for a moment regret his crime; all she wanted was to protect him. I could have felt a measure of sympathy if she cursed her own upbringing of the child, if she quarrelled with him for what he did and then if she had broken down in tears unable to see him being put away. Here the mother expressed no remorse, watched on while her rapist son slandered the rape victim and said he did no mistake in wanting to enjoy her for a bit. How can anyone sympathise with this lady
TV soaps are not always 100 % unrealistic . They are never black and white . They r grey . And strike a chord with viewers coz they identify with the life shown . In the case of Balika Vadhu nothing shown was unreal hence it became a hit . Child marraiges do happen . The abuse by Dadisa in the early stages at BH does very much happen . Children exercising their own choices by outgrowing what is fed to them does happen . Marital rape does happen . And date rape too does happen . So why so much shock if some viewers expect a realistic ending to a realistic issue ?
Anandi never complained to legal authorities about the elders doing a child marraige ...why ? She was not protecting Jagya only but the family as a whole . Especially the elders . One statement from her and they would have all gone behind bars , including her own parents . I have often criticised her double standards , but i understand where she is coming from . It was her FAMILY and thats the way people react . There was realism there . In this very BV there is loads of realism . So ...why should not we expect it in a situation where a family member has done a crime and giving him up or not is in a family member's hands ? What is so shocking about this expectation ?
We see it every where . Every time Shiv's sister is questioned , there is military like deference and respect to her by policemen with Shiv the Collector looking on and Ira complaining that arrests for faking suicide or questioning is an atrocity meted out to her daughter and that it should be waived aside . Why ? Is she special ? Is police questioning done by treading on eggshells and with this fright , with constant apologies and one eye on the Collector fearing their jobs ? It is profuse realism there right , others do not get this treatment . So when BV shows abundant realism in many things , why not in a throbbing realistic current issue and if some expect it whats so terrible .
I don't think anyone in this thread said that being raped is not enough for Saanchi . I think everyone likeminded said that rape should not obliterate her other evil deeds . Neither should her redemption if it indeed comes . Uptill now her redemption has not even been discussed , so don't know where this deduction is coming from . Clearly i have always said that even women murderers do not deserve rape . But should rape cancel out their crimes ? No . Should their redemption lessen their punishments ? No. Why look at it only karmically ? I am not . Just karmic pumishment is not enough for her . She has escaped legal punishment and i strongly object to her being absolved from it coz she is the daughter of a family in the system , the sister of a Collector , the nanand of a social worker who wants to keep her position in her marital life intact . BV protects Saanchi and i as a viewer object .
And why should shock and disbelief be expressed at empathising with Suman Kabra?
Whats so terrible about that ? When shock and disbelief is not expressed at the sympathy shown to a girl planning an infant's death , why this ? What is Suman Kabra's fault that her son tried to be oversmart and go too far ? Is it in her control ? Had she encouraged rape ? Told him its ok to disrespect a woman ? No , she believed that he would NEVER do it , what does this tell of her sanskaars ? That for her it was not even feasible . She was as taken aback as the rest , but being a mother could not bear to see her son being sent to jail and wrecking his LIFE , so she was TORN . And this human dilemma is shocking ?
What i find disturbing is that a mother's upbringing is naturally cited as the cause for a grown up child's crime . While upbringing IS a part of the child's mental make up , the child's genetic framework sometimes overrides the upbringing . This same Suman Kabra brought up Vivek too who is honesty personified . And there was no other lady like CM in the house to claim the credit . Vivek Kabra clearly told that whatever good values i learnt i learnt from u to both his parents . And Suman Kabra is not worth sympathy coz she is bad Saurabh's mother and Saanchi is worth sympathy coz she is Shiv's sister and recently she was raped ?
Suman Kabra did not plan an infant's death and brought up a wonderful son like Vivek Kabra . Her private thoughts on this issue r not known as she too had barely time to digest all that happened and in a jiffy before she could even swallow it , her son was taken away .
I always feel for the criminal's family who do their best but are shamed in society forever for the child's genetic make up , for no fault of their own . Jeffrey Dahmer is a classic case , his father was a good man who had a doctorate in studies but his son was a genetic mutant . The sufferings of these parents is beyond comprehension .
So if that is disturbing to some , so be it . Suman Kabra is as much a victim in all of this as dear not at fault Saanchi who is now all set for redemption .
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