Should JaAn cut off from each other?

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Posted: 11 years ago
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Their somehow remaining connected to each other even as acquaintances or "friends" has only resulted in disaster in their lives.

Gauri went psycho because she couldn't tolerate Jagya thinking about Anandi or Jagya or Anandi calling each other or even arranging financial help for them.

Jagya tried earlier to stop AnSh alliance. His memories and traumatic experience of break up prevented Anandi from being comfortable with Shiv for some time after marriage.

Jagya visiting Udaipur and Anandi visiting Jetsar - their interactions led to this Sanchi drama.

After this case and all ends, shouldn't Jagya and Anandi completely cut off from each other and keep only bare minimum ties (exchanging hi-hello if any meeting occurs or meeting only in case of DIRE emergency)?

I think their interactions and interactions of families they belong to, somehow always cause some awkwardness or problem for them.

This DS or Sumitra talking to either Anandi on issues related to Jagya's life or taking Anandi's name in front of Jagya to influence him or drive a point - MUST stop!

Same way, why do people who want to influence or "reach out" to Jagya always use Anandi as a medium? Either asking her to talk to him or asking her to coach them or guide them on how to reach out to him?!

(Be it Ganga or Sanchi asking Anandi about Jagya or Shiv asking her to talk to him to make up for their blunder and convince him to give Sanchi a chance etc. - it's all so weird!)

I think both Jagya and Anandi themselves need to put their foot down, refuse or point out people when they drag each other's names in any matter and for God's sake even if they do have knowledge about each other there is NO need to express it!

When both are yet to establish their new lives (Anandi had begun to establish herself in new family after remarriage and Jagya had begun to start afresh, is now remarried recently), I think they need to CUT OFF till the time they have comfortably started and moved on with their new lives.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Perfect post. Totally agree. Normally that is how divorced couples are. They limit their contac to minimum or zero. That is the way it should be at least in Ibdian divorces. Because families are
involved in marriages. Unless the couple have children ther is no need to contact each other for anything. A and J are not friends despite growing together. They grew as couples.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: Skepblun

Their somehow remaining connected to each other even as acquaintances or "friends" has only resulted in disaster in their lives.

Gauri went psycho because she couldn't tolerate Jagya thinking about Anandi or Jagya or Anandi calling each other or even arranging financial help for them.

Jagya tried earlier to stop AnSh alliance. His memories and traumatic experience of break up prevented Anandi from being comfortable with Shiv for some time after marriage.

Jagya visiting Udaipur and Anandi visiting Jetsar - their interactions led to this Sanchi drama.

After this case and all ends, shouldn't Jagya and Anandi completely cut off from each other and keep only bare minimum ties (exchanging hi-hello if any meeting occurs or meeting only in case of DIRE emergency)?

I think their interactions and interactions of families they belong to, somehow always cause some awkwardness or problem for them.

This DS or Sumitra talking to either Anandi on issues related to Jagya's life or taking Anandi's name in front of Jagya to influence him or drive a point - MUST stop!

Same way, why do people who want to influence or "reach out" to Jagya always use Anandi as a medium? Either asking her to talk to him or asking her to coach them or guide them on how to reach out to him?!

(Be it Ganga or Sanchi asking Anandi about Jagya or Shiv asking her to talk to him to make up for their blunder and convince him to give Sanchi a chance etc. - it's all so weird!)

I think both Jagya and Anandi themselves need to put their foot down, refuse or point out people when they drag each other's names in any matter and for God's sake even if they do have knowledge about each other there is NO need to express it!

When both are yet to establish their new lives (Anandi had begun to establish herself in new family after remarriage and Jagya had begun to start afresh, is now remarried recently), I think they need to CUT OFF till the time they have comfortably started and moved on with their new lives.


very nice post n completely agree with you
anandi and jagya should concentrate on their own lives keeping a
safe distance from one another
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Posted: 11 years ago
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I agree Jan. In West it is different. But in Indian society, where families kya even social circles get involved, it is best to keep distance only.

There's no need to obey families even if they ask for interaction.

All pretend to understand but ultimately point out that JaAn are ex husband and wife! 🤢 And then start questioning their loyalty... 😡
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Posted: 11 years ago
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skep i completely agree with ur post👍🏼
DS is the root cause of all this mess in J and A life,as a elder she should understand an emotional state of JaAn whenever they met eachother,They r r not siblings,eventhough now BH changed to Anandi's maayka,JaAn shared a physical bond with eachother,it is memorable upto their whole life nobody cant change it.Just for a second what happens if A or J,think about their romantic moments(it is very practical)is it consider to be cheating to their partners,No,atleast for me(in BV it is quit unrealistic to show that J or A sharing everything openly without any awkward).In my opinion,J and A should cutoff eachother,if they want to lead a happy life.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Very thought provoking post !
But society...family ...all these are superficial things here ...in this relation !
Yes agree !Because of their influence and interference will affect her family life drastically !
In a symbolic way I will try to express my feeling...--
Society represents itself ... its towering presence -- in the closed door between Devdas and Parvathi !...certain norm has to be followed by every member of the society !!
Her husbands' order to close the door to prevent the disgrace is... a sort of whip to an individual freedom issued by her family !
Every family has its' own norms and rules !
But there is no rule to control ones' affections and affiliations !!
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Posted: 11 years ago
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@Seetha

I am surprised at your example of Devdas and Paro in this case!

Anyway, I don't think they should let go of affection they had since childhood but they should remain apart if they are married to different people now and claim to love those people (Ganga and Shiv respectively).

These kachchi umar ke pakke rishte are making pakki umar ke rishte kachche.

They can help each other when there is DIRE need.

Otherwise draw a line.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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@skep
agree with your post. I also don't want their affection to each other lives. of course Ja An should cut off otherwise they would be forced by even elders like DS kumi and all. why why why A is needed to advise or even to save your life??? in fact i dint like A would say truth and that will save jagya !!! why this favour should be needed by her ? I wanted to see Ganga giving strong support to Jagya to prove that he has got apt life partner who could be called better half but sigh cvs put A at sanchi s home to witness her lust and Ganga is so so so clueless about it. she is here in court just for moral support to Jagya. nothing else her importance is there being his wife

and now when Jagya broke rishta A will be taunted without any reason because he is from her maika .

Jagya will be blamed always to ruin her life by kumi and DS
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Posted: 11 years ago
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[QUOTE=Skepblun]@Seetha

I am surprised at your example of Devdas and Paro in this case!

Anyway, I don't think they should let go of affection they had since childhood but they should remain apart if they are married to different people now and claim to love those people (Ganga and Shiv respectively).

These kachchi umar ke pakke rishte are making pakki umar ke rishte kachche.

They can help each other when there is DIRE need.

Otherwise draw a line.[/QUOTE] I told you ...in a symbolic way not in true sense ! --closed door-- represents society's attitude towards an individual...he has to follow --there is no alternative ! It is an order !
Family's ..command is... you have to obey...otherwise you will lose something ! It is a sort of whip !
Regarding love and affection...it is not easy to cut off instantaneously ! Here love means friendship !
And one more thing...by cutting umbilical cord...there is no cut off between a mother and child relationship !
That bond is bound to be there throughout their life !
Shiv and his family are very much aware of her special bond with Singhs and Jagya !A clean break from tradition is need of the hour !
I fully agree with all your points ...in a way here I am searching for answers for my confusions and long lasting sentiments !!
Edited by SEETHA.K - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
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you said it all for me @skeplbun so i would just say i agree with you completely

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