so there is nothing wrong if jaggiyya visit saanchi before marraige? - Page 2

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Posted: 12 years ago
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There is nothing wrong in meeting ur fiancee

BUT

arranged marraige PROPRIETY PROTOCOL does not permit overnight staying before marraige .

Agree with yogs post . What Ira has done is a sign of dominance attempting to control someone else's son DIRECTLY and throwing his mother out of the picture .

But then Ira who is such an ambassador of PROPRIETY

had allowed her daughter to stay for days when unmarried , nursing a young man by bunking her college

and now is inviting damad for overnight stays even before he is married to the daughter .

Her sense of propriety is convenient and hypocritical .
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Posted: 12 years ago
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And i agree with Seetha that

Jagdish should observe how Anandi is treated in that house by Ira and Saanchi and go and mention this at Badi Haveli .
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Nothing wrong if Jagya meets Sanchi before marriage, nothing wrong if he goes on his own, nothing wrong if he is not forced by his MIL to meet sanchi, nothing wrong if he had gone to meet his family first, nothing wrong if Ira had taken the permission from Singhs and discussed her plan with his family...wrong is she is forcing, informing singhs after forcing jagya and not disclosing the fact of Jagya 's arrival and the way he has been forced to visit his sasra...
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Posted: 12 years ago
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I think ira's decision was rash and she didnt inform her own family because she's knows its not the right protocol. They are just engaged and the arrangement is that of an arranged marriage and not a love marriage so stopping over at each others houses is just wrong. Normally people tread care with such rishtas as a little things can break them. Had he stayed in a hotel and just visited I think it would have been more appropriate. They are just engaged it doesn't necessarily mean it will end in marriage. Ira and sanchi want to put restrictions and control him while under their roof and seriously nobody would put up with that. Once married you try hard to make it work for certain amount of time and either adjust or divorce but if before hand you know that person too well and know it won't work then your going to say goodbye to the rishta as there is nothing to stop you.

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