Originally posted by: Picasso9
Kools,
I'm fascinated at how Anandi's lectures to Jagya are explained away with justifications of the 'dilemma' she is in, caught as she is between two families. Her 'situation', her 'nature', and her 'sense of justice' is oh so understood and adopted as a plausible reason wh she met Jagya alone on the terrace and the 'rights' she has to lecture him.
YET...Jagya was in a similar dilemma when he was POUNCED upon with Saanchi's rishta. He was literally hung to dry as the Bakra for Anandi's 'happiness' and now he is being persecuted for doing exactly what his family wanted. So easily it is forgotten that he was NOT in agreement but coerced. I like how It is ok for Anandi to FORCE him to agree to marry again because she was COERCED by DS/SINGHs but when the same sort of coercion happens to Jagya then it is Jagya's fault.
Also, even though Shiv and Ira have asked him about his commitment and though he placated them, people have forgotten that this enquiry came too little, too late. Jagya is in no position to tell them the truth because he has received NO assurance that Anandi's happiness does NOT hinge on his decision. So for once even though he is thoroughly miserable, he is sticking to HIS FAMILY'S plan.
It's all very well to say he had two opportunities to tell the truth, but at what cost. Can he afford to tarnish the reputation of his family again? But no, it's all Jagyas fault. Poor precious extraordinary Anandi never mentioned even in her terrace conversation so late at night that she was not initially happy with this alliance. She is still giving him the impression that she is all for this. Wah, what an extraordinary childhood chum she is.
Agreed .
U know what stumps me .
The word 'dilemma' .đđ
It seems it is ONLY the prerogative of Anandi . ONLY she can be in a 'dilemma' . Caught in a precarious delicate position between nanand's shaadi and her first home she is justified for lecturing righteously to Jagya and talking to him like a mini Sumitra .
But but but
Jagya cannot have a 'dilemma' . He cannot be caught in a fix about his personal feelings , his past guilt , and the current pressure of 'Anandi's saasra' .
He should ALWAYS make the correct decisions .
Actually what part of Anandi's dilemma is 'correct ' ?
Advocation of Saanchi as an ideal bahu for Singhs ? Please . She got first hand exposure to her rudeness from day one , no preparation of gatte ki subzi nullifies it .
Advocation of Sumitra's pettiness ? She herself had objected to it when Ganga left the house
Advocation of doing social work within a limit ? Where was this knowledge when she went to argue with drunken men in a bar or held Itwaari Bazaar in the precincts of her own house conveniently putting all the responsibility on Shiv but not checking with saas on her own by being the perfect bahu ?
So u see , she faces dilemmas
and she is not always 'correct' at all .
Same way , others too face dilemmas and r not necessarily correct but ultimately find their own way . It takes time .
The best scene for me will be Jagya telling Anandi to BUTT OUT . See her lecture scene carefully guys . U know what she was miffed about ? About losing control on him . That she was not told . U could have told ME at least that u were going off . Every time in the scene she told Jagya how wrong he was not to tell HER .
Now , may i know WHY this ...er ...DILEMMA ?đđ
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