Balika Vadhu 24 August Written - Sa Diets n Ja takes Flight - Page 6

I repeat my stand which I stated in an earlier post.

Originally posted by: sectoreight

I have never said that what anandi did was correct either. So there is no bias there.

I have been equally critical of anandi's approach to her marriage with shiv.

That being said, I do not put anandi and jagya in the same category.

anandi was an abused woman who needed time to heal.

jagya was not abused. his choices simply did not work out.

And you and I have different definitions of 'cheating'

I feel that a fact left out by omission is indeed a lie. Knowing very well that saanchi does not like ganga, he is disrespecting saanchi by still keeping a relationship with her.

You feel that only if someone tells an outright untruth, then only that is a lie or cheating.

And you ask has he broken any promise to her?

No. But issues of marriage and engagement do not require explicit contracts or promises.

It is understood and worked into the fabric of the concept of marriage and engagement etc. that these types of relationships are mutually exclusive to two people and does not have any place for a third person.

And Jagya is old enough to know what implicit contracts exist within engagement and marriage...most especially after his soulful introspection with respect to his mess with anandi and gauri.

Originally posted by: Libra123

There is no need to put the complete blame on jagya for whatever happenned with Anandi or gauri. that's a different discussion...

Then the same applies to Jagya. His past cannot held against him. It does not give others a free license to dishonor his commitment to Helping Ganga.

Originally posted by: Libra123

Sanchi knows what knd of a person jagya is. She very well knows his commitments. She agreed to marry him after knowing his commitments. So, why does she object now ?? How does jagya know that sanchi has a problem with his helping. When she voiced her opinion jagya immediately explained his priorities to her. Sanchi had no problem then , so why problem now ?? If she has a prob

Em now also she can break the engagement it's not that she is married to him ..

I am going to quote SPUja's words again In blue because I feel they convey my views exactly.

Originally posted by: Picasso9

Then the same applies to Jagya. His past cannot held against him. It does not give others a free license to dishonor his commitment to Helping Ganga.

But the main point is that Saanchi already knows how committed Jagya is for helping Ganga. She already knows through her private convos with Sumi and also when Jagya tried to tell her. If she didn't already know then why would she manipulate him so much. If she didn't already know then why she avoids discussion about it with Jagya. So how Jagya is hiding or omitting stuff from her, I fail to see. So what if he went to Mangalore without telling her. As far as he is concerned, he thinks she is fine with him helping Ganga and if he went without telling her, what's the big deal. Does he have to report his every move. People are forgetting that Jagya is NOT aware of Saanchi's insecurities.

Originally posted by: sectoreight

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But his commitment to helping ganga is not in the past. It is very much alive and in the present.

his past regarding Gauri/Anandi should not be held against him. he has been consistently above board about his commitment to help Ganga from the beginning. Everyone, including Shekhars are aware of it. If Shekhars have reservations, they need to come forward. They cannot accuse based on the past, and so far they have just shown pleasure at everything. The only person who has a problem with his commitment is Sumitra and Jagya now knows about this. So how is he supposed to know that he needs to explain himself to all and sundry.

Originally posted by: Picasso9

So how Jagya is hiding or omitting stuff from her, I fail to see. So what if he we t to Mangalore without telling her. As far as he is concerned, he thinks she is fine with him helping Ganga and if he went it hour telling her, what's the big deal. Does he have to report his every move. People are forgetting that Jagya is NOT aware of Saanchi's insecurities.

Sorry but I don't see it that way. If it was indecent then his elders could have guided him and advised him on the proper etiquette. In fact, his family sent him with their blessings and gifts!!

And yes I believe he does not know Saanchi hates Ganga because after his initial talk with Saanchi when she tried to bad mouth Ganga, he was left with the impression by Saanchi herself that she agreed with his viewpoint. Subsequent to that Saanchi was really nice to Ganga and Mannu in front of Jagya which further led him to believe that she is fine with them. Even after the initial rishta talks she left the elders to go play with Mannu and rub it in Ganga's face that she got her prize. But everyone was left thinking that she is fond of Ganga and Mannu