Was difficulty in Jagya's new life a given? - Page 4

Originally posted by: sectoreight

Well -- then that leaves Jagya with only two options --

1. Marry and separate from his family

OR

2. Find a new girl who looks up to Anandi and feels good when she is compared to anandi.

None of these are great choices ... but he has to deal with the reality of the matter and move forward.

Given his mad family he ideally ought to move away even if he marries a woman who currently looks upto Anandi and all Singhs. A girl might feel good as of NOW. But what is the guarantee that she will continue to feel good even after marriage? At some point, after marriage, a girl might feel sad why she is still compared to ex wife or then might remain silent (but sad from within) because she is indebted to Singhs and Jagya!

I don't think anyone can be truly happy from outside and within, all the time, if such comparisons exist.

Whoever Jagya marries, he and his wife deserve to have a life of their own without barking about past or any comparisons with past.

Jagya will do what he has to.

But seriously Singhs need to put their brains, age and experience to better use! Make things easier for your troubled child instead of making them immediately or potentially worse.

Anandi ka kya hai? She is sitting away in Udaipur, happy with Shiv. And visits Jetsar occasionally where she is treated like royalty. Singhs' obsession with her will affect day to day life for those who live there in BH. It's one thing to love someone but it's different to be so obsessed with someone that you only keep talking about her or comparing others with her or recalling her memories openly in whatever that happens.

They haven't done anything to make life easier for Jagya. And the sanity he has regained now is more to Ganga's credit than anyone else!

Originally posted by: SEETHA.K

We have to praise the writer here. We are relentlessly disagreeing...arguing...criticising agreeing...admiring...adoring these characters since years[yes I entered recently].So much attached to this serial.Since years we are on tenterhooks to know what will happen next...expectations... disappointments..suggestions...identifying ourselves with those characters...!! Ithink it is a great achievement to any writer.

Special credit goes to those who handled BV in past. Even if presently nothing sensible is happening, still it raises expectations and debates, due to a solid foundation and base for all characters and story provided by creatives in past. Thanks to them, this show was saved from becoming a total Kekta mai soap.

I am sure the present ones also take a leaf from past to get some idea on how to steer the story forward without making it look like a cheap masala drama.

Originally posted by: Skepblun

[ Singhs' obsession with her will affect day to day life for those who live there in BH. It's one thing to love someone but it's different to be so obsessed with someone that you only keep talking about her or comparing others with her or recalling her memories openly in whatever that happens.

Another serious point here. Some times a character will become so uncontrollable...that it will grow beyond writer's perceptions...it will develop it's own identity ... outgrow ...beyond the reach of the writer. Great writers like Sarath Chandra and Ravindranath tagore,[Paru in Devdas... Lalita in Parineeta...KIRANMAYI in Charitraheen and Binodini in CHOKHER BALI]were once victims of this unique situation...becoming a puppet in the hands of their own creation .--- In BV, Anandi is such an iconic character. The writer has set some goals for this character...after certain time Anandi outgrow beyond Purnendu's perception...may be because of the great action of PRATUSHA...gave a new definition to that role...Amulet to the serial. The writer was with bated breath watching his character with amazement. .and stunned for the popularity which got beyond anybody's imagination. Then the change!!!??? of the actress . Here also I think he was in helpless situation...that iconic character became a mere spectator with some wrong expressions... Again people confused and the reaction was so serious that ...the writer has to remind us every now and then the greatness of that character. I think that is one of the main reasons for this comparison...reminding us the iconic status of that character..

Originally posted by: SEETHA.K

Another serious point here. Some times a character will become so uncontrollable...that it will grow beyond writer's perceptions...it will develop it's own identity ... outgrow ...beyond the reach of the writer. Great writers like Sarath Chandra and Ravindranath tagore,[Paru in Devdas... Lalita in Parineeta...KIRANMAYI in Charitraheen and Binodini in CHOKHER BALI]were once victims of this unique situation...becoming a puppet in the hands of their own creation .--- In BV, Anandi is such an iconic character. The writer has set some goals for this character...after certain time Anandi outgrow beyond Purnendu's perception...may be because of the great action of PRATUSHA...gave a new definition to that role...Amulet to the serial. The writer was with bated breath watching his character with amazement. .and stunned for the popularity which got beyond anybody's imagination. Then the change!!!??? of the actress . Here also I think he was in helpless situation...that iconic character became a mere spectator with some wrong expressions... Again people confused and the reaction was so serious that ...the writer has to remind us every now and then the greatness of that character. I think that is one of the main reasons for this comparison...reminding us the iconic status of that character..

And there is this Frankenstein's monster too.😆

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

seetha all the character u mentioned above r my favorites coz bengali literature is a passion

completely agree with ur post

I am lucky to read all these books when I was in high school. This foundation gave me an opportunity to venture in to the world literature...which opened up new vistas to my perception.

skepblun

and quite frankly, this is also a lesson in speaking up for yourself.

Originally posted by: sectoreight

skepblun

I have really been thinking about your post. I am thinking the comparison to anandi would only be debilitating to people with low self-esteem.

For people with high self-esteem (i.e. like me 😆😆) , I would decide if the prize were worthy enough to stick it out in that situation ( prize= being jagya's wife)... and then I would set my goal so that instead of people saying

"sector eight is exactly like anandi",

I would see it as a fun game and ensure that after a while they changed their basis of comparison and said

"anandi is exactly like sector eight" and turn the tables on the situation

🤣

I have an uncle who is very famous in India, his son lived in his shadow a long time.

He was always known as the "son of famous father"

He didn't like it but worked hard to develop his own identity.

Now the uncle is called "father of famous son"

A person with low self-esteem might have been debilitated by the comparison. But a person with high-self esteem can work hard to form a new benchmark for comparison.

The new benchmark would be "exactly like sectoreight" 😆😆

Farhan akhtar?