WU 12/7/13 J-Sachi alliance already on the rocks

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zephyr29

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Posted: 12 years ago

#21

Thanks for WU.

So now after the "engagement" all the doubts are sprouting up. If only all this was discussed earlier

They have turned the institution of marriage into some kind of joke.

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FatehTejo

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Posted: 12 years ago

#22

Oh God Sumi and Ira annoys me a looot 😡😡 I want slap booothhh..

I love when Ganga with tears in eyes look at Jagya

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aparnauma

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Posted: 12 years ago

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Anita - Thanks for the update.

Sumi -for some irrational reason considering Ganga a threat to her child's life and acting accordingly.

Ira -Does not know how to control her daughter except giving into her tantrums and convincing herself that is best way to do things.

I want Sanchi to show her real self to Sumi and DS soon.

Mahi - talking sense and asking his bhabhi to talk with his family.Best thing would have been ask his brother to do that.

Now Anandi will talk to the family and get into trouble with them.

Jagya his misery is coming to an end soon apparently.

CVs don't seem to like Jagya's misery and Anandi's happiness.😡

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libsrocks

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Posted: 12 years ago

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Originally posted by: zephyr29
Thanks for WU.
So now after the "engagement" all the doubts are sprouting up. If only all this was discussed earlier

They have turned the institution of marriage into some kind of joke.

the engagement is not done yet...they have done only some kind of roka where boy and girl gets the shagun

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Missesha

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Posted: 12 years ago

#25

Everyone seems to be thinking now, if this alliance is appropriate or not? Couldn't they all think the same things before. The points raised by every individual today J, G, Ds, Mahi and A are the same points they needed to think through, which could have been done earlier also. So why did they all have to say yes first and then re-think.

This was the same thing J-G1. They both jumped into getting married without meeting Singhs, and then they were thinking if marrying each other was appropriate or not?

The best scenes of today's episode were Mahi-An convo. Very well done, just the way 2 youngsters at the same wavelength discuss.

The other was G- Sumi convo. I loved it. Both were right from their own perspective. Sumi hasn't seen the other side of Saanchi so she is right in assuming whatever she did.

Ganga on the other hand, needs to put her feelings for J aside at this time. Whether she says it or not, Sumi can sense her closeness to J, which she may not like, especially now when Sumi is all ready to welcome her DIL.

Anita, thank you for updating. It was a sensible episode.

Edited by Missesha - 12 years ago

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aparnauma

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Posted: 12 years ago

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Esha - I agree.

That sense is making it's comeback slowly.

But still there are too many things that need to be taken into consideration.

Singhs don't know Sanchi very well.They are making assumptions about her based on what they saw of her when she came to stay with them.They don't know how stubborn che can be when she doesn't get her way and how immature she is.They think only of the difference in up brininging and life styles which could make the marriage potentially difficult.

Shekhars do not know about Jagya.They know that he has two failed marriages behind him and has turned over a new leaf since then.They don't know that Jagya has a huge burden of his past hanging around his neck in the form of Gauri and also the complex nature of Jagya.

They too are only thinking of the upbringing and differences in life style causing problems.

When in reality the upbringing of Sanchi and Jagya had been the same.Differences in life style is only a minor factor.

Nobody except Shiv and Anandi has raised these issues so far.That too they have discussed these issues only with Sanchi and she is not in a receptive mode.

Jagya is realising that their personalities are different and he needs to make adjustments and Sanchi has been told by DS that she needs to be like A to amke her marraige work but I doubt she understood the significance of that.

I do hope they discuss this incompatibility of their personalities too instead just harping on upbringing and sheheri and gaanv backgrounds.

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Missesha

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Posted: 12 years ago

#27

Aparna, things have gone too complicated now to be able to draw sense out of this track.

If you ask me personally I have too many unanswered questions. Some of which are raised due to my own conventional upbringing (although I always had the freedom to make choices & decisions)

What I still don't get is;

- Why does Sa want to marry J?

- Why J cannot think what kind of partner he wants before saying yes?

- Why can't Singhs & Shekhars see the obvious differences in Sa Ja's though processes? Even though Sa is nice from their POV, don't they feel that Sa is NOT their types? Same applies to Shekhars.

- How awkward does it feel that Ex husband of DIL becomes their future Son-in-law? Where does it leave A-J at and how does Shiv Saanchi feel about their spouses for that matter?

- Finally, does everyone think that Sa Ja will be able to bring out the best in each other, when they have nothing in common?

I don't mean to pause these questions to you, I am just saying my mind regarding the complexities of this track.

Edited by Missesha - 12 years ago

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aparnauma

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Posted: 12 years ago

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Originally posted by: Missesha
Aparna, things have gone too complicated now to be able to draw sense out of this track.

If you ask me personally I have too many unanswered questions. Some of which are raised due to my own conventional upbringing (although I always had the freedom to make choices & decisions)

What I still don't get is;
- Why does Sa want to marry J?She has seen the aspect of J which appealed to her.She was intrigued by this man even before she met him.She probably knows that his family has thrown him out because he has been rotten to Anandi.That must have made him a hero in her eyes some one who could go against his parents and do his own thing.She is rebellious by nature and that's the reason why her family gives in - to quell the rebellion.He appealed to her sense of rebellion.He has become her hero and when he yelled at her she was highly impressed with him.Then she saw the dashing dude who came to give a talk in her college and of course he fought off Sunny and gang on various occasions in a very sensible manner.All these thing she saw in him made her hero.And of course there is also a desire to prove Anandi wrong (that may be a minor issue given her wild infatuation with him)By wanting to marry him she is stating her desire to possess him.(our culture doesn't let a woman go and say to a guy straight away that she finds him attractive)
- Why J cannot think what kind of partner he wants before saying yes?J doesn't even want to get married right now so it is impossible for him to come out and say what he wants in a partner.But in a way he already stated that he wants what kind of partner he wants.It is either Anandi or no one else.Since he cannot have Anandi it doesn't matter who it is as long as he fulfills his family's wishes.Just like A agreed to marry to fulfil her family's wishes J agreed too.I think this is CVs way of saying that he cares for his family regardless of what he puts himself through.
He always looked for Anandi in every woman he meets.When he first saw Gauri his first impression of Gauri was that she is exactly like A and that's what attracted him to her in the first place.He kind of unconsciously tried to make Gauri into Anandi which her off and made her insecure.Same way when he met Ganga he could see himself and Anandi in Ganga and Ratan and that seems to be the reason for his attachment with Ganga at present.Even Sanchi he probably was reminded of young Anandi who was always so eager to please him and that's the reason why he failed to put distance between her and him and invited himself this trouble.
- Why can't Singhs & Shekhars see the obvious differences in Sa Ja's though processes? Even though Sa is nice from their POV, don't they feel that Sa is NOT their types? Same applies to Shekhars.Shings and Shekhars are closing their mind wilfully.They think those differences can be sorted out when they start their marriage.Like Sumi said that she is sure that Sanchi will learn to adjust with them
- How awkward does it feel that Ex husband of DIL becomes their future Son-in-law? Where does it leave A-J at and how does Shiv Saanchi feel about their spouses for that matter?This was first raised by Alok then Khazan now both were made to shut up.Shiv seemed to have thought of it but kept quiet. Bhairon and Basant raised this issue they were made to keep quiet. Jagya's main concern was this discomfort between him and A. Anandi typically did not think of how she would feel and how it would affect her if this happens till she saw J bending to touch her feet.
- Finally, does everyone think that Sa Ja will be able to bring out the best in each other, when they have nothing in common?For this thought to enter their minds they ahve to know both Sanchi and Jagya well not just one of them.Right now only Shiv and Anandi know both these two well and that's why they are not hopeful about it and only difference is that Anandi is opening her mouth and Shiv is keeping his mouth shut.The rest of them need to see J and Sa together to realise it.

I don't mean to pause these questions to you, I am just saying my mind regarding the complexities of this track.

My answers rather my thoughts regarding these issues are in red.

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hooked

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Posted: 12 years ago

#29

We've discussed this before but Ganga needs to keep her desires for DoctorSa and her unhapiiness at his betrothal - out of her face for everyone to read.

Sumi is rightly upset at seeing Ganga unhappy about her son finally on the way to settling down with a girl fm a good family. While I agree Saanchi is the worst possible girl for J, if you ask Sumi - she will certainly not pick Ganga as a potential bride for J either.

Ganga is a gem but - Ganga comes with a big baggage - a gangster husband, a kid from that husband and no real extra benefits except her own sweet loving and caring nature.

So, as wrong as Sumi is - Ganga is not right either in letting her sadness reflect on her face. She is just a person who has been taken in out of kindness - she is not going to be considered as marriage material for J and Sumi is within her rights to sense something strange about Ganga's behaviour towards J. Considering the almost fatal attack on him - any mom will want to protect her kid.

But instead of being devious and nasty in private as Sumi has been - I'd have been more understanding if Sumi had approached DS and Bhairon and expressed her desire to find another safe place for Ganga. Being nasty to Ganga in this situation - when she has no other real options - is just cowardly. Sumi has been telling G she has overstayed her welcome - but not doing anything to find other options for Ganga to help her move out.

Like Jagya said - her college admissions is a long way away, so why can't Sunmi - as the wife of one of the wealthiest men in Jaitser - find another place for G ?

Edited by hooked - 12 years ago