I cannot agree with you completely because Anandi herself asked Shiv to marry her, she herself didn't take time to recover. Granted Dadisa needs to have some patience instead of pushing her into this, but Anandi has not reached out for help from Bhairon either, she just keeps everything to herself and feels suffocated. Since Bhairon or Sumitra have supported her, she should at least communicate with them, or even with Shiv. Instead of saying anything she is seething inside, and unfortunately Shiv will bear the brunt of this. She is like a volcano because she keeps things inside and then one day they all erupt on the wrong person, without understanding the situation. In this case it has always been Shiv.
She should have given it time instead of begging Shiv to marry her. And if the burden of her mother's wish is so much that she wants to fulfill it asap, she should at least communicate with Shiv. Instead she is behaving passive aggressively. Shiv has shown her nothing but respect and support, and she cannot even grant the same for him. She comes across so badly in front of his family with her sullen looks.
I don't have that much sympathy for her because she keeps thinking of Jagya. He has done so much to hurt her, so much, yet she keeps thinking of him. And she is using Shiv just to fulfill her mother's wishes. I have lost all sympathy and empathy for the girl, especially because she asked Shiv to marry her despite his hesitation.