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Originally posted by: anjana.d
IMO whats the bloody need of any party. u lost a kid damn it an dur husb is barely holding it together. save ur energies for healing together rather than wast eit on pomp and show.as fo rthe grand wedding, mine was a very ordinary affair. not that i feel it was the best situation to be in the world ... but whats done cannot be undone even if today i wear rs 50,000 lehanga. th emoment has come n gone. thats how it was meant to be in my life, my destiny. it is betetr to accept some lapses of fate gracefully than to try n correct them all the time. makes no sense.
I love this part in red. And I completely agree with you 100% ... I think denial and wishing things were different is tremendously time consuming and a strain on mental and emotional resources. It is inded better to accept some lapses of fate gracefully rather than trying to "fix" the past...
I dont grudge her wanting to have a party ... but I believe the underlying intention to be celebrate her marriage NOW rather than stepping into a time-machine type of approach to fix the past...and the situations in her life now dont warrant any kind of celebration NOW -- there are so many problems with jagat, he gets irritable in the presence of their hyena like friends who taunt him, she has lost a baby, he is clearly unhappy about his family's loss from his life -- even if she is happy about it...
And the ordinary low-key nature of her first wedding was her own choice ... it was not something imposed upon her by circumstances beyond her control ... if she wanted a grand wedding she should have designed circumstances like that where she could have friends and family around her...
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