Bhairon preparing for gauri's arrival

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Posted: 13 years ago

#51

Originally posted by: Panchi_Joon

bold@ i disagree to this part. Jagya's life became a chaos only because of him and nobody else. tell me one incident when Jagya regretted of being married in childhood. Any incident where his life was jeopardised because of Anandi or the singh family. No where it was shown. Jagya suffered because of his wrong decisions, because of his temperament, his attitude, his selfishness. Isme Bhairon kya karen. If even after loving Gauri , jagya and anandi mutually decided to separate but Bhairon and other family members refused to accept or if jagya after falling in love with Gauri sacrificed his love to keep Bhairon and Co happy then it would have been applicable to say that Jagya ki Zindagi barbaad hui he Bhairon ki wazah se otherwise not.

Absolutely correct ...

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Posted: 13 years ago

#52

Originally posted by: elasingh
I have nowhere said that they should accept bigamy.All I want to say is that jo kuch ho raha hai Usme wo apne hisse ka blame accept kare. Secondly its great that Bhairav thinks of Anandi as his own daughter but he should somtimes also think as Jagia father. Uski zindgi bhi to barbaad hui hai Bhairav ki wazah se.

thats where i dnt agree

see g has never never accepted any galti of her own- phele a j marriage is wrong as it was bv, then mine j marriage is right as it is leagal nad i was his bv, then when illeagl then it was that bv mei tha and till no court case am wife, she feelno wrong in insulting a- a woman jilted by her hubby, she feels no wrong in hiding te fact that j family supported her and says self made and dsnt want anytihng form family, however for me the biggest worng was to continue to beleive j after finidng out he is marreid more than that when found out not leagl still also continuing instead of asknig an hounrable way ofdivrce and marrage!!

second b and ds are responsible for cm, he would have even supported had it been in a decent way j life is bad coz of his own mistaeks- his crulety his rash decsions , his lack of ambiton

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Posted: 13 years ago

#53

first of all bhairon singh ki wajah se gauri jagya ki zindagi barbaad nahi hui .even unhe to pata bhi nahi tha ki shaadi ho rahi hai .pur unhe jaise hi pataa chala ki woh shaadi rokne gaye the pur tub tuk bahut der ho chuki thi .aur baad mein bhairon singh ne apni galti naa hote hue bhi maafi maangi aur dadisa ne bhi maangi aur usko padhne mein finacially madad ki .bhairon singh ne uski zindagi barbaad nahi sawaarin hai pur gauri accept karne ko tayaar nahi use to bus gaon ke aaspas ki baatein yaad hai aur doosra bhairon singh apne bete ki galtiyon ko kyon support kare aur kya baat hui ki bhairon singh ki wajah se zindagi barbaad hui .jagya ki zindagi barbaad ho rahi hai apne dushkarmo se .btw bhairon singh never supported child marriage yahan tuk ki apne bete ki pehli shaadi bhi nahi

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Posted: 13 years ago

#54

Originally posted by: surabhi01
first of all bhairon singh ki wajah se gauri jagya ki zindagi barbaad nahi hui .even unhe to pata bhi nahi tha ki shaadi ho rahi hai .pur unhe jaise hi pataa chala ki woh shaadi rokne gaye the pur tub tuk bahut der ho chuki thi .aur baad mein bhairon singh ne apni galti naa hote hue bhi maafi maangi aur dadisa ne bhi maangi aur usko padhne mein finacially madad ki .bhairon singh ne uski zindagi barbaad nahi sawaarin hai pur gauri accept karne ko tayaar nahi use to bus gaon ke aaspas ki baatein yaad hai aur doosra bhairon singh apne bete ki galtiyon ko kyon support kare

The way Gauri dont accept her mistake .. Her fans dont accept that she is wrong.. :(

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Posted: 13 years ago

#55

If gauri really wanted to be a part of the singh parivar, and was so particular about being accepted ... then she should have gone with jagya BEFORE their court wedding and asked for their permission and blessings. That would have been a hallmark test of her sincerity in not only wanting to be jagat's wife but also daughter in law to the singhs.

What is the meaning of doing something first and then going and pestering the singh parivar for aashirwaad. Her intention was never aashirwaad and the singhs knew it ... they couldnt trust her from day one ... they knew she was mocking them and had come with revenge in her mind.

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Posted: 13 years ago

#56

Originally posted by: tinoo

So these metrics of good bahu-ness really have no meaning.

I have to disagree with you Tinoo. The Singh family would have aceppted gauri too, had she been patient with them. There was no resistance from Anandi's side. Anandi perfectly supported them.

The meterics of good bahu have a meaning!

The real problem is with Gauri and her adjustment. First of all she expected a red carpet welcome. She has done a good job and if Anandi suffers so what! Society east or west do not support adultery. Imagine how much havoc it can wreck on social relations! Thats why she is condemened. The symphaties with Anandi are also from an angle of this, not just because she is a good bahu.

The only sensible solution should have been Gauri realizing the truth of her marriage and bracing herself for condemnation. But she insensitively began to rub on everyone her Saccha pyar theory. She wanted acceptance and a position that is not hers. I can understand Jagiya's love and his choice angle, but still he had a consumated first marriage with his wife. How can anyone justify Jagiya or Gauri! 😲

The key to winning over people is this only patience. Sumitra rightly said to Gauri, respect is commanded not begged or forced. if Gauri wanted her place, she should have fought for it sensibly than start screaming and insulting people. This made people hate her even more.

This quote will make my point better 😃

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that 👍🏼

Martin Luther King

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Posted: 13 years ago

#57

This is where we differ avantika...

I dont think the position of singhs bahu is some sort of role that they are casting ... and asking individuals to come and audition for ... i.e. the best casting call will be made based on who can make the best adrak wali chai and the best samosas and who can provide a swedish massage...

Gauri's screaming may not have helped matters any ... but even if she was perfectly quiet and dignified for several years together ... the singhs would never have accepted her as their bahu ... the fact remains that they were neither consulted nor informed about the wedding... and because gauri being gauri, they expected her to have made a different decision from the get-go ...not to commit the same mistake which her parents committed years ago. They were disgusted with her for several reasons ... and bhairon singh is a man with a strong sense of right and wrong ... and he clearly saw this as wrong.

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Posted: 13 years ago

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Originally posted by: tinoo
This is where we differ avantika...

I dont think the position of singhs bahu is some sort of role that they are casting ... and asking individuals to come and audition for ... i.e. the best casting call will be made based on who can make the best adrak wali chai and the best samosas and who can provide a swedish massage...

Gauri's screaming may not have helped matters any ... but even if she was perfectly quiet and dignified for several years together ... the singhs would never have accepted her as their bahu ... the fact remains that they were neither consulted nor informed about the wedding... and because gauri being gauri, they expected her to have made a different decision from the get-go ...not to commit the same mistake which her parents committed years ago. They were disgusted with her for several reasons ... and bhairon singh is a man with a strong sense of right and wrong ... and he clearly saw this as wrong.

Dear Tinoo,

To start with, Thank you for accepting that gauri's own screaming has complicated the matters!

but then," but even if she was perfectly quiet and dignified for several years together ... the singhs would never have accepted her as their bahu ",

Why so pessimist? They would have! They would have no other choice. Gauri's own good nature would have helped. They are not planning to keep Anandi as a bahu forever. They have accepted the fact that she has to go and get married again in a nice family. Had they only wanted her, they would have just kept her back.

For how long can parents remain aloof from their kids? They are angry that Gauri and Jagya did a mistake, but to keep punishing them forever. Think of a situation where gauri doesn't scream back, but keeps maintaing her good behaviour. It would have got some sympathies for their love with time. They would have thought the girl is good, whatever happened is also their mistake.

But Gauri and Jagiya never allowed any symphathy to develop for them- celebrating SR in front of Anandi, moving around the village as lovers, screaming and insulting people without realizing what their act has done to the honour of the family, screaming at Anandi for funding ( and mind you if they were not principled and good and wanted to break their marriage they could let Gauri go away in pregnant state. But they kept her back, despite their hatredness), the property issue, BM issue, Sumitra Challenge!

How can one accept a person like Gauri? She is a limit. No body is responsible for our goodness nor for our evil. We are solely responsible for our actions, if Gauri had insecurity, does that mean she will misbehave with anyone.

The attitude towards Jagiya was changing when he saved Anandi, he came for BM. It would have also changed towards Gauri had her nature been good! Singh family never tried to impose Anandi on Jagiya. They never said you won't get any property etc. In fact they wanted his divorce, Though in the past the return of Jagiya to Anandi was desirable, the singhs never tried to impose it on Jagiya.

So Singh opposition to Gauri is also of a matter of principles, not Anandi per se. And it has stiffened because of Gauri's own nature!

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tinoo

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Posted: 13 years ago

#59

I still dont feel that gauri's subsequent good behaviour would have compensated for/over-ridden the singhs dislike for her (whether or not anandi was in the equation).

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Suchi-

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Posted: 13 years ago

#60

well said avantika.

a )Sumitra once asked gauri, that what have you done for this family that we have to accept you?

b)She has always held grudge against them

c) she has always blamed them for her misery (yes to some extent but due to bhairav helping her to achieve what she has now, she should have been grateful, if not at least stop insulting them)

d) she told Jagya to ask for his property because she never trusted that she would be accepted in the family in the first place

Anandi was respectful to their decision and gauri never returned that back. She always took the worst and when ever she got a chance she retorted with bad manners.

Singh family , does not have to accept someone who does not respect them. No one can force one on another.

They are not insulting them, and letting them live their life. That should be good enough for them