Originally posted by: elasingh
I put myself in jagat.s shoes and i know i will be very mad if my parents supported someone else against me and threw me out of their lives.My relations with them will never be same .
again. I put myself in Gauris shoes and i know i would
I be very hurt if i m continuousely called a marriage breker, mistress and what not. How can i ever break a relationship if it is strong. If those 2 couldnot handle their relations ,what can i do?
I put myself in Anandis shoes and god what a wonderful life I lead. I live in comfort and never have to worry about rozi roti. Hence I sit on my large bed wearing lovely clothes and fine jwellery and bahaoing tears as i have all the time in the world to brood. When you have money even pain becoms a luxury.
Elasingh, in principle I support you in 99.99% of your views ... its just here that I want to put a different opinion forward.
1. I dont think Jagat has any business being mad -- his parents threw him out for his own deeds and not any kind of anandi vs. jagya matter where they decided anandi was more important to them than jagya -- he lied continually to his parents about having an emotional relationship with gauri -- never once told them and never once confided in them -- after his mbbs he came back, and rejected the hospital that his parents had built for him -- which is okay, it is his life -- but the rejection was done in a cruel manner -- by belittling villagers, by belittling village health issues and saying that villagers were unhygenic to begin with, so a hospital was useless. Was that any way to talk?
At that time, though bhairon was disappointed, he still supported jagya (against his own mother and brother) and said he agreed that MBBS was perhaps a basic qualification, and if jagya needed additional study qualifications, he should go to stufy for MS most definitely. Bhairon supported him. And what did this prince do? He went back to Mumbai, told his parents that he hs checked into a boys hostel, and promptly entered into a live-in-relationship with gauri. After that he lied, lied, and lied some more about various things. Eventually bhairon went to Mumbai and the truth came tumbling out.
Why did bhairon slap him? He didnt slap him because Jagya no longer wanted anandi ... he slapped Jagya because of the millions of lies that came to his face. And he didnt cut off funds for Jagya's MS because jagya no longer wanted anandi ... he cut off funds because jagya made grand declarations at that time "I am independent, I dont want you, I dont like villages etc. etc. etc."
So bhairon felt... fine if you are independent, then do things your own way -- if you dont want anything that we have to say ... then you probably dont want our money either.
As far as anandi goes, bhairon (legitimately) felt that jagya should have disabused anandi of the thought that she is his wife... after all she was living as his wife in jayetsar wasnt she? even if it was a child marriage ... what was anandi's current understanding of her status?
Bhairon was also disgusted that even if jagya did not want to stay married to anandi, instead of having any thought about her rehabilitation, he is telling his mother "throw her out of the house"...
Then after he gave jagya and gauri the freedom to live their lives... both of them come to the haveli instead , asking for "aashirwaad"... which eventually came to light that "aashirwaad" is to be translated as finances for his M.S. ... that too after he has been rude to bapusa and held his hand when bapusa tried to slap him...
Subsequent episodes have proven that Jagat approaches them only when he needs something -- money or whatever... and Jagat has never offered them any kind of meaningful apology.
The point I am trying to make is that Jagat has no business being mad -- because even taking anandi out of the equation -- his parents have plenty of reasons to be mad at him for his lies, deceit and bad behaviour. They have not distanced themselves from him solely to put anandi on a pedestal -- they are tired of his own behaviour and cannot trust him anymore.
I have views on the gauri and anandi part of your post as well... but will reply in continuation later.
This is just the jagat part.
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