Why? - Page 4

Originally posted by: jiya25

I know how difficult things can get sometimes with one-sided feelings. I had a friend who was quite taken by me. During those days i used to use the words like sweety and babe, love quite often in my vocabulary to address my friends, but i realised that he took them seriously when i used them in talking to him, so i immidietly stopped. even though i was still as friendly as always, i was very careful to never give him any false hope or hurt him in any way...

i agree that ashi needs to come out and have a talk with shiv instead of giving BIG hints and shiv needs to not let her hang all over him if he has the slightest idea about her feelings!!!

Yes, I've been on the other (Shiv's) side of things myself too... it can get extremely awkward. For ages I didn't realise that the guy was into me, and didn't want to breach the issue in case I was misreading it or he denied it or was hurt (which is probably Shiv's problem... but c'mon, dude, Ashi's hints aren't exactly, well, subtle... 😆). Eventually, his behaviour and the kinds of over the top things he was doing for me meant that I couldn't really ignore it any more and knew I'd feel guilty if I wasn't honest with him. It was very awkward, and I wasn't sure he'd quite got the point (though it turned out he had), but it meant I didn't have to feel guilty because we were (hopefully) on the same page. He was still hurt, obviously, but he's found somebody else, we're still friends, and it's all good! So I hope Ashi finds herself a nice Londoner soon 😃