To me, Jagya is a completely confused soul. On one hand, he's an ethical and compassionate human being, which are very essential for his medical profession. He cannot see people being wronged or cheated. What about himself? Did he never cheat in life? Did he not wrong so many people in order to fulfill his own selfish desires? The people at his hospital were at least cheating strangers for their money. What did he do to his own family members? Why Double Standards become a norm of the day when it comes to people's personal lives. This shows the strength of your character. He left his simple, less educated, rural wife for a more beautiful, smart, educated and urban girl. He destroyed the lives of two people simultaneously, just to nurse his own desires. Like every weak person, he opted for Glittering Gold rather than Real Gold. What if his present wife now goes for a more qualified and educated person than him? She wants him to complete his MS. But she finds social acceptance a bigger reason for him to complete his studies rather than for his own development. She's doing this to derive satisfaction for herself rather than her husband. She isn't doing this out of love and if she is then she is giving crappy reasons to her husband for this. This is height of self-centeredness.
Being the educated girl she is, Gauri should have had the courage to kick him out of her life as soon as she came to know the truth. But she too finally gave in to her own interests and desires. She didn't think that the weak person Jagya is, would he be able to sustain a relationship of less than a year, if he wasn't able to do that with the relationship of more than 10 years? Even when they were kids, Jagya and Anandi's relationship had evolved to mature from innocent friendship to love. The attraction was the next step when they both were consenting adults. As a kid, it might have been his parents' decision. But as an adult, he was sane and educated enough to be capable of making his own decisions. Besides that, it's acceptable that he still had feelings for his ex-wife whenever he was put in proximity with her due to circumstances as he is a human being. But why does he switches off every emotion related to Anandi and his family whenever his unscrupulous wife tries to brainwash him? Doesn't he have a mind and spine of his own? The unacceptable social humiliation that he gave to his family is a lifelong wound that he should be forever ashamed of. Still he displayed the mindlessness of asking for his share in his property. Sadly enough, this isn't Jagya's tale alone. I know of several people in real life who commit this atrocity without even thinking once. Children murdering their family members for property is a common crime that we come across in newspapers, on television and even in our real lives. Jagya is simply a less evil manifestation of this spineless parasitic nature prevalent in our society.
I have no words to applaud the Balika Vadhu team. Instead of just tailing around for TRPs and keeping the lead couple together, they went for the real issue that led to the conception of the show in the first place. "Kachchi Umar ke Pakke Rishte". Age is a very crucial factor in determining the future of a sacrosanct institution like marriage. This is accepted in not only a socially conservative country like ours, but in the West as well. People spend years before making a final commitment to marriage because they realize its importance and the responsibilities attached. Though many of them aren't afraid to make fun of this institution by doing it in inebriated states (Vegasque marriages) or by taking the vows again and again in life, is a totally different matter altogether.
And kudos to the production team to not show Anandi as a weeping damsel in distress forever waiting for Jagya to accept him back as a traditional Indian woman is expected to do, but rather emerge as a much stronger, wiser and better person from the mess she was plunged into for no fault of her own. Education makes a great deal of difference in a person's life. I hope the message from the show has managed to reach some ears. Today, not only Anandi is superior to Jagya in terms of status (socially as well as financially), she has accepted the fact that though love is important, it is even more important to realize when it's time to let it go and make a fresh start.
The fact that at this point when they have started Anandi's remarriage track and there's no sign of a new entry, I think I know what's going to happen. Somehow Jagya will come to know about the truth about Gauri's antics and he would leave her to find his way back to Jetsar. Dadi Sa would see the repenting grandson and like any other human being, would expect Anandi to accept him back. In fact, other than Bhairon, I don't think anyone would put this situation on the scales of rationality rather than emotions. What the audience want? We like good romantic stuff being portrayed on television. So if the lead couple is going to make a comeback, I'm sure many of us would like that to happen.
But being a woman, I would in no way want Anandi to accept Jagya back in her life, when he realizes how selfish and manipulative Gauri is and decides to make amends by coming back to her. It must never be Jagya's decision or conditions that Anandi should possibly be expected to abide. The irreparable damage he did to Anandi's life, the immeasurable pain and mental suffering he gave to his childhood friend and loving, dedicated wife is not forgivable by any means. It's high time he pays for his sins, by being denied the love of both the women in his life. Why should only women be on the receiving end? I'm not being a feminist at all. Yet, when our society expects a woman to take back an infidel husband if he's ready to make amends, I find it really pathetic. Why should a woman be the weaker sex? Why is the notion of being remarried or divorced or widowed or a single parent/individual a taboo/label for any woman in our society at all? We are constitutionally free to make our own decisions. Then why society decides to be a watchdog and tries to impose sanctions when it's none of their business to interfere in anyone's personal life?
Jagya should know the pain of rejection, the state of suffering even when you know you are trying to do the right thing. I don't have any qualms with him being accepted back into the family. He's an inseparable part of their life. They have every right to take him back and seek happiness by having their estranged son back. In fact, parents spend their entire life forgiving the mistake of their children. That's what parents do. They love.
But Jagya is Anandi's biggest offender. He destroyed her individuality, personality, her personal as well as social life. She bore the consequences of her husband's mistake for no fault of her own. She may forgive him as a human being. But as a wife, she should never forgive him for the abominable crime he committed. She should be given the choice to make her own decision. Now that Anandi is an equal to Jagya in every sense, and at this juncture he finds out he had made a grave mistake in selecting the life partner, it's an even bigger sin to expect that she forgives him. Would he have done the same had Anandi committed the same mistake? His male ego would have blasted to smithereens if he had come to know that he had been faithful and his wife had wronged him. Neither he, nor his family members would have accepted her back even if she would have sincere in accepting her mistakes and repenting for them. So why should Anandi be expected to be the better person than his husband and do what is expected from her rather than what she really feels? If Balika Vadhu team is still concerned about spreading a message (which in my opinion, it is), they would put Anandi's character on this point when she would be asked to make a decision but they would let her select someone more stronger, better and more reliable than her ex-husband.
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