I think that villager couple was through and through wrong in everything.
1. First, I dont see the need to get involved in children's disputes. Children will automatically have some kind of regrouping mechanism where if they dont like Nandu, they will stop interacting with him and leave him out of it. All the kids were anyway in favour of the other child. So, the mother needing to get involved in it was kind of against my parenting strategy. I dont intrude into my children's relationships -- I think they need to learn to deal with others independently as part of their personality development and develop their own strategies and my interference like a knight in shining armour kind of stunts their social development.
2. Second, if at all as the villager mother I felt the need to get involved, I would stick to telling my child to not interacting with Nandu anymore if it was avoidable and if it was a one time thing. I dont encourage my kids to go and duke it out with another 8 year old. I also think about whether future interactions with this child are absolutely necessary. There are several different individuals in the world -- we dont need to be friends with everyone.
And if at all I felt the need to get involved, I would most certainly not assault another person's kid. It is not my role to discipline -- and if something untoward happens (just like it did with nandu fracturing his arm) - then it would bring a huge problem on my head. I would just have gone and told Nandu's parents what the issue was and let them deal with their child the way they saw fit.
3. There is another dynamic she needed to be careful about -- that Nandu is certainly the son of her husband's boss -- whether she likes it or not. In the middle of all this -- she should have stuck to the issue of her son being kicked etc. ... but instead she started insulting the badi haveli etc. and this was wrong. It is wrong to show contempt of your boss.
4. When Basant came to their home, Rameshwar and wife should have acknowledged that it was done in a hot-tempered fit and just apologized and said "we apologize for this"... but instead they started talking about the badi haveli and insulted Basant and that too in front of other villagers. Obviously Basant is the maalik, and he doesnt want to be insulted in front of his other staff members who also work for him. It is very natural. And they started attacking Basant saying "you badi haveli people..." which means that there is a separation between them and the owner and they have no sense of basic loyalty to him. Why should any owner tolerate it? If you think I am such a bad person, then there is no need to work for me also.
I mean lets say Mukesh ambani were in a similar situation and an employee of his said "you arrogant bas***d...you think just because you are a billionaire...blah blah"... who would tolerate it, right or wrong?
Here I dont see the villager couple's behaviour as "wrong" necessary ... but it was lacking discernment and prudence. The issue is was their rightness a trade-off for their happiness.
Basically they needed to know that if they spoke like this the end result would definitely be losing their jobs -- so it was a trade-off for them -- was their self-respect invested in defending the mother's pushing ...or was it invested in remaining employed.
This is an unfortunate fact of life -- you cant speak ill of your boss in any condition and still expect to remain in your position because of a sense of "fairness" or through a court ordered/panchayat ordered reinstatement ... because ultimately the relationship is anyway gone...and why would he
I mean if I spoke to my boss, and he fired me, even if I get a court ordered forcible reinstatement in the company it wont be the same as if I worked there throughout with no unemployment.
The villager couple are guilty of the sin of not knowing how to talk to people in authority. It has nothing to do with "fair" and "unfair" -- it is just prudence and discernment.
So in sum, whatever Nandu's faults -- the villager lady had no business physically assaulting him. I think basant and gehna would have easily overlooked it as a "bachon ka jhagda" if the boy himself had pushed Nandu. But the mother pushing him (given her physical size and authority) was wrong.
Finally, I think Basant's mistake was that as an employer he should have maintained his dignity... and instead of going to the villager's home -- he should have called the villager to the badi haveli and fired him there instead. A large part of this issue escalated because basant was insulted in front of several people and neighbours. He should just have handled it through his representative ... and sent someone to summoned the villager to his home.
Was losing the job "unfair"... yes but... I wonder how many of us would be retained in our jobs after pushing the boss's son in a playground, leaving him alone after he was injured (not even taking him to the hospital) and then screaming at the boss in an insulting tone. The boss would never want someone who had a grudge for him or spoke contemptuously of "badi haveli waale" to work for him.
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