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Originally posted by: tanvismile
,here i was just saying that bhairon dint want to tell g s family then there was no need to bade papa ,becoz y they have to hear all that ,y r they looked upon as esan faramosh ,its like they gave so much and wat ull did.if he wanted to keep it secret then tell bade papa .
Tanvi,
thats a great question. I agree with you to a certain extent, that if Bhairon really did not want bade papa to know -- then he could have given bade papa a heads up two months ago and said -- look, this is the last of my funding. Bade papa could have told gauri -- I can only fund you for two months more. Then, when gauri ran out of cash, she would not have asked and neither would bade papa have had to tell her the reason for stoppage of funds. So yes, bhairon could have easily remained an anonymous donor in this scenario if he so chose. His sudden stoppage of funds and revelation to bade papa indicates that he wanted gauri to find out that he was her sponsor.
But I think the above argument then pre-supposes that Bhairon had just some sort of clinical arrangement with bade papa where he would deposit money into his account, and in turn, bade papa would clinically deposit into gauri's account.
Knowing both Bhairon and bade papa -- this does not seem very plausible to me. I am sure that Bhairon had an emotional investment in Gauri as did Bade papa. They both wanted to see Gauri do well in life. And I am sure that this arrangement of money which has been going on for more than 12 years was also filled with progress reports about gauri and her well-being. It wasnt just a clinical financial arrangement devoid of any emotion or contact with other parties. And I am sure that 'progress reports' were not just limited to her report cards and her test scores -- but her overall well-being -- there are so many facets to personality development and growth.
As time passed, as with all cases, people drift apart and the progress reports may have become far and few between, and with the fact that she was now in a medical college and doing well etc. -- Bhairon and Bade papa both became relaxed that Gauri was on the right path in life -- and the progress reports may have been lax and more relaxed and more intervals passing duly. Then, it may have just become a routine procedure of monthly fund transfer not because Bhairon didnt care any more, but he had peace of mind that Gauri was indeed progressing in life as he had intended to do.
Then Gauri married J -- and so when bade papa called bhairon in the conversation we saw, I dont think that Bhairon is obligated just to talk clinically about financial arrangements and clinically talk just about money to bade papa. He has full rights to discuss other aspects of Gauri's life too-- since both bade papa and bhairon entered into this arrangement with a mutual goal -- the goal was not to educate gauri -- the goal was to improve her life -- and the education was means to that end.
And Bhairon wanted to let bade papa know that paradoxically, while gauri was indeed educated as per the plan, the goal they had entered into this arrangement with had failed totally and completely. Her education had not led her to make sane judgment calls or display a sense of morals.
I think bade papa deserved to know this. Dont you? After all, he was not just the conduit or the middle man for the money. He also has a substantial contribution in gauri's education -- he said so in the scene when he broke ties with her -- he used to sit with her until late night to help her study and to encourage her. He has seen her as a daughter and even with Bhairon's funding, gauri might still not have been able to leverage opportunities unless she had bade papa's support.
So, I think bhairon is fully justified in discussing the J-G marriage with bade papa -- because he never had a narrow clinical arrangement with bade papa just to keep shoving money into gauri's bank account -- there was a holistic broader perspective with which he and bade papa had entered into this arrangement. So he needed to let bade papa know that the battle was won, but the war was lost. Her education was not just a narrow box. They were both interested in her overall development as an individual.
Now what bade papa chose to do with the information is not Bhairon's lookout.
But we all have value systems, and sometimes individuals' value systems dont mesh. So bade papa decided that his and gauri's values were not in alignment. Then relationships break. Its not about moral judgements that are universal, but what is acceptable to each individual and what is not.
It could have been that Bhairon would have told bade papa this -- and bade papa could have been like shivani was initially -- oh it doesnt matter, legal doesnt matter, jagat is with you, etc. etc. and still kept the relationship with gauri and her family if those were his values.
But he has different values so he broke the relationship with gauri and her family.
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