WU June 30th 2011 - Page 3

Originally posted by: Suchi-NivReniac

FIRST and most important lesson of Marriage

NEVER say anything about mother in law in front of husband.

A big NO if he is mamma's boy... 😃 and that too when you are newly married. Like SR tips now time to give tips on how to behave as new bahu 😆. Don't volunteer yourself for doing any kind of rasam which your in-laws haven't thought of.

Originally posted by: vasuja

Gauri's mom taught her duniyaadhari by asking her to do kuldevi pooja

but the first thing to teach G is never talk bad abt ur sasuma to ur husband that too when u r newly married. Husbands will always stand up for their mom and not for wife

I am not justifying Jagya, but majority of men in the world, whatever society they belong too, however forward they r reactexactly the same way as Jagya does..

Not me!!! Not ever!!! My mom wouldn't dare to treat my wife the way these serial characters treat their bahus. B'cos she'd be @ the receiving end of more than just being read the riot act. Not b'cos I love my wife, but b'cos I can't stand the concept of MILs lording over their bahus like they were maids in the house. This is irrespective of whether my wife was someone like Anandi or Gauri. As for DS, had I been in Jagya's place, she'd have ended up in a bodybag long ago for her treatment of Anandi, no matter how well she treated me.

But it works both ways. Every relationship has its own right. Sometimes one is right and sometimes the other is right.

Originally posted by: _Vrish_

Not me!!! Not ever!!! My mom wouldn't dare to treat my wife the way these serial characters treat their bahus. B'cos she'd be @ the receiving end of more than just being read the riot act. Not b'cos I love my wife, but b'cos I can't stand the concept of MILs lording over their bahus like they were maids in the house. This is irrespective of whether my wife was someone like Anandi or Gauri. As for DS, had I been in Jagya's place, she'd have ended up in a bodybag long ago for her treatment of Anandi, no matter how well she treated me.

Personally, I have nothing but a great disdain for men who allow their moms/sisters/aunts/grandmas/etc to mistreat their wives. If that's what they were going to do, why marry them in the first place?

That is why I mentioned majority of men behave that way. Majority of such men do exsist in the society. I should have written majority of men, i mentioned it below but forgot to rephrase the statement


Well if Jagya had ur attitude he would have stood for Anandi from beginning, encourage her to study even brought her to the city and help her adapt. all this locha would not have happened at all

Originally posted by: _Vrish_

Not me!!! Not ever!!! My mom wouldn't dare to treat my wife the way these serial characters treat their bahus. B'cos she'd be @ the receiving end of more than just being read the riot act. Not b'cos I love my wife, but b'cos I can't stand the concept of MILs lording over their bahus like they were maids in the house. This is irrespective of whether my wife was someone like Anandi or Gauri. As for DS, had I been in Jagya's place, she'd have ended up in a bodybag long ago for her treatment of Anandi, no matter how well she treated me.

Personally, I have nothing but a great disdain for men who allow their moms/sisters/aunts/grandmas/etc to mistreat their wives. If that's what they were going to do, why marry them in the first place?

absolutely right,

Originally posted by: _Vrish_

Vasuja

I think you are making big assumptions by projecting Jagya's attitude on to a majority of men. I agree that most may not have my attitude, but I'm willing to maintain that most would not stand up for their wife being mistreated. I'm talking about today, not 19th or 20th century men.

exactly -vasuja woh puraani baat hain . today i mostly see men being joru kaa ghulams😆 yahaan forum pe itnaa aadmiyon ke prati gussa hain , 😲arre baba there r good men too . main apnme experience ke saath keh raha hoon , maine koi itney kharab aadmi nahin dekhe

humein toh apne jagya kaa intezaar karna hain yeh jaante huye ki shayad woh kabhi waapis nahin aayega

kyaa dialogue maara anadi, so woh jagya waapis aa gaya toh u and him , dhikachika😛🥳🤢

Originally posted by: intruderfast

exactly -vasuja woh puraani baat hain . today i mostly see men being joru kaa ghulams😆 yahaan forum pe itnaa aadmiyon ke prati gussa hain , 😲arre baba there r good men too . main apnme experience ke saath keh raha hoon , maine koi itney kharab aadmi nahin dekhe

Anmol & Vriish

I am not talking about men not standing up for mistreatment. In the initial stages of marriage most men cannot take their wife complaining about their mother which is quiet human because psychologically they are attached to their mothers than wives...Only after a longer period of relationship they become tolerant and understanding towards their wife. complaints about there mothers..So is the case with the wife. Even leading psychologist and great books ,"like men are from mars and women are from venus" mention these basic human psychological traits and offer explainations to understand the opposite sex. This attitude is seen in both men and women of any century.

Anmol Iam not saying men are bad. A husband intolerant tohis wife badmouthing about his mom does not make him a bad person. it is the initial phase. I am not saying that all men allow their wife to be mentally and physically abused in the earlier marriage days. But it is very very normal that both husband and wife do not tolerate remarks about their respective parent in lighter situations as shown in the serial.