BV Written Update June 13th 2011 - Page 7

Nice@ sreevask

In one sentence J ne ANANDI ko aur uski achhaiyonko USE kiya hai aur matlab pura hote hee kudekachare ki tarah apne life se fake diya hai. Areey J ki saanse bhi ANANDI ki mohtaaj hai Lekin sirf vo Purush hai isiliye kuch bhi kar sakata hai. Isey to jail bhijvana chahiye. Vo insaan kisika bhi pyaar deserve nahi karata.

Originally posted by: Suchi-NivReniac

Nice@ sreevask

And good points Jyoti!!!!

I am glad that Anandi is going to do some serious butt kicking : )))

Not all relationships break with the breaking of a marriage. Anandi's relationship with the Singh family is much deeper than just her position as Jagya's wife. Having spent more than a decade with them, these members are closer to her heart than even her own parents. I have seen many real life cases like this where a divorced woman is still close to her in laws. Anandi's case reminds me of a beautiful Bengali movie titled "Paromita-r Ekdin" which is also dubbed in English as "The House of Memories." Please watch it if you ever come across it. It is an amazing tale of a woman's bonds with her mother-in-law and her mentally challenged sister-in-law. The women share ties of the heart and though her failing marriage ends in divorce, the ties fail to sever. When her mother-in-law falls terminally ill, only she can nurture her in her last days and comfort the family after her death. The mentally challenged sister-in-law finds comfort only in her ex-bhabhi.

Anandi shares the same dynamics with the Singh family. She is deeply tied to them emotionally as they are to her. Remember how she refused to go to Mumbai alone leaving this family behind? Agreed Anandi needs to leave the Singh family, agreed the Singh family should let her off for her own sake. But things are not that simple. Anandi did try to leave but what was the result? Dadisa's heart attack. Knowing how soft-hearted Anandi is, can she really think of leaving the family at the cost of hurting someone? Especially after seeing that the family loves her so much that they were even ready to let go Jagya for the sake of Anandi? Wouldn't that be selfish on part of Anandi? It's the basic feelings of love and respect that are keeping Anandi in the haveli, not her lack of self-respect. Selflessness may seem to be a vice for many, but the fact is there are some people in this world who do think about others, who do value love and emotions and are soft hearted. And thank god for those people.

Having said that, it's upto the Singh family to realize what is best for Anandi. At times the elders send away the children from home for their good, even if it hurts. The Singh family have to realize that and convince Anandi to go off for higher education and a better life. But now is not the right time for that. Anandi is already suffering from abandonment, she needs to stay amidst the family and feel wanted. If they send her away right now, it might adversely affect her as a trauma. But, yes, in the near future, Anandi should venture out and make her own life.

However, it is difficult for the family to accept Gauri just because she is Jagya's rightful wife. Relationships are not built only on the basis of legality---it takes a lot more than that. Gauri has a very steep road ahead and the task to win everyone's heart is immensely difficult. So she should just go with the flow and let things settle instead off forcibly imposing herself. Relationships don't build in a day just like they don't die in a day.

Thanks for the update Suchi,

To make a long story short i totally agree with woman11's post. although I would want A to move out of the house not because of the presence of G and J but for her studies. J was disowned by his parents not A so if someone has to leave it is them. All the same I understand that the only intention of J A and G to be in the house is to take care of DS and once the task is done they need to move out.

Having said that I do feel A has every right to question J to seek the answers that she needs from him. Since the family is so close knit everyone questioning J is also understandable as long as they don't force him to get back to A coz that doesn't make any sense.

G on the other hand needs to be patient and give time to everyone to recover after suffering two setbacks. If she keeps imposing herself on them they are only going to withdraw from her and be repulsive.

Ok i truly am curious - what is Jagya's "side of the story" that Shyam should listen to that will help change his mind and sympathize with Jagya?

Very well said Woman 11. Relationships cannot be easily broken just like that as if its a thin straw made of Hay.

Thanks Suchi...Now its all clear the root cause for all is not child marriage.. its Jagya ..Jagya.. and only Jagya.. He is not sure what or who he wants.. Anandi ke saath tha tho was looking for Gauri and now married to Gauri but looking at Anandi

I really can't understand why people are refering to Anandi as Jagdish's Ex-wife. Jagdish Marrying someone else doesn't really make her his 'ex-wife'. And why are we dragging the 'child marriage' issue in it? Yes, they were married in childhood, but its not like they haven't met each other in mature age. They used to happily live with each other after Anandi's gaona. The thing is the man moved to some other girl. I dont support child marriage, it will be wiser if they dont marry of Gehna's son at a tender age. But if we now want to nullify every existing child marriage, many lives will fall apart.