Nandini's insecurity

Hi ,

So there's this discussion is happening on other threads about how Nandini keeps planning and plotting against Raya despite all the failed attempts which doesn't make any sense and what is the thought process of Cvs behind all this .

So this got me thinking what if her insecurity is not only financial but subconsciously motherly too.

Because she keeps saying that Ram needs to think that he needs them as family.what if she is sacred to lose her respect, importance and attention as a mother in Ram's life bcz as I remember all her insecurities started to stem after Ram and Meera ma's Sangeet dance performance.

Although she has shivi and shubham who love her but they are too self obsessed and spoilt to actually give a shit about her in real sense.

Like in KRPKAB when dev started giving importance to Sona's opinions and family ishwari was so pissed and insecure she tried to break them off at first. Later she realised all she is doing is hurting her own son.

What if Nandini's reaction to Raya is also similar but in her case she herself don't know about it yet, and later her motherly feelings to Ram realisation track is suppose to happen!?

This is my opinion, would love to know about your all as well.

I think Nandini is a cold ambitious woman with a lot of charm which helps her camouflage well. I dont think she cares 2 hoots for Ram. She knows which side of her bread is buttered. When she married Snr Kapoor she must have seen his attachment to Ram & realised that the way to impress him is by being motherly to Ram. After Snr died, she knows her lifestyle depends on Ram’s loyalty & affection.

But for all the manipulation she does, she doesnt really ‘get’ Ram. If she did, she would know that no manipulation was required at all, only a few drops of ‘apnapan’ is enough to keep Ram at her heels. But thats the problem when a person is cold & unloving herself, she cannot conceive how the other person can be so effortlessly giving so she is always insecure & feels the need to keep ‘trapping in’ that love. Even now, due to her own selfish and treacherous nature, she has fallen into a panic because Ram is getting close to Priya, because she just cant understand that Ram & Priya are both equally dutiful & will never neglect her coz it is not in their nature.

Originally posted by: vimeo

I doubt Nandini will be shown that way. In KRPKAB, she is Deva real mother but here Nandini is sautela. So I doubt they will show that way. But that way wud be a real nice change from the usual. Right now the way she has been portrayed all Nandini is bothered abt is securing her and her children's future. She knows her children are useless and she knows its only Ram who can help them sustain the kind of life they r all leading. That's why she wants Raya to be separated. Bcoz if they r together and later they hv a family of their own then obviously she feels Ram will start focussing more at his own family, securing his own family (like he has just started doing with Priya) and if Shubham falters in his business Ram might just wash off hands!!!

Yes what you are saying I agree to it. This is exactly what they are showing.

I just hope that they don't go usual way and redeem Nandini's character in a real sense and not just uper uper se like they do most of the time.

The only reason I compared iswari and nandini is that both their insecurities rise in a context of losing attention of their elder son. Afterall nandini once herself said to Ram that he made her mother although she has always been manipulating ram with such words but my point was what if she never actually realised her motherly love for him bcz she was never forced to realise it until maybe now(fingers crossed).

She has always been so sure of the fact that Ram will lay down his life for her and her children that they always treated him like a doormat. Afterall people don't usually realise what they have got until they lose it.

Maybe she won't realise her love for him until she loses his respect and love.

I really hope they explore this type of story arch in the future.

I differ with the view that she is insecure and just wants to ensure her ”position” in Ram’s life is secure. While this is true, but she is way too dark a character.

She likes to use people as puppets / tools to eventually materialise her ambitions and she rates herself too high ( in terms of manipulative capabilities) and hence thinks she is privileged to take that liberty with every one.

She needs Ram to provide for her and her children’s opulent lifestyle which is where she will go any lengths to ensure she does not lose that “position” of control in his life. She is the same with Shivi ( does not hesitate for a min to ruin her emotionally) just that she is not that savage with her May be her motherly instinct holds her back.

She would not think twice before backstabbing any one even her shadow if that were possible.

I think going forward it will be a game between Priya and Nandini, when Priya realises the kind of mental games she plays with Ram, and she would get Ram out of it, without letting him know directly what a monster of a mother he has. ( Although they will defined show Priya attempting to expose Nandini directly in front of Ram but he would get offended and which is where I think Meera will ask Priya to be patient and not leave Ram at their disposal)

Your culture is beautiful with respect to mothers and other elders. But it makes me so angry when they openly use it.

What is striking is the logic of Nandini, how it does not reach her that if she is sincere, then the whole world will be given to her. And why does she prefer Vedika, who has a search for gold on her face, to Priya, who needs nothing but family and love. What's wrong with Nandu's head?!

So I asked this question long back when there was not much clearity on nandini.

Now again a lot of questions are arising regarding to her characterisation but one thing I kept thinking how in yesterday's episode first she played the step family card to ram but when shubham said the same thing she rebuked him and they didn't know that Priya was listening in on them so it wasn't an act. It was genuine from her side. She doesn't like it when her kids disrespect ram as an older brother. SHe definitely feel something towards him but what any thoughts??

Also Meera taking her place in Ram's life is a very major issue to her. She just doesn't want Ram to think of any other person as his mother and in tonight's episode it was clear.

In S1 the stepmom had a change of heart ryt...I just read somewhere that she dies saving Ram frm a accident planned by S1 shubhu...

And the change of heart is triggered by Ram's vanabas or somethingHow selfless he is and all that.....

Av tak bahi to kar raha tha behenkhair chodo...

So, since Cvs keep showing similar ideas with little tweaks we may see this is future.....

Now This is what I think Nandini is like or more what I actually would have wanted her to be like....

Not completely evil but selfish and insecure and never been able to forge attachment to her stepson...

Like maybe after marriage Amarnath uncounsiously always comparing her wid Ram's mother not maliciously of course....And Ram always being around as a reminder of Her and also how much her husband loves Ram.....

Making her even more insecure and unsure of her place as an imp person in life of her husband...

Its not easy to be a mother let alone the mother of a teenager....Its not for every1.....She must be quite young also at that tym....

And after subhu is born still she cud see how special a position ram held in her husbands heart...Shivi being a girl completely diff case....

And after Amarnath 's death she bacame more vicious and manipulative so as to secure her n her children's life....Fr her Ram is a complete stranger so y wud he do anything for her....So this fear gave birth to the manipulative Nandu.....Then rest is history...

But in d show Nandini ko basically dikhayenge ki bo gold digger thi n mamamji n her planned to trap Amarnath maybe Ram ki amma ko v tapkaya ho ,maybe Amrnath kov usi ne tapkaya ho kyunki use nandu ki sachayi pata chal gayi or sumthingShashi ki boss v bo he...and Amarnath jinda he use nandu ne bandh kar rakha he kahin

And mumbai me badh v bo lai and full moon night ko nandu werewolf v banti heSab karti he bo.

Wah 5 mrk ka ans lik diya mene🤣🤣

Originally posted by: RitikaS99

Hi ,

So there's this discussion is happening on other threads about how Nandini keeps planning and plotting against Raya despite all the failed attempts which doesn't make any sense and what is the thought process of Cvs behind all this .

So this got me thinking what if her insecurity is not only financial but subconsciously motherly too.

Because she keeps saying that Ram needs to think that he needs them as family.what if she is sacred to lose her respect, importance and attention as a mother in Ram's life bcz as I remember all her insecurities started to stem after Ram and Meera ma's Sangeet dance performance.

Although she has shivi and shubham who love her but they are too self obsessed and spoilt to actually give a shit about her in real sense.

Like in KRPKAB when dev started giving importance to Sona's opinions and family ishwari was so pissed and insecure she tried to break them off at first. Later she realised all she is doing is hurting her own son.

What if Nandini's reaction to Raya is also similar but in her case she herself don't know about it yet, and later her motherly feelings to Ram realisation track is suppose to happen!?

This is my opinion, would love to know about your all as well.

I doubt Nandini will be shown that way. In KRPKAB, she is Deva real mother but here Nandini is sautela. So I doubt they will show that way. But that way wud be a real nice change from the usual. Right now the way she has been portrayed all Nandini is bothered abt is securing her and her children's future. She knows her children are useless and she knows its only Ram who can help them sustain the kind of life they r all leading. That's why she wants Raya to be separated. Bcoz if they r together and later they hv a family of their own then obviously she feels Ram will start focussing more at his own family, securing his own family (like he has just started doing with Priya) and if Shubham falters in his business Ram might just wash off hands!!!

Originally posted by: RitikaS99

So I asked this question long back when there was not much clearity on nandini.

Now again a lot of questions are arising regarding to her characterisation but one thing I kept thinking how in yesterday's episode first she played the step family card to ram but when shubham said the same thing she rebuked him and they didn't know that Priya was listening in on them so it wasn't an act. It was genuine from her side. She doesn't like it when her kids disrespect ram as an older brother. SHe definitely feel something towards him but what any thoughts??

Also Meera taking her place in Ram's life is a very major issue to her. She just doesn't want Ram to think of any other person as his mother and in tonight's episode it was clear.

I rewatched the scene where Nandini and Shubum were talking yesterday…and I re/watched the last scene today where Ram and Nandini are talking in front of Priya on the hospital bed….

So I agree she has complete faith that Ram loves her n his two (step) siblings…and that was clear in her conversation with Shubum…

She is such a good actress…I really thought she cared about Ram when she saw Ram holding Priya’s hand…then the last thing she says is “I am doing this natak for Ram otherwise I would like to kick Priya out of my house right now”

so I see no hope in her changing…I hope I am wrong…

Interestingly…if she would change she would gain the most…a step son better than most real sons…and an amazing step daughter in law — better than most real daughter in laws…but NO…she would rather try to hurt the 2 people that care about others…

jiska koi nahin uska Khudha hota hai…

hopefully we can see RaYa shine and come closer despite all the villians…

Nandini will always be a part of Ram and Priya’s life she will never be called out or treated disrespectfully by Ram and Priya since she is the stepmom and in our culture no matter how a mom/stepmom is…she is treated with respect…I just cringe thinking how much more horrid disgraceful behavior we will have to endure from Vedika…and I guess I hope Ram can overcome all that…

in our culture we should not have to endure an EX !!

Originally posted by: SEA05

Your culture is beautiful with respect to mothers and other elders. But it makes me so angry when they openly use it.

What is striking is the logic of Nandini, how it does not reach her that if she is sincere, then the whole world will be given to her. And why does she prefer Vedika, who has a search for gold on her face, to Priya, who needs nothing but family and love. What's wrong with Nandu's head?!

We all are trying to understand the same🤣

The entire fandom doesn't understand what does nandini want🤣

But she is coming to reality slowly and she gave a good reality check to vedika today as well.

It was fun to watch how Nandini bought back vedika from cloud 9😌